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243: Commitment in Couples Therapy with Shane Birkel

The Couples Therapist Couch

Release Date: 05/19/2025

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The Couples Therapist Couch

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In this solo episode, Shane explores commitment in couples therapy. Hear how to help couples on the brink of divorce, the challenges of discernment counseling, what to do when one partner is leaning out, why you should talk goals & expectations from the beginning, and how to get some level of commitment from a client.