The Truth About Forgiveness: What We Carry Without Realizing | Ep 9
Release Date: 12/08/2025
When God Closes Doors: Learning to Trust His Redirection | Ep 14
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In this episode of A Cup of Real, we talk about what it really means to trust God when doors close, especially the doors you prayed for, prepared for, and believed would open. How do you know when a closed door is rejection… or when it’s actually God’s redirection? What do you do when your plans don’t align with His timing? And how do you release control when the waiting feels uncomfortable? We share personal stories of doors that looked perfect, opportunities that felt flattering, and moments where God gently, but clearly, said no to protect us. From anxiety-filled nights to...
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Is It God or a Distraction? How to Know the Difference | Ep 13
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In this episode, we talk about one of the most important questions believers wrestle with: how to discern whether something is truly sent from God or simply a distraction pulling us off course. God is not the author of confusion. When He speaks, there is clarity, conviction, and peace, even when obedience is difficult. Distractions, on the other hand, often feel loud, urgent, and anxiety-driven. They pressure us to act without prayer, without patience, and without grounding in God’s Word. In Episode 13, we break down: How to recognize the difference between conviction and confusion Why...
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How Intention and Discipline Can Change Your Life This Year | Ep 12
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What if real change doesn’t come from setting better goals, but from setting better standards? In this episode of A Cup of Real, we have an honest conversation about intention, discipline, and the daily choices that quietly shape our lives. We talk about why motivation fades, why goals alone often fall short, and how lasting growth is built through consistency, accountability, and spiritual awareness. This episode explores: The difference between goals and standards Why discipline matters more than motivation How intention shapes the direction of your life What you allow to influence...
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Should You Go Where You’re Celebrated? | Ep. 11
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We hear it everywhere: “Go where you’re celebrated, not tolerated.” But is that actually biblical? In this episode of A Cup of Real, we unpack this popular phrase and ask a harder question: What if God places you somewhere you’re not celebrated on purpose? Jesus wasn’t celebrated by religious leaders. Joseph wasn’t celebrated in prison. David wasn’t celebrated in the valley. So what does it mean when there’s no applause in the room, but there is a purpose? We talk about pride, boundaries, toxic environments, discernment, and how to tell the difference between a door God is...
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The Truth About Moving On: Why Letting Go Is So Hard | Ep 10
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Have you really moved on, or did you just change locations? In this episode of A Cup of Real, we talk honestly about what it actually means to move on and let go. So often, we leave a relationship, a job, a church, or a season of life believing we’ve moved forward, only to realize the pain, patterns, and wounds followed us. Moving on isn’t physical. It’s emotional. And healing starts at the roots. We unpack why forgiveness isn’t the same as forgetting, how unhealed wounds shape our words and reactions, and why God often asks us to do the internal work before stepping into something...
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The Truth About Forgiveness: What We Carry Without Realizing | Ep 9
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In today’s episode of A Cup of Real, we’re talking about something that touches every one of us, forgiveness. Not the pretty version… the real kind. The kind that forces you to look at your heart and ask: “Can I still love them? Can I still be kind? Why does that twinge still show up?” Forgiveness isn’t about pretending what happened wasn’t wrong. It’s not about excusing their behavior or ignoring your pain. It’s about releasing the weight that’s been holding you back from your next season. In this episode, we dive into: ✨ What forgiveness actually is, and what it isn’t...
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The Truth About Gratitude: What We Forget on Thanksgiving | Ep 8
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In this Thanksgiving-week episode, we’re talking about gratitude in a real way, not the surface-level stuff but the kind that actually shifts how you see your life. Thankfulness isn’t about pretending everything’s perfect. It’s about choosing to notice what is good, even when your situation isn’t easy. From relationships to everyday moments we overlook, this episode breaks down how powerful gratitude really is when you practice it intentionally. If you need a reminder to slow down, be present, and actually appreciate what’s in front of you, this one’s for you. New episodes every...
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When Old Wounds Meet New Love: Triggers, Tone, and Learning Each Other | Ep 7
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In this episode of A Cup of Real, we open up about something almost every couple deals with but rarely talks about honestly; triggers. What happens when past trauma sneaks into a healthy relationship? How do you tell the difference between real danger and old memories replaying themselves? And what do you do when the person you love has a completely different communication style than what you’re used to? Stephenie shares how the wounds from a past abusive marriage followed her into the early years of their relationship, especially when it came to raised voices, tone, and feeling safe. Asbel...
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How Prayer Carried Our Marriage Through Its Darkest Valley | Ep 6
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In this powerful and honest episode, Asbel and Stephenie open up about one of the hardest seasons of their marriage. A season full of pressure, misunderstanding, emotional burnout, and silent wounds that could have pulled them apart. Instead, prayer became the lifeline that held them together when everything else felt heavy. They dive into the real struggles couples face behind the scenes: • what happens when leadership and expectations weigh on your relationship • how unspoken emotions turn into distance • loving each other through frustration, disappointment, and shutdowns • learning...
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I Tried to Fight God and Lost: My Journey from Trauma to Healing | Ep 5
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In this raw and powerful episode, Stephenie and Asbel open up about the struggles of pride, pain, and past trauma, and how surrendering to God became the turning point in their lives. From childhood abuse and suppressed anger to wrestling with ministry and faith, they explore the journey of healing, forgiveness, and transformation. What you’ll hear in this episode: 🌿 Facing childhood trauma and personal wounds 🧠 Breaking free from pride, victimhood, and self-sabotage 🙏 The power of prayer, surrender, and God’s grace 💞 Navigating relationships while growing and healing ✨...
info_outlineIn today’s episode of A Cup of Real, we’re talking about something that touches every one of us, forgiveness. Not the pretty version… the real kind. The kind that forces you to look at your heart and ask: “Can I still love them? Can I still be kind? Why does that twinge still show up?” Forgiveness isn’t about pretending what happened wasn’t wrong. It’s not about excusing their behavior or ignoring your pain. It’s about releasing the weight that’s been holding you back from your next season.
In this episode, we dive into: ✨ What forgiveness actually is, and what it isn’t ✨ How unforgiveness hides even in people who preach, lead, and serve ✨ Why you can be gifted and still secretly hurting ✨ The moment I realized I had unforgiveness in my heart ✨ How choosing to release it changed my life
Whether you’ve been struggling with old wounds, complicated relationships, or that little “twinge” when certain people walk into the room… this episode is for you. It’s honest. It’s challenging. And it just might be the thing that frees you. Grab your cup, let’s talk real.