#38 Fighting Shame with Compassion Guest: Lennie Knowlton, CMHC
Release Date: 01/10/2019
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info_outlineBraxton Dutson sits down with Lennie Knowlton, CMHC to discuss shame and how it affects everybody. They explore what you don't know about how shame and trauma affect the body, how the body is made to respond, why your therapy may be working against your natural instincts and what you can do to start changing your shame cycle.
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Lennie speaks to these specific topics find them around around 5 minutes after the set timestamp.
00:04:35 NEUROBIOLOGY
00:07:27 TRAUMA MAKES OUR BRAINS UNWILLING TO BE VULNERABLE
00:12:28 DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHAME AND GUILT
00:33:47 THE IMORTANCE OF MINDFULNESS TO ADDRESS DISTRESS
00:35:21 PROTECTING CHILDREN FROM SHAME BY ADDRESSING PARENTAL SHAME.
00:41:20 CONNECTION IS THE ANTIDOTE TO SHAME
00:51:53 HOW DO WE EMPATHIZE WITH OURSELVES
01:00:34 EXCLUSION IS A SHAME TRIGGER "YOU'RE ENOUGH IF"
Resources from the show:
Find these on our website in the notes of this episode. We will have links to these resources.
Dan Siegel "Brain Storm" book
Yohan Hari
Brene Brown "The Daring Way" book
Kristin Neff (The Art of Self-Compassion)
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