224: When We Ignore Our Own Boundaries
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
Release Date: 05/27/2025
240: How to Start
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
Why is it so hard to start something you already know you want to do? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, we’re pulling back the curtain on one of the most frustrating patterns women face when trying to improve their health: knowing what to do… but not actually doing it. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in prep mode—endlessly planning, researching, tweaking your routine without ever taking action—this one’s for you. We’ll explore why planning feels safer than doing, how perfectionism keeps you spinning, and the powerful mindset shift that turns overwhelming change into...
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239: Healing at the Root with Judith Richey
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
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238: Changing Seasons and Changing Habits
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
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237: Midlife, Martyrdom, and Me
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
Have you ever eaten something you didn’t want—just because it was there, or because you didn’t want it to go to waste? In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I’m sharing a deeply personal story about leftovers, silent resentment, and the invisible rules so many women live by without even realizing it. What started with a container of forgotten vegetables turned into an unexpected insight about worth, sacrifice, and why we often take the smaller portion—not just at the dinner table, but in life. If you’ve ever felt like you're always the one settling, always making do, always...
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236: The One Thing Diets Never Teach
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
Why is it that you can crush your to-do list, manage your household, support your family, and absolutely rock your career— …but still feel powerless around a plate of cookies? If you’ve ever told yourself, “I know what to do—I just can’t seem to do it,” this episode of Total Health in Midlife is for you. In this episode, Elizabeth Sherman reveals the hidden reasons traditional diets don’t solve overeating—and how they may actually make things worse. You’ll learn why relying on willpower, rigid rules, and food guilt keeps you stuck, and what it really takes to build lasting,...
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235: "Food is Fuel" is a Lie
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
Food is fuel. It sounds so clean and logical, doesn’t it? Like if we could just stick to that belief, everything would fall into place. We’d stop craving sweets when we’re stressed. We’d stop emotionally eating after a hard day. We’d finally be “in control.” But here’s the truth no one talks about: food isn’t just fuel. It’s comfort, connection, culture, memory, and celebration. And trying to pretend otherwise? That’s often what keeps us stuck. In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I’m sharing why the “food is fuel” narrative might be doing more harm than...
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234: Why You Eat at Night
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
You’ve been “good” all day. You ate the healthy lunch. You passed on the afternoon treat. You had a reasonable dinner. And then… it hits. That creeping, nagging feeling that something is missing. You’re not hungry—but the pantry is calling your name. If you’re stuck in the cycle of nighttime overeating and can’t figure out why your willpower disappears after dark, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, we unpack the real reasons why evenings feel so hard—and why diets, discipline, and food rules won’t fix the problem. You’ll learn what your body and brain are...
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233: How to Eat Without Rules
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
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232: Life After Divorce: Now What? with Valerie Simms
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
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231: Why Eating w/Others Feels So Hard
Total Health in Midlife with Elizabeth Sherman
You’ve committed to eating better. Maybe you’ve even started feeling more like yourself again—more energy, fewer cravings, pants that fit the way you want them to. But then you go to dinner with friends… and suddenly, you’re halfway through a basket of fries you didn’t even want, wondering how you got there. If you’ve ever felt like changing how you eat starts messing with your relationships, you are not alone. In fact, the pressure to eat a certain way around others is one of the biggest hidden reasons women struggle to stick with new habits. In this episode of Total Health in...
info_outlineHave you ever noticed how you can be completely on it in one area of your life, like nailing your eating habits and moving your body, while completely bulldozing your own rules in another? You know that getting enough sleep makes you feel amazing, yet you stay up for just ‘one more’ episode. Or you set a boundary around your phone use, only to immediately check Instagram the next morning. Why do we do this?
This episode of The Total Health and Midlife Podcast dives into the deeper reasons why we override our own boundaries, and spoiler alert, it’s not about willpower. If you’ve ever found yourself breaking the very rules you set for yourself, this episode is for you.
We like to tell ourselves that discipline and self-control are the answers, but if that were true, we wouldn’t keep repeating the same patterns. The real issue? Disconnection. When we don’t intentionally build in rest, pleasure, and fulfillment, we end up stealing moments of false pleasure, doom scrolling, mindless snacking, or binge-watching late at night.
I share personal experiences, client stories, and the psychology behind why we sabotage our own boundaries. You’ll learn why self-trust is the key to making lasting change and how shifting your approach to boundaries can help you actually honor them rather than feeling like you’re constantly failing yourself.
So, what’s your version of ‘just one more bite’ or ‘just five more minutes’? Where do you override your own best intentions, not because you’re weak, but because something deeper is missing? We challenge the belief that productivity must always come before pleasure and explore small, powerful ways to reconnect with what you truly need.
If you’re ready to stop fighting yourself and start building trust in your decisions, this episode will show you how to create real, sustainable change without relying on willpower alone. Tune in now to start showing up for yourself in a way that feels supportive, not restrictive.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://elizabethsherman.com/224