Getting Out Without a Scorched Earth Divorce
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Joe Dillon, divorce mediator and co-founder of Equitable Mediation, discusses his background and the benefits of mediation over a litigated divorce. He contrasts the aggressive, financially draining nature of litigated divorces with the cost effective, cooperative approach of mediation, which he has practiced for over two decades. Joe emphasizes the importance of financial literacy and transparency, highlighting common issues like hidden debt and financial abuse. He mentions his online courses on divorce mediation, which aim to educate clients on divorce preperation,...
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Going Solo: Survivor Founds New Resource to Support DV Organizations
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Joy Ingram, CEO and Founder of Love & Joy, discusses her journey from Georgia to Virginia, where she began advocacy work for domestic violence survivors. She highlights her roles at New Directions and RAFT, emphasizing the importance of supporting advocates to prevent burnout. Joy also shares her personal experience as a survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault, which fueled her passion for advocacy. She notes that over 60% of advocates in the field of domestic abuse are survivors themselves and need consistent self-care and systematic changes within non-profit...
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Legal Eagle Becomes a Champion Advocate for Survivors of Domestic Abuse
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Maisha Colter, CEO of AVDA in Texas, discusses her extensive background in social work and law, emphasizing her transition from social work to law to better advocate for vulnerable populations, particularly children and women. AVDA provides legal services for thousands every year, focusing on family court cases and economic abuse. Maisha highlights the organizations BIPP program, which educates abusers on gender roles and communication, and its annual interfaith workshop to train faith leaders on supporting domestic violence survivors. AVDA also conducts various community...
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Harnessing Technology to Accelerate Access to Civil Legal Protection for Survivors
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Rosie Watson discusses her work as Head of External Relations with the Domestic Abuse Alliance in the United Kingdom, focusing on reducing the time victims receive legal support from weeks to hours using the WEPROTECT app. She highlights the recent United Kingdom law change recognizing coercive control as a criminal offense, now managed under multi-agency public protection arrangements. Rosie emphasizes the hidden nature of domestic abuse, particularly financial abuse, and the importance of employer support. The organization also provides interpretation and translation...
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From Survivor to Advocate: Windi's Story
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Windi, survivor and advocate from California, shares her journey of abuse and recovery. She details her childhood, meeting her abusive partner after the tragic end to a previous engagement and the challenges of her marriage with a partner suffering from untreated PTSD and financial instability. Windi highlights her efforts to protect and educate her children about domestic abuse, as well as her advocacy work in preventing gun violence. Windi describes her passion for being an advocate for gun violence prevention after her own personal tragedy. KEY...
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Hope & Healing Through Support and Accountability
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Sophora Acheson, Executive Director and Co-Board President of Ruby's Place, discusses her journey from Grass Valley, Califorinia, to Santa Rosa and developing a passion for helping survivors of domestic violence. She shares her personal history of abuse and her career path, which led her to pioneer a program to reduce perpetrator violence called R.A.F.T. (Restorative Action for Family Transformation). R.A.F.T. aims to address the root causes of domestic violence by providing accountability and trauma-informed care for abusers, while insuring survivors receive necessary...
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Serving Canada's Survivors Through Reconciliation and Collaboration
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
The Manitoba Association of Women's Shelters (MAWS) is a non-profit organization in Manitoba, Canada, dedicated to supporting survivors of gender-based violence through education, training and community collaboration. Today, Amber Merucci, Project Specialist; Tsungai Muvingi, Provincial Coodinator and Maria Paz, Communication Specialist at MAWS, discuss their roles and the organization's rich history. They emphasize MAW'S unique focus on provincial shelters and its committment to cultural humility and reconcilliation with indigenous communities. Amber, Maria and Tsungai each...
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Escaping the Gilded Cage: Sue's Story
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Sue, a court stenographer from Bayshore, New York, shares her harrowing experiences with financial and emotional abuse in her two marriages. She details her first husband's lies and instability, leading to a short-lived marriage and his eventual death. Her second husband, a successful financier with a beautiful mansion in Connecticut, was abusive, controlling her finances and eventually leading them both to an economic disaster. Sue's life changed after volunteering for ECLIVES, where she now serves as a vice president and rape crisis counselor. Sue emphasizes the...
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Rising Beyond Your Abusive Partnership
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Sybil Cummin, a licensed professional play therapist from Colorado, founded the Rising Beyond Power & Control podcast and resource website to address the gaps in support for survivors of abuse, particularly those with children. She emphasizes the concept of post-separation abuse, where abuse continues after leaving an abusive partnership. Sybil's community, designed for women, offers safety, privacy and support through live events, workshops and a private forum. She advises survivors to create safety plans, gather documentation and seek support from safe...
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Together Strong! Bringing New Hope for Survivors of Domestic Violence
Speaking Out on Financial Abuse
Julia Foos, a Community Education Coordinator from the North Shore suburbs of Chicago, discusses her role at Sarah's Inn, an organization dedicated to helping domestic violence survivors. Julia, who has a background in social work and gender studies, joined Sarah's Inn after discovering their podcast during COVID. She highlights Sarah's Inn's comprehensive services, including crisis lines, counseling, legal aid and the PAIP program which helps perpetrators of domestic violence unlearn toxic behaviors. Julia emphasizes the importance of addressing both survivors and...
info_outlineWindi, survivor and advocate from California, shares her journey of abuse and recovery. She details her childhood, meeting her abusive partner after the tragic end to a previous engagement and the challenges of her marriage with a partner suffering from untreated PTSD and financial instability. Windi highlights her efforts to protect and educate her children about domestic abuse, as well as her advocacy work in preventing gun violence. Windi describes her passion for being an advocate for gun violence prevention after her own personal tragedy.
KEY HIGHLIGHTS:
- Windi shares her background, mentioning she was born in Los Angeles and raised in San Bernadino County, California.
- Windi describes her childhood as typical middle class with both parents working multiple jobs.
- Windi meets her future husband while both are driving on the freeway, where they exchange numbers and begin dating.
- She describes her partner's family and backgroud, that he was spoiled and not financially very responsbile.
- Windi details how her future husband told her he has no children and hopes to become married and a father soon.
- Windi describes their early marriage and birth of their two children, including her husband's PTSD related financial and mental instabilities.
- Windi talks about her unsuccessful attempts to get help for her husband through the Veterans medical system.
- As her husband continues to decline, Windi discovers he has a child, born during their marriage to another woman and now serving child support papers and freezing their bank accounts and assets.
- Windi discovers her husband is not providing support or even contacts a child he has hidden from her during their marriage.
- Windi talks about choosing to go into a domestic violence shelter to leave her marriage with her children, and how the DV resources helped her during crisis.
- Windi advises DV survivors about making a plan to escape an abusive partnership and going back to school once you are out of an abusive relationship.
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Windi with CA Rep. Mike Thompson and other advocates testifying on gun violence prevention.
