DA398 | When Your 4-Year-Old Breaks Your Heart Open: The Plumb Line for Dads (Dr. Jake Smith)
Release Date: 09/04/2025
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info_outline💔 "If I could pick a nice dad or you, I'd still pick you."
That's what Dr. Jake Smith's 4-year-old daughter whispered to him at bedtime. Talk about a truth bomb from the mouth of a child!
Jake unpacks how that moment launched his discovery of our "spiritual anatomy"—the four systems that make us complete fathers:
✅ The Loving Companion (Heart)
✅ The Visionary Guide (Soul)
✅ The Strategic Overseer (Mind)
✅ The Driven Warrior (Strength)
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SUMMARY:
What happens when your 4-year-old daughter whispers, "If I could line up all the dads in the world and pick a nice one or you, I'd still pick you"? In this episode, Dr. Jake Smith shares how that truth bomb from his daughter launched him on a journey to discover what he calls our "spiritual anatomy"—the four integrated systems (heart, soul, mind, strength) that Jesus perfectly demonstrated. You'll learn why most dads operate from just one dominant system, how to identify your type, and practical steps to become the whole-hearted, integrated father your kids desperately need.
Key Takeaways:
- Most dads live dominantly from one of four systems (heart, soul, mind, strength) with a "sidekick" system, creating 12 possible father types
- Whatever you do to yourself emotionally, you'll do to your kids—if you dismiss your own feelings, you'll dismiss theirs
- Jesus demonstrated perfect integration of all four systems, responding appropriately to each situation rather than predictable patterns
- The goal isn't to stay in your comfort zone but to develop all four aspects of your spiritual anatomy for complete fatherhood
- Creating space to understand your own emotions is the upstream work that transforms how you respond to your children's big feelings
Guest Bio:
Dr. Jake Smith is the founder of Plumb Line, a ministry dedicated to helping men and women live with their whole hearts through healing, wholeness, and purpose. A former pastor of 21 years, Jake now focuses on helping people integrate what he calls their "spiritual anatomy"—the four systems of heart, soul, mind, and strength that Jesus perfectly demonstrated. He and his wife have three children: two sons (19 and 17) and a 14-year-old daughter. Jake is passionate about helping fathers move beyond survival mode to become integrated, whole-hearted leaders in their homes.
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