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#188: The difference between membership and genuine belonging

Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

Release Date: 11/15/2021

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Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

I believe that ​​our education systems and how our society is structured traps us. We are taught to fit within a mold so that we are ‘employable’ and can hopefully find a job that allows us enough pay to live comfortably and gives us a few weeks off a year. ⁣   ⁣ Yet inflation is skyrocketing, the cost of living is outrageous and people feel disconnected from things that genuinely make them come alive. ⁣ ⁣ We need change. ⁣   I know for many of you reading this, you feel that way too as entrepreneurship is about taking a step away from all of that.  ⁣ For...

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Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

Have you ever found yourself anxiously anticipating something? Maybe it’s small like a task you need to complete or maybe it’s a large goal that requires you to push big-time out of your comfort zone. No matter the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, anxiety, fear, doubt, all exist primarily in the anticipation of something- not the act of it. Why is that? It’s mostly because when we’re in the act of doing something we’re present and in action mode - which leaves little cognitive space for fear and anxiety to show up. This means that when we’re doing hard things...

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Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

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Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

I believe that ​​our education systems and how our society is structured traps us. We are taught to fit within a mold so that we are ‘employable’ and can hopefully find a job that allows us enough pay to live comfortably and gives us a few weeks off a year. ⁣   ⁣ Yet inflation is skyrocketing, the cost of living is outrageous and people feel disconnected from things that genuinely make them come alive. ⁣ ⁣ We need change. ⁣   I know for many of you reading this, you feel that way too as entrepreneurship is about taking a step away from all of that.  ⁣ For...

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I am getting a lot of people in my dms saying they are very interested in learning more about web3 - blockchain - nfts - crypto, but have no idea where to start.  They are telling me they grasp that there is potential in this emerging space but truly do not understand most of it.  If you fall into this category, that is totally okay and let me tell you why. You do not need to understand on a fundamental level how this technology works, you only need to know how to use it.  Most of you are probably reading this email on your phone. If you listen to my podcast or follow me online,...

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Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

  A few weeks ago IG announced it was beta testing integrating NFTs onto its platform and so far things are going well.  Youtube, Meta (aka facebook), Amazon, Shopify, Stripe and other content hosting platforms and commerce based businesses now officially all have web3 teams who are using, building, and integrating blockchain technology.    What the heck does this mean?!   It means that many of the platforms, applications and tools we use in our businesses are taking web3 seriously - which means that we should too.    This doesn’t mean drop everything and...

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Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

It is very common for us to view ourselves as 3 separate people. There is our past self, our current self, and our future self. The reality though is there is only one us.    This isn’t to say we stay the same, we know we are constantly changing. What I mean though, is that without changing something today, nothing will change in the future - except that time itself has passed.    Sometimes by thinking our future self will somehow be more equipped, more motivated, more responsible than our current, self tricks us into forgetting who we are right now has to make the shifts...

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Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

Many of us can feel as though we’re in a race to reach ‘the finish line’ in our business and lives. We look to those around us to determine if we’re ahead or behind and this can create a sense of urgency. The reality is that we aren’t actually in a race, we will most likely never feel like we ‘crossed the finish line’ and we aren’t competing with anyone either.    When this feeling is used in a healthy way to motivate us it can be motivating, however many of us use it to stress ourselves out.    There are so many different ways to build out and get to where...

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It is human nature to want to belong, but when does our desire to fit in come at an expense that might be too high for us to pay?

 

Often fitting in is a lot more about membership - checking off certain criteria that creates exclusivity over genuine belonging. 

 

However we want to take time to understand the difference between the two, because genuinely belonging is what we desire, and membership doesn’t give us that. Yet we often think that membership = belonging and therefore we’re willing to give up parts of ourselves in order to fit in. 

 

Lately we’ve been talking a lot about goals, values, creating lives for ourselves that are actually what we desire and we can’t do those things unless we address what can sometimes get in the way. 

 

Membership is the notion that in order to fit into a certain group dynamic, place or organization, you need to follow certain rules. If you have a family dynamic that loves drama, you’re expected to partake in the cycle of drama, otherwise ‘you don’t fit in’. Maybe you need to be an academic, or have a certain kind of career, or be married with kids, to fit into another group. You might need to have certain political views, or socially conscious views in order to ‘belong’. The idea is that all of these require you to fit into some kind of box, in order to maintain your ‘membership’. 

 

What happens though if you don’t fit? That can often lead us to feeling as though we don’t belong, but that isn’t the case at all. 

 

We all belong, and we need to restructure how we view belonging vs membership in order to make choices and decisions for ourselves that are in alignment with what we desire. Not what others require from us. 

 

We dive more into this topic in this week's podcast episode if this topic resonates. You can listen here. 

 

Remember that you no matter what, you do belong and if you’re looking for a community to feel safe in, check out The Lighthouse Collective. We’re currently open for enrollment and while it is a membership community, everyone is welcome and belongs. 

 

Keep being awesome my friend and I’ll chat with you next week!

 

Chat soon,

Lana

 

If you enjoy these conversations, check out The Lighthouse Collective. It’s a community for socially and spiritually conscious entrepreneurs building a better world together. We talk about topics like this in even more interactive and supportive ways.

 

If you are interested in working 1-on-1 with me to help grow your business, I would love to connect with you on a free coaching call here. Learn more about my coaching services here