026: Experiencing Narcissism, Contemplating a Change, & Being the Grey Rock
Release Date: 09/05/2024
038: A Company Holiday Party, of Sorts - Reflecting on 2024 and Embracing Change for 2025
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In this special "Holiday Party" episode of the Buckets of Change podcast, Linda and I celebrate our achievements and challenges throughout 2024, with a drink in hand, while setting our sights on goals for the upcoming year. Reflecting on a year of professional growth and personal insights, we share our experiences and aspirations, offering valuable lessons on managing change effectively. We discuss the nuances of our entrepreneurial journeys, focusing on the themes of building confidence, embracing the unknown, and leveraging past experiences as evidence of growth. With an eye towards 2025, we...
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037: Calculating Our Risks to Change With the Opportunities We're Given
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In this 37th episode of the Buckets of Change Podcast, we delve into the intricate idea of risk-taking, both personally and professionally. We're excited to provide bold insights and share our personal stories that illustrate how embracing risks can unlock extraordinary growth opportunities. We present essential lessons on mastering fear and uncertainty in our constantly changing environments. I recount my journey from a successful HR career to entrepreneurship back in 2019, demonstrating how taking calculated risks has been crucial for my personal and professional transformation. My candid...
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036: Navigating Grief and Connection During Life's Transitions
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In this 36th episode of the Buckets of Change podcast, after a week off, Linda and I return to discuss confronting change, loss, and life's unexpected turns. I share my approaching 50th year, reflecting on time and growth. We focus on grief and the impact of losing loved ones, as Linda talks about visiting her terminally ill uncle. This leads to discussing how personal transition can empower change amidst adversity. Linda's openness about family and loss offers insights into mortality and legacies. Together, we explore how memories shape perceptions and the importance of cherishing time...
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035: Exploring Our Holiday Traditions and the Changes They Require
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In Episode 35 of our Buckets of Change podcast, Linda and I dive into the subject of traditions, especially around the holiday season. We focus on the dynamics of establishing and modifying holiday customs. As Thanksgiving approaches, I find myself reflecting on my personal experiences with family traditions and how they've evolved over time. Throughout the episode, we emphasize the significance of fluidity in traditions, encouraging our audience to embrace changes that better align with their lifestyles and perspectives. There's immense joy and fulfillment in creating one's own traditions,...
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034: Life's Inevitable Changes with Generational Shifts
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In this 34th episode of the Buckets of Change podcast, hosts Nick Goblirsch and Linda Payne delve into the often challenging yet ever-present topic of generational evolution. This episode explores how different generations cope with inevitable life transitions, from the perspective of both personal experiences and broader societal changes. As Nick and Linda examine their individual paths, including the struggles of middle age and responsibilities towards both the younger and older generations, they consider the universal themes of change and adaptation. Throughout this heartfelt conversation,...
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033: Navigating Emotional Intelligence and YOU in Changing Spaces
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In this enriching 33rd episode of the Buckets of Change podcast, co-hosts Nick Goblirsch and Linda Payne delve into the transformative power of emotional intelligence (EI) and its application in both personal and professional settings. Throughout the episode, they share personal anecdotes and insights about how understanding emotions can lead to more meaningful relationships and effective decision-making. Nick and Linda explore how emotional intelligence impacts professional environments, especially in leadership roles. They discuss how being attuned to the feelings and motivations of oneself...
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032: Exploring Evolving Gender Roles in Family and Workplace Dynamics
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In this episode of the "Buckets of Change" podcast, co-hosts Nick and Linda delve into the evolving landscape of gender roles, both in family settings and the workplace. They reflect on their experiences growing up and how traditional gender roles have shifted over time. The discussion kicks off with Nick and Linda sharing personal anecdotes about their upbringing and the societal expectations they observed. They explore how these norms have transformed from the rigid models of past decades to the more flexible arrangements seen today. Throughout the conversation, Nick and Linda address the...
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031: Happy Anniversary - A Transformative Year of a Family Law Coach & Podcast Host
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This 31st episode explores the intricacies of Linda's one-year anniversary on her journey from a successful family law litigator to a divorce coach and consultant. The conversation delves into the motivations behind her career change, the emotional turmoil involved, and the growth she has experienced over the past year. The dialogue is rich with reflections on taking risks, dealing with fear, and embracing uncertainty to pursue a more fulfilling professional life. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing the signs that indicate a change is necessary and how self-awareness plays a...
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030: 1. A Vacation from Your Problems: A Journey into Mindset and Change
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In this episode of the Buckets of Change podcast invites listeners into a dynamic conversation about vacations, personal and professional change, and the impact of these experiences on mindset. Nick and Linda reflect on a recent trip Linda took to Quebec, Canada, used as a contextual backdrop to unpack broader themes of change and reflection. The episode delves into the significance of vacations not just as a physical break from daily routines but as catalysts for personal insight and transformation. Nick and Linda explore the dichotomy of feeling relaxed while away versus the anxiety of...
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029: Managing Personal Conflict While Responding to the Change Around You
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In this episode of the podcast, hosts Nick and Linda explore the multifaceted nature of conflict and its role in both personal and professional settings. Nick, with his extensive background in HR and change management, reveals his fascination with conflict, arguing that it is a fundamental aspect of change. On the other hand, Linda shares her aversion to conflict despite her career in law, sparking an engaging dialogue about different approaches to managing conflicting situations. This episode delves into conflict management models, particularly the Thomas Kilman Conflict Management Model,...
info_outlineIn this episode of the Buckets of Change Podcast, hosts Nick Goblirsch and Linda Payne explore the intricate and often misunderstood topic of narcissism. They provide a deep dive into what narcissism is, how it manifests in relationships and the workplace, and the strategies that can be employed to deal with narcissistic behavior.
Drawing from their extensive backgrounds in HR and family law, Nick and Linda unravel the complexities of narcissistic traits, offering real-life examples and actionable advice. Topics covered include the difference between overt and covert narcissism, the concept of gaslighting, and the challenges of dealing with narcissists in both personal and professional settings. By the end of this episode, listeners will have a clearer understanding of how to identify narcissistic behavior and the steps they can take to protect their own mental health and well-being.
Key Takeaways:
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Understanding Narcissism: Narcissism is a spectrum and not a disease. It can manifest as either overt grandiosity or covert victimhood, often stemming from childhood trauma.
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Gaslighting: A classic tactic used by narcissists to distort reality and make the victim question their own perceptions and feelings.
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Gray Rock Method: A strategy for dealing with narcissists by minimizing emotional reactions and interactions, thereby reducing the narcissist's power.
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Impact in the Workplace: Narcissistic traits among leaders can create toxic work environments. Employees can employ strategies to manage interactions and protect their mental health.
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Self-Awareness: Recognizing one's own susceptibility to narcissistic influence is crucial, as is setting realistic expectations about the ability to change a narcissist.
CONTACT Nick & Linda directly, via email, to schedule your free 20 minute change chat to see if they can offer the guidance an coaching you need to begin your journey towards making and managing chasnge in your life. Remember to put "CHANGE" in the subject line and they will get back to you right away.
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OTHERS WAYS to connect with the show:
Linda Payne
Web: www.lpdivorce.com
Instagram & Facebook: @lp_divorce
Facebook: LP Divorce Services, LLC
Nick Goblirsch:
Instagram: @bucketsofchange and @iheartpaintingnj
Facebook: @iheartpaintingnj and https://www.facebook.com/iheartpaintingnj
TikTok: @nickgoblirsch
Music on this composed and performed by Esme Cruz - "Testing Kites (Instrumental)". So grateful for your talented tunes.