Calmly Coping
You know you need a boundary. You also know that the second you set it, you'll be bracing for someone's disappointment. This one is for you if you put your own needs last and avoid conflict at all costs. I walk through how to figure out which boundary you actually need, the seven types of boundaries I come across most in my work with clients, and what to do when setting one feels too hard to follow through on. In this episode, you'll learn: 👉 The 3 questions that tell you which boundary you actually need right now 👉 The type of boundary almost nobody talks about, and why it changes...
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Fear is meant to protect you, but it can also hold you back from living the life you truly want, and working towards the goals that matter to you. ✨ QUIZ: Do you have high-functioning anxiety: In this episode, I will walk you through the simple 5 step process to dig down deep to the root of your fears, empower yourself to move past them, and take intentional action to crush them. Grab a notebook or the notes app on your phone, because this one works best if you follow along and do it with me. In this episode, you'll learn: 👉 How to identify and name the specific fears that...
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Use this nervous system reset to move out of overdrive and into a state of calm. Follow along to regulate your body and feel grounded. If this helped you settle, follow Calmly Coping wherever you're listening so you don't miss the next one. You can't think your way into feeling calm. Your body has to actually experience it, and experience it often enough to learn that it's allowed to relax. This is a short guided reset for high achievers whose bodies have been stuck in overdrive for too long, and it works best when you come back to it regularly. In this episode, you'll learn: 👉 The...
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There's a point where pushing harder stops improving your performance and starts degrading it. If you've hit that wall and caught yourself wondering what's wrong with you, this episode is about what's actually going on. 🎓 FREE TRAINING: How to overcome high-functioning anxiety (on-demand, watch anytime): There’s this belief that if you are just disciplined enough, if you keep pushing harder and doing more… then you will accomplish your goals and improve your performance. But what if that’s not true? What if you are pushing harder and your performance starts to degrade? Or you...
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You hit one goal, and before you can even feel it, you're already onto the next one: being more productive, more efficient, more successful, constant improvement, and seeking perpetual growth… But have you ever stopped to ask what all that growth is actually for? If the goalpost keeps moving no matter what you accomplish, this one is for you. 🎓 FREE TRAINING: How to overcome high-functioning anxiety (on-demand, watch anytime): Growth gets treated as an automatic good, so we rarely stop to question it. In this episode, I unpack the difference between healthy ambition and the...
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You're the reliable one, the one who's always five steps ahead and seems to have it all together. But what if those strengths are secretly costing you? 🎓 FREE TRAINING: How to overcome high-functioning anxiety (on-demand, watch anytime): In this episode, you'll learn: 👉 Why your most praised strengths might be quietly costing you 👉 How to tell the difference between genuine drive and anxiety in disguise 👉 How to keep the strengths you value while changing what's fueling them ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 The Reliable One Trap 01:26 High Achiever Burnout Signs 02:18...
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If certain times of the month leave you anxious, unmotivated, and questioning yourself, it might not just be PMS. In this episode, I'm breaking down what premenstrual disorders like PMDD and PME actually are, why they're so often misunderstood, and why high achievers tend to be hit especially hard. As part of Podcasthon 2026, I'm spotlighting the International Association for Premenstrual Disorders (IAPMD) and sharing free resources that can help you or someone you love start getting real support. In this episode, you'll learn: What PMDD and PME are and how they differ from typical PMS...
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If you keep putting something off and can't figure out why, it might not be laziness or lack of discipline. It might be your subconscious trying to tell you something. In this episode, I break down what's really driving procrastination beneath the surface, and walk you through how to use it as a signal to understand yourself better and finally get unstuck. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why procrastination is often a signal from your subconscious, not just laziness or poor discipline How I used my own procrastination patterns to uncover a deeper belief that was keeping me stuck A three-step...
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Have you ever been so stressed, so stretched thin, so completely running on fumes... that when someone suggested you try something to feel better, your immediate reaction was "I don't have time for that?" Maybe it was a friend suggesting therapy. A coach recommending a program. A podcast episode telling you to slow down. And instead of feeling relieved, you felt almost annoyed—because who has time to work on their stress when they're already drowning in it? If that's you, then this episode is for you. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why overwhelm doesn’t just affect your schedule—it...
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In this episode, I’m sharing honestly about how I realized I was nearing burnout—and the step-by-step shifts I’m making to reduce pressure, regulate my nervous system, and create more grounded clarity in my life and business. Instead of chasing numbers or productivity goals, I’m working backwards from how I want to feel: calm, present, and regulated. If you’ve been pushing hard and feeling the weight of your own expectations, this conversation is for you. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why burnout isn’t just about doing too much, it’s about mental load and divided focus How...
info_outlineIncreasingly more and more people are chatting with AI to help them talk through and manage mental health struggles. But is this okay? Does it actually help? And on the flip side — does it pose any dangers to your mental health? In this episode, I’m diving deep into whether or not using ChatGPT, or any AI bot, for therapy is a wise choice, along with the potential consequences.
In this episode, you will learn:
- The risks of using AI for therapy
- The differences between chatting with AI and going to therapy
- Future considerations to use AI for mental health
*** Correction: In this episode, I mention “a teen who killed his mother,” but the case involved an adult, not a teen.
Sources:
- Talk Therapy, Meet ChatGPT: https://research.ebsco.com/c/5x2dc3/viewer/html/q342kfukw5
- Gen Z is increasingly turning to ChatGPT for affordable on-demand therapy, but licensed therapists say there are dangers many aren't considering: https://research.ebsco.com/c/5x2dc3/viewer/html/gatwdcpoon
- AI chatbots are sycophants — researchers say it’s harming science: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-025-03390-0
Mentioned in episode:
- The Shallows by Nicholas Carr: https://www.nicholascarr.com/?page_id=16
- Smartphone Anxiety Is Real — Here’s What Helped Me: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/phone-boundaries/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/xnkSGAk2ufo
Therapy Directories:
- Open Path Collective – Low-cost therapy directory: https://openpathcollective.org
- Psychology Today Therapist Directory – https://psychologytoday.com
- TherapyDen – Inclusive therapist directory: https://therapyden.com
- Inclusive Therapists – Focused on cultural responsiveness + trauma-informed care: https://inclusivetherapists.com
- Mental Health Match – Matches you with therapists in your area: https://mentalhealthmatch.com
- Clinicians of Color Directory – https://www.cliniciansofcolor.org
- National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color Network (NQTTCN) – https://nqttcn.com
- OpenCounseling – Low-cost and community-based counseling resources: https://opencounseling.com
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Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within.
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👩🏽💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance. Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me
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My favorite tools:
🧘🏽♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd
✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081
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Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead
Disclaimer
All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.
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