212: Implicit Psychotherapy and Couples with Dr. Abi Blakeslee
Release Date: 05/28/2024
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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Abi Blakeslee about implicit psychotherapy and couples. Abi is the founder of Implicit Psychotherapy and senior faculty at Somatic Experiencing International. Hear how to help people find deeper healing, how implicit memory works, how somatic experiencing fits with implicit memories, how childhood trauma impacts relationships years later, and how small changes can make a big impact over time.
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You can also listen to Abi on Episode 169 of The Couples Therapist Couch