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Episode 23 - David T.S. Wood - Conflict resolution is the goal of every conflict [PODCAST]

Amplified Network Marketing

Release Date: 05/20/2015

That’s because conflict itself is one of the most difficult things in life and we’d all love to see the conflicts in our lives truly resolved. Let’s be honest, conflict is one of the things in life that most of us would rather avoid - thus the well-known phrase “conflict avoidance.” Sadly, many of us do just that. We turn around and walk the other way instead of facing the conflict head-on.

 

In this episode David T.S. Wood has one goal: to equip you with a few tools that can make you more able to get to a resolution of the conflicts you face that is satisfactory and truly satisfying for everyone involved. The reason it’s so important to David is because his past was riddled with conflict and he’s seen the damage it can produce in relationships. The conflict resolutions skills he’s learned have enriched his life - and he wants to pass it on to you.

 

Every one of us has situations or relationships where conflict exists on a large or small scale. It’s part of life and part of the way relationships work. People will disagree, and not everyone is able to handle the disagreement in a healthy or constructive way; thus conflict occurs.

There are 5 main reasons that conflict occurs and why these very natural things make conflict resolution is so difficult:

 

  1. Differing values

  2. Making assumptions

  3. Differing expectations

  4. Differences in how people were brought up

  5. A lack of knowledge about how to achieve good resolution to conflicts

David’s way of pursuing conflict resolution

 

Much of how David deals with conflict is by following a maxim he’s learned: L.E.A.D.E.R.S resolve conflict - and each of the letters in the word “leader” is one of the points of action toward resolving conflict. Listen in to the episode to find out exactly what the acronym stands for and how you can implement it in your life to resolve the conflicts in your life.

 

An amplified life is a life that resolves conflict well. So do what you can to learn these principles, put them into practice, and watch the growth and joy increase. Conflict resolution matters to those who want to live and amplified life.

 

Get ready to Crank it Up!

Outline of this great episode

 

  • Why David believes conflict resolution to be a vital skill to learn.

  • David’s personal story about learning to deal with conflict in healthy ways.

  • The reality of conflict in everyone’s life, and why conflict resolution is so important.

  • 5 main causes of conflict and how to start the process of moving toward resolution.

  • How David has learned conflict resolution and the suggestions he has to help you.

  • How L.E.A.D.E.R.S. go about resolving conflict.

Links mentioned in this episode

 

http://www.ameaningfulexistence.com/2010/03/22/know-these-five-causes-of-conflict/

 

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/5-biggest-areas-conflict-couples

Songs used in this episode

 

Pride and Joy - Stevie Ray Vaughan

 

Johnny B. Good – Chuck Berry

 

Hook - Blues Traveler

 

Don’t Fear The Reaper - Blue Oyster Cult

 

What’s it Like - Everlast

Quotes David mentioned

 

Holding onto anger or hatred is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die.

 

The direct use of force is such a poor solution to any problem, it is generally employed only by small children and large nations. - David Friedman

 

You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist. - Indira Gandhi

 

First seek to understand, then seek to be understood. - Stephen Covey

 

Listening is about being able to be changed by the other person.

Agree to disagree, agreeably. - Stephen Covey

 

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. - Dale Carnegie

 

No pressure, no diamonds. - Mary Case

 

 

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