27 Months Without Mommy
Caregiving For Dementia
This is just an update of the family. 27 Months after losing Mommy!
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Life After Caregiving Part 2
Caregiving For Dementia
This Episode is a continuation of what went on after Mommy was picked up.
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Life After Care Giving
Caregiving For Dementia
This is the first of a few episodes that goes through what you may feel right immediately after your loved one passes away. There's not a whole lot of show notes of these episodes it's just me talking about what happened immediately after mommy's death. What I thought would happen that didn't and that kind of thing. I hope these few episodes help you get along for a few months immediately following your loved one's death.
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A Happy Thanksgiving Message
Caregiving For Dementia
This episode is a brief message to all those who are still downloading the podcast happy Thanksgiving to all
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Caregiving journey ended
Caregiving For Dementia
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The hardest talk a family can never have.
Caregiving For Dementia
Episode # 93 There comes a time in caregivers journey that they know time is very close to running out. We hear caregiving for dementia have realized that fact. The past five days Mama has not eat anything at all, the past four days Mama has not drank anything, and for the past three days Mama’s been very hard to wake up at all. When she is awake it’s about two minutes and she’s right back out. Mamas, breathing has also changed its no longer normal breathing. Doesn’t look the same, doesn’t sound the same as the normal breathing does Mama breeze through her mouth...
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Things we take for granted as Caregivers
Caregiving For Dementia
Episode #92 Show Notes There are so many things in life that normal people take for granted. This becomes more apparent the longer you take care of your loved one. There are things that I take for granted because there things that come natural to me that Mama can no longer do for herself. Mama can no longer wash her face, brush her hair, brush her teeth, or even talk. Mama tries so hard to talk to us and you can see the frustration in her face as she tries to say something and can’t. Mama tries to hold a cup of something to drink and because of her Parkinson’s she...
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Caregiving Mistakes,Regrets
Caregiving For Dementia
In your caregiving a lot of times you do things in the heat of the moment. After time goes by you wonder whether or not what you did was the right thing to do.
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Caregiving Mistakes/Regrets
Caregiving For Dementia
Episode #91 Show Notes In your caregiving a lot of times you do things in the heat of the moment. After time goes by you wonder whether or not what you did was the right thing to do. A lot of caregivers won’t tell you everything that they go through in their caregiving. I am one of those people who won’t tell you every little thing that goes on in in the house with the caregiving I am one that won’t tell you what Mama has done to us I won’t tell you what we’ve done to Mama. What I tried to do in this podcast is tell you what we do and what we don’t do because...
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Know It All Doctors
Caregiving For Dementia
While in your caregiving journey there will be a lot of things that happened that you don’t understand. I know when not when we first started there was a whole lot that went on that we didn’t understand there’s a whole lot that I haven’t gone into with this podcast that went on when Mama first got dementia. That’s one reason why I started this podcast
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This week’s episode of caregiving for dementia was inspired
by a Facebook group post someone said something about their siblings giving
them a hard time about caregiving for their loved one.
If you are the main caregiver for your loved one you are the
one that is dealing with the aftereffects of your siblings coming to visit. If
they are not around 24 seven 365 days a year like you are, if they are not
sharing in the caregiving you’ll need to be able to tell your siblings to kiss
your you know what, if they start trying to telling you what you need to do and
what you don’t need to do.
Mamma’s had six of us kids five of us are still living. Three
of the five have just up and disappeared. They don’t call, they don’t write,
and they definitely, definitely don’t come around to see mom. They have been
gone for 5 or 6 years and if they were to show up today I don’t know that I’d
would let them in the house. I’m not even sure I’d have a long drawn out conversation
with any of them.
Your siblings should have enough respect for you and for your
loved one that they would not argue too awful much about what you’re doing and
what you’re not doing. If your siblings don’t have enough respect for you or
your loved one then you need to be able to put them in their place. After all
you are the one that’s taking care of your loved one not them. The siblings
would have a hard time forcing you to do anything other than what you’re doing,
especially if you have a doctor’s letter saying that your loved one is
incompetent. So believe me and my siblings showed up and started trying to tell
me how to take care mom or how not to take care mom I would waste no time
putting them in their place and if need be waive the doctor’s letter at them
just let them know that the Dr. knows that she’s incompetent and that you know
that the Dr. knows.
When Mama divorced my stepfather the three siblings stayed
with their father instead of living with mom and I. Now I’m not really going to
whole lot of details here but they abandoned mom then.
When the siblings decided that they wanted to go to college
they knew where to go to get the help for college they knew that mom would help
them any way that she could. Mama helped all three of them through college one
she even helped with other bills and did without a lot of things and we didn’t
do a lot of things when it was just mom and I in my 20s because the three of
them were in school. They needed mom while they were in school. Now then that
Mama needs them, and they have all, once again up and disappeared.
Mama has two great grandkids that she’s never even laid eyes
on. Mama is now so far gone that even if you brought the kids around Mama
wouldn’t know them so Mama will never actually know those two great grandkids
because their mother is not around.
Before Mama got sick my sister would come down and see mom
and take mom shopping and whatever else they wanted to do but when they got
home,all Mama wanted to do in the evening was rest. When she wasn’t here
she would call every evening and talk to mom for at least an hour or so. But
since Mama has been diagnosed with this devastating disease of dementia none of
them are around. Mama