Letting Go as a Parent: It is a good thing we need to do (#115)
Heart Focused Parenting
In this episode, I talk about what letting go as a parent really means. If we understand what we are letting go of it changes everything. Letting go as a parent doesn’t begin when your child leaves home - it starts much earlier, in the everyday decisions you make as they grow. This post explores how to transition from directive parenting to becoming an influence in your child’s life. With practical examples and clear mindset shifts, you’ll learn how to prepare your teen and yourself as your kids grow towards being an adult. Letting go isn’t about losing connection or...
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What to do when your Child says “I’m Bored!” (#114)
Heart Focused Parenting
What to do when your child says, “I’m bored” When a child says they’re bored, it’s easy to respond quickly just to stop the complaining, but this episode invites you to pause and look deeper. I share why boredom is usually not a heart issue but a lack of skills, particularly around decision-making and using their time wisely. This matters because how we respond in these moments either shuts the problem down temporarily or helps our children grow into people who can think, choose, and act responsibly on their own. Heart-focused Parenting Action Step Pay attention to your instinctive...
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How to Help Kids Handle Sibling Conflict Before It Turns into a Fight (#113)
Heart Focused Parenting
Most sibling arguments don’t start with shouting, they begin with little moments of annoyance. In this episode, I talk about what I call “the Niggles,” those early signs that relationships between siblings are starting to unravel. I share how parents can notice these moments early and guide their children to pause, adjust their attitude, and take responsibility for their responses before conflict grows. Heart-Focused Parenting Action Step This week, pay attention to the early moments of irritation in your home and gently help your children notice them so they can adjust their...
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How to Strengthen Your Marriage According to the Bible (#112)
Heart Focused Parenting
In this episode, I reflect on Colossians 3:12–14 and how these verses shape the way we should relate to our spouse. Rather than focusing on romance or shared interests, we look at the daily habits of compassion, humility, patience, forgiveness, and love that actually strengthen a marriage over time. This matters for for our own sake but also as parents, because the health of our marriage forms the emotional and spiritual environment our children grow up in. Heart-focused Action Step - for your Marriage: Ask God to show you which attitude from Colossians 3 you need to “put on” in your...
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Verbal Reminders are a Simple way to Correct your Child (#111)
Heart Focused Parenting
In this episode, I talk about a simple way to correct your child without overreacting or letting things slide. I explain how small, consistent verbal reminders act like course corrections, helping children adjust their behaviour before it becomes a habit. This matters because what we allow becomes normal in our homes, and small choices shape long-term character in our child’s life. In This Episode Why behaviours that seem to appear “suddenly” have usually developed gradually How what we accept becomes our child’s norm The difference between correction and punishment ...
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How to Teach Your Children a Daily Quiet Time with God (#110)
Heart Focused Parenting
How to Teach Your Children a Daily Quiet Time with God Teaching children to have a daily quiet time with God is about helping your child grow in their relationship with Jesus. In this episode Belinda shares how she moved from modeling a Quiet Time to teaching how to have a Devotional time - helping her kids respond to God when they were ready and interested in doing so. In this Episode: What a daily Quiet time is for - and what it isn’t How to model this aspect of being a Christian to your children How to recognise when your child is ready for personal...
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How I Had A Full Life As Well As Being A Full-Time Mum (#109)
Heart Focused Parenting
How can you have a life and be a full-time mum at the same time. Being a mum is important but it isn’t your only role nor does it completely define you. Belinda reflects on 6 things she taught her kids that ended up giving her time to do the other things that were important to her. Read the blog here: Extra Mention: How to teach your child anything - GROW as a Heart-Focused Parent: Join Each week you’ll receive practical insights and encouragement to disciple your children’s hearts, plus free access to my Resource Library...
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The Real Reason Kids Don't Listen And How To Fix It (#108)
Heart Focused Parenting
Sometimes we say all the right things as parents - yet nothing changes. Our kids tune out, we repeat ourselves, and then we get frustrated. This episode digs into why our words lose their influence and how a few simple steps of follow-through can bring real change to your family. Read the blog here: Grow as a Heart-Focused Parent: Join Each week you’ll receive practical insights and encouragement to disciple your children’s hearts, plus free access to my Resource Library with extra tools and printables. PRIVATE COACHING: Get one-to-one help with coaching - via...
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How to Prepare for Family Travel With These 4 Virtues (#107)
Heart Focused Parenting
In this episode of Heart-Focused Parenting, I share how family travel offers the perfect opportunity to grow character in our kids (and of course, ourselves as well!) Drawing from our recent trip to France, I started to think of four key virtues that make travelling with children easier: patience, flexibility, self-control, and responsibility. With practical examples and heart-focused ideas, I encourage parents to start teaching and practising these traits at home before the suitcases come out, helping kids respond wisely to new situations, changes, and challenges while keeping relationships...
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Christian Parents are you focused on Correction or Introducing Jesus? (#106)
Heart Focused Parenting
Parenting can so easily become all about behaviour. We hear ourselves all day saying things like - ‘Stop that, do this, don’t forget.’ But as Christian parents, we want our kids to know God personally, not just know the rules. So in this episode, I want to talk about how we can use those everyday moments when our kids need correction to disciple their hearts because we want our kids to know God’s love not just obey His rules. Read the blog here: Grow as a Heart-Focused Parent: Join Each week you’ll receive practical insights and encouragement to disciple your...
info_outline#80: We all know it – Being consistent is important as a parent. But we also know it is one of the biggest challenges we face – and it is one of the biggest guilts we deal with. But what does consistency look like? We tend to see it as being 100 percent the same – always; but, that can look like legalism or being authoritarian. Out of reaction, we swing the pendulum the other way – and find ourselves inconsistent! There has to be a balance, a middle road somewhere that makes consistency doable without the guilt of being human.
Blog: How to be Consistent without the Guilt
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