When Old Wounds Meet New Love: Triggers, Tone, and Learning Each Other | Ep 7

In this episode of A Cup of Real, we open up about something almost every couple deals with but rarely talks about honestly; triggers.
What happens when past trauma sneaks into a healthy relationship?
How do you tell the difference between real danger and old memories replaying themselves?
And what do you do when the person you love has a completely different communication style than what you’re used to?

Stephenie shares how the wounds from a past abusive marriage followed her into the early years of their relationship, especially when it came to raised voices, tone, and feeling safe. Asbel opens up about growing up in a loud, passionate Puerto Rican family, and how his natural intensity sometimes collided with her history.

Together, we talk about:

• How past trauma shows up in present relationships

• Why tone matters more than we think

• Cultural differences in communication

• Learning not to shrink back, and not to overpower

• The journey from triggers to understanding

• How humor, self-awareness, and counseling changed everything

If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do… or why the person you love communicates the way they do… this one’s for you.

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