212. Losing Weight for a Wedding (or Other Event)
Release Date: 08/14/2025
Love Yourself Thin Podcast
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info_outlineHave a wedding, anniversary, or big event coming up and want to feel amazing in the pictures—but without falling into the shame spiral of diet culture? In this episode, Dara shares a refreshing, no-nonsense 5-step approach to weight loss that actually sticks. She’ll show you why the “how” matters more than the number on the scale, and how chasing validation through weight loss never leads to lasting peace.
You’ll learn:
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Why liking your reason is step one (and why that’s NOT selfish)
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The power of getting the right kind of help (hint: not your fudge-pushing friends)
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What 100% commitment really looks like
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How discomfort is the price of real transformation
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Why coaching, not criticism, is the game-changer
Whether you’re walking down the aisle, celebrating 30 years, or just want to feel proud of how you show up in life—this episode is your loving, firm push in the right direction.
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