Ep 75 The Real Reason Relationships Fail
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
Release Date: 07/01/2024
Ep 90 - Why the Betrayed Struggle Without Answers
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
Join me, Brad Robinson, LMFT as I dive into the complex emotions and challenges faced by betrayed partners in the aftermath of infidelity. In this episode, I explore why those who have been betrayed often struggle without answers and how the quest for truth is crucial for healing. Discover the common patterns and needs of betrayed partners, and learn why understanding the details of an affair is not about punishment but about restoring safety and rebuilding trust. Whether you're healing from broken trust or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights into the journey...
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Ep 89 - Why does my partner freeze, shut down, or say the wrong thing when I’m falling apart?
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
Why do they shut down when you’re falling apart? Why do they say the exact wrong thing when you need comfort the most? In this episode, we step inside the aftermath of infidelity and unpack a question many betrayed partners silently ask: Why does the person who hurt me seem incapable of showing up now? We explore the emotional paralysis that often overtakes the unfaithful partner — the freezing, defensiveness, and withdrawal that can feel like a second betrayal. You’ll hear what’s really happening beneath the surface: crushing shame, terror of losing everything, and guilt so...
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Ep 88 - Healing After Betrayal: Navigating the 10 Biggest Pain Points
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
In this episode, we delve into the profound challenges faced by partners who have been betrayed. Discover the ten most significant pain points that arise after infidelity, from feeling unsafe and grappling with trickle truths to dealing with intrusive thoughts and the loss of self-worth. We share insights and practical steps to help you navigate these emotional hurdles and find a path to healing. Whether you're struggling with anger, grief, or the loneliness that betrayal brings, this episode offers a roadmap to reclaiming your life and rebuilding trust. Join us as we explore the complexities...
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Ep 87 - Stuck After Infidelity? The Cycle That Blocks Trust Repair
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
In this episode we delve into the complexities of healing after betrayal. Discover how couples can break free from the negative cycles that hinder recovery and learn the importance of shifting from defensiveness to responsibility. We explore the dynamics of pursuers and distancers, the dangers of minimizing behaviors, and the critical role of interpretation in the healing process. Whether you're seeking to rebuild trust or understand the journey of affair recovery, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice to help you and your partner move forward. Tune in to learn how real...
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Ep 86 - When the Unfaithful Sees the Affair Partner In A Positive Light
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
In this episode of Healing Broken Trust, we tackle the complex issue of affair nostalgia, a significant emotional roadblock in the journey to reconciliation after infidelity. We explore the listener's question about dealing with a partner who still holds an affair in a positive light, making reconciliation challenging. The discussion delves into the emotional struggles of both the betrayed and the unfaithful, offering insights into the need for genuine remorse, the importance of feeling chosen, and strategies for dismantling the idealized view of an affair partner. Join us as we navigate the...
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Ep 85 - Why You Haven't Rebuilt Trust Yet
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
In this podcast, we break down a powerful research-based model for how trust gets rebuilt after it’s been broken—and why “just apologize” often isn’t enough. The research we reference explains trust repair as a two-way, back-and-forth process between the person who was hurt (the trustor) and the person who caused the damage (the trustee), where repair happens when efforts to prove trustworthiness outweigh the injured person’s need to protect themselves. You’ll learn the three questions people move through after a breach—Did you do it? (guilty vs. innocent), Why did it happen?...
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Ep 84: Why Isn’t the Unfaithful Sorry for their Affair? Why Can’t They Show Remorse?
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of apologies following intentional betrayal in relationships. Discover why apologies often fail after deliberate choices and learn what constitutes a healing apology. We explore the emotional disconnect between partners, the impact of guilt and anger, and the psychological needs driving reconciliation. Join us as we break down the needs-based model of reconciliation and offer practical advice for rebuilding trust and fostering genuine remorse. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of infidelity, or seeking to understand the...
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Ep 83 - Why Do We Remember the Details So Differently?
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
In this episode, Brad and Morgan Robinson delve into the complex dynamics of memory and betrayal in relationships. Discover why both partners remember infidelity differently and how these memory gaps can impact healing and reconciliation. Explore the roles of victim and perpetrator, and learn about the psychological and emotional processes that occur after trust is broken. With insights from historical truth commissions and personal anecdotes, this episode offers valuable perspectives on navigating the aftermath of betrayal. Whether you're seeking to understand your own experiences or support...
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Ep 82 - Handling Triggers As A Couple Especially During the Holidays
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
In this episode of "Healing Broken Trust," Brad and Morgan Robinson discuss the concept of "pre-assurance," a proactive approach to offering reassurance to a partner before they are triggered, especially during the holiday season. They explore how pre-assurance can help partners feel emotionally safe and valued, emphasizing the importance of understanding and discussing each other's triggers. The episode provides practical advice on offering pre-assurance in various situations, such as during holidays, social gatherings, before going out, and before physical intimacy. They also discuss the...
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Ep 81 - Surviving the Holidays 10 Strategies After Infidelity
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
Brad Robinson, LMFT delves into the complexities of supporting a betrayed spouse during the emotionally charged holiday season. Discover ten actionable strategies to help navigate the festive period with empathy and understanding. From initiating open conversations and creating new traditions to offering reassurance and protecting boundaries, this episode provides a comprehensive guide to turning negative cycles into positive ones. Whether you're dealing with emotional triggers or seeking to build a supportive environment, these tips aim to foster healing and connection. Join us as we explore...
info_outlineEvery couple I’ve encountered as a relationship therapist has been dealing with this specific issue, but they didn’t have a concept for it to describe or explain it. This episode will help you do that.
Before we jump into our episode I wanted to take a moment to speak to those of you who are looking for resources.
Some of you are in therapy or coaching and you’re finding:
- Your therapist is nice but the issue of betrayal or trauma isn’t being addressed.
- You run out of time in your sessions
- A lot happens in between sessions which can feel like progress is stunted.
- It takes way too long to get somewhere in therapy or coaching.
In fact, if the average couple needs around 15-30 sessions that works out to about 4-8 months if nothing big happens in between sessions. And then there are the individual needs that will often require more time.
That’s why we host monthly workshops. You can join us in person here in Tulsa, OK, or online via zoom from anywhere in the world, and you’ll even have access to a pre-recorded version as well as the master classes and small group meetings.
This workshop provides you with actionable steps you can take immediately to see huge changes in your relationship AND in how you feel.
It’s the jump start you need. We take what would be months of therapy or coaching, pull out the most useful and important parts, and deliver it to you in 2.5 days.
It is truly transformative.
But don’t take my word for it, at the end of this episode you will have the opportunity to hear from a couple who came to one of the workshops. You can also see some here>>>
These workshops allow you to get what you need without the frustration of lost time and resources.
They are private and no one has to share anything with the group to see results if you don’t want to. Although we find that many couples love that they can make new and supportive friends if they want to.
Check it out at healingbrokentrust.com
Also download "21 Things the Unfaithful Want to Tell You But Don't Know How to Say" Here>>>