Calmly Coping
In this episode, I’m sharing honestly about how I realized I was nearing burnout—and the step-by-step shifts I’m making to reduce pressure, regulate my nervous system, and create more grounded clarity in my life and business. Instead of chasing numbers or productivity goals, I’m working backwards from how I want to feel: calm, present, and regulated. If you’ve been pushing hard and feeling the weight of your own expectations, this conversation is for you. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why burnout isn’t just about doing too much, it’s about mental load and divided focus How...
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If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much you do for your family, it’s still not enough, this episode is for you. Dr. Allison Alford, who holds a PhD in Communication Studies with a concentration in Interpersonal Communication from The University of Texas at Austin, is here to name the invisible labor so many daughters carry, and help us explore how to untangle our worth from sacrifice and reclaim what healthy daughtering can look like. In this episode, you’ll learn: The four types of daughtering work: doing, feeling, thinking, and being Why emotional labor with family can quietly...
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If the idea of being ‘carefree’ feels uncomfortable or even unsafe, like it means not caring, dropping the ball, or letting everything fall apart—this episode is for you. We’re going to talk about what being carefree actually means, why so many high-achieving people rely on pressure to stay afloat, and what starts to change when you stop white-knuckling your way through life. In this episode, you will learn: Why pressure often feels necessary, even when it’s exhausting What being carefree actually looks like for driven, responsible people How life begins to feel when you let go of...
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High-pressure environments don’t just demand more of your time, they demand more of you. And when the pressure is constant, it’s easy to start living in survival mode… pushing through, tightening your grip, and telling yourself you just need to be tougher. In this episode, we’re looking at what actually helps you stay calm in high-pressure environments, so you can stay grounded, think clearly, and protect your energy without burning out. In this episode, you will learn: What it actually means to stay calm in high-pressure environments How to reduce internal pressure without avoiding...
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If you’ve ever felt like your to-do list keeps growing even when no one is actually asking anything of you… like everything somehow turns into a demand the moment it enters your awareness, this episode is for you. We’re going to talk about something called demand sensitivity: why pressure can feel so intense and how to start shifting out of ‘should mode’ so your life feels lighter and more intentional. In this episode, you will learn: What demand sensitivity is and why pressure feels so intense How “should mode” creates overwhelm, guilt, and resistance How to start shifting your...
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If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much you get done, you’re still somehow behind—behind in your work, behind in your life, behind where you think you should be—this episode is for you. We’re going to look at why that “never enough” feeling shows up, how patterns like over-responsibility early in life, conditional validation, and fear-based survival wire us into always pushing and never quite feeling caught up, and how simply understanding this can start to soften the cycle you’ve been stuck in. In this episode, you will learn: Why the feeling of being “behind”...
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If you’re feeling exhausted but still pushing through, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Marina Wright, functional nutrition practitioner and author of The Cortisol Reset Plan, to explore what your stress symptoms are really trying to tell you. We talk about how chronic stress affects the body and brain, why cortisol isn’t the enemy, and how small, compassionate shifts in nutrition, lifestyle, and nervous system regulation can help you rebuild resilience from the inside out. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why stress isn’t always bad, and how resilience depends on...
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If you’re constantly pushing yourself to do more but still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or exhausted, this episode is for you. I’m sharing why your nervous system—not your productivity—is the real foundation for feeling calm, balanced, and confident. You’ll learn how chronic stress keeps your body stuck in survival mode and three practical, realistic ways to regulate your nervous system, even if your life feels busy or out of control. In this episode, you will learn: Why focusing only on goals and productivity can keep you stuck in survival mode Three practical ways to regulate...
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As we end the year, this is a brief discussion on the mindset shift of giving yourself permission to pause, rest, and recharge, along with a quick podcast update! 💌 Subscribe to the Calmly Coping Newsletter: Email me your podcast episode suggestions to: ✨ What would you love to hear about on the podcast in 2026? 1. Why you always feel behind and how to break that cycle 2. How to stop white-knuckling through life and ease constant pressure 3. Fear of being disappointed and how it keeps you playing small 4. The high-achiever trap: do well → get more...
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Metrics and “self-tracking” could be making you miserable. In recent years we have seen the rise of tracking metrics such as sleep, mood, habits, steps, water intake, and so much more, along with the pursuit of maintaining streaks, closing your rings, and other ways of gamifying health and wellness habits. However, if you struggle with perfectionism or are a high achiever, these forms of improving your physical and mental health could be causing you more pressure, guilt, and self-criticism than you realize. In this episode, I’ll be diving into why, along with how you can use digital...
info_outlineIncreasingly more and more people are chatting with AI to help them talk through and manage mental health struggles. But is this okay? Does it actually help? And on the flip side — does it pose any dangers to your mental health? In this episode, I’m diving deep into whether or not using ChatGPT, or any AI bot, for therapy is a wise choice, along with the potential consequences.
In this episode, you will learn:
- The risks of using AI for therapy
- The differences between chatting with AI and going to therapy
- Future considerations to use AI for mental health
*** Correction: In this episode, I mention “a teen who killed his mother,” but the case involved an adult, not a teen.
Sources:
- Talk Therapy, Meet ChatGPT: https://research.ebsco.com/c/5x2dc3/viewer/html/q342kfukw5
- Gen Z is increasingly turning to ChatGPT for affordable on-demand therapy, but licensed therapists say there are dangers many aren't considering: https://research.ebsco.com/c/5x2dc3/viewer/html/gatwdcpoon
- AI chatbots are sycophants — researchers say it’s harming science: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-025-03390-0
Mentioned in episode:
- The Shallows by Nicholas Carr: https://www.nicholascarr.com/?page_id=16
- Smartphone Anxiety Is Real — Here’s What Helped Me: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/phone-boundaries/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/xnkSGAk2ufo
Therapy Directories:
- Open Path Collective – Low-cost therapy directory: https://openpathcollective.org
- Psychology Today Therapist Directory – https://psychologytoday.com
- TherapyDen – Inclusive therapist directory: https://therapyden.com
- Inclusive Therapists – Focused on cultural responsiveness + trauma-informed care: https://inclusivetherapists.com
- Mental Health Match – Matches you with therapists in your area: https://mentalhealthmatch.com
- Clinicians of Color Directory – https://www.cliniciansofcolor.org
- National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color Network (NQTTCN) – https://nqttcn.com
- OpenCounseling – Low-cost and community-based counseling resources: https://opencounseling.com
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Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within.
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My favorite tools:
🧘🏽♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd
✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081
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Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead
Disclaimer
All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.
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