Give yourself the gift of reflection and planning
Beyond Neutral
As the holiday season approaches, Paula Reid challenges listeners to step back from the hustle and bustle of holiday preparations to focus on themselves. In this special episode of Beyond Neutral, Paula introduces a simple yet impactful three-step process for ending the year with gratitude and setting the stage for personal success in the new year. Key Takeaways Celebrate Your Wins (2:45) Reflect on your accomplishments from the past year. What personal strengths or capacities helped you achieve these wins? Paula encourages listeners to take a moment to celebrate and express gratitude for...
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A Big Question To Ask Yourself & Season Two Finale!
Beyond Neutral
In this Season 2 wrap-up, Paula takes a moment to reflect on some of her favorite and most popular episodes, such as "Ep. 16: Unpacking Agency," "Ep. 19: Three Step Process to Stop Ruminating" and "Ep. 26: Do An Expectations Audit." As Paula prepares for her summer activities, a time she usually spends reflecting, reading, and planning for the future, she had a thought-provoking conversation with a friend that led to a deeper question. The question she poses to herself and her listeners is: What do you want your contribution to be? Consider this question in any given moment—how...
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Understanding Stress Signals and Self-Soothing Strategies
Beyond Neutral
Throughout season two, Paula explored various techniques for recognizing and managing emotions, from navigating feedback to weathering emotional storms. Today, she zeros in on a crucial element of mastering emotional regulation: understanding your personal stress responses and self-soothing methods. In this episode, Paula dives into how recognizing these personal tendencies is a pivotal first step towards improving your emotional reactions. She reveals her own inclination to spring into action and explains how gaining this self-awareness has empowered her to pause and maintain composure under...
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4 Ways to Cultivate Abundance
Beyond Neutral
Paula wants us to know that the abundance mindset is not about pie-eyed optimism. It is about how we approach a problem, and if we immediately go to a scarcity mindset, this can condition our thinking. We all have a tendency to jump into certain patterns of thinking, even if we consider ourselves very positive people. In this episode, Paula shares a personal story about packing her daughter's car for a move and how her daughter's reminder to adopt an abundance mindset was the catalyst to start focusing on her own patterns of thinking. Despite her optimistic nature, Paula caught herself...
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Challenging Your Inner Narratives for True Transformation
Beyond Neutral
Have you been telling yourself a certain story about who you are and what you're capable of? We all have an inner narrative that can hinder our ability to transform. This inner voice is not necessarily ever going to go away, but breaking free from its assumptions is possible. In a recent discussion, Paula and Mike Rataczak reflected on their latest episode, "#33: Trusting Your Instincts Through Transformations," and shared a powerful message. Mike urges listeners not to avoid confronting their inner voice, which can be both loud and limiting. Paula offers her insights on tackling...
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Trusting Your Instincts Through Transformations
Beyond Neutral
Join Paula and special guest Mike Rataczak in this wisdom-packed episode as they discuss Mike's journey of making a significant career shift. After dedicating over 30 years to Human Resources, Mike made the bold decision to return to school for design and pursue a career as an interior designer. Listen in to learn Mike's decision-making process and the challenges he encountered while embarking on this new path. This episode offers valuable insights into the experience of navigating major life changes, while also providing encouragement and wisdom for those who may be reflecting on their...
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The 3 Essential Steps to Receiving Feedback with Grace
Beyond Neutral
In this episode, Paula embarks on a profound exploration of receiving feedback with intention and grace, highlighting three crucial steps: ✓ Practicing neutrality: By approaching feedback with a neutral energy, we sidestep defensiveness and internalization, paving the way for genuine understanding. ✓ Expressing gratitude: Acknowledging the feedback as a gift of insight is a powerful demonstration of vulnerability that enhances our connections. ✓ Engaging in reflection: Giving ourselves permission to deeply ponder the feedback, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion in...
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The Art of an Apology
Beyond Neutral
Do you owe someone an apology? Have you ever thought about the difference between a meaningful and an ineffective apology? Apologizing can be challenging, as some of us perceive admitting wrongdoing as a sign of weakness. However, Paula emphasizes that acknowledging our mistakes is actually a display of strength. Apologies play a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships. If you wish to move past a blunder, offering a sincere apology is essential. Paula outlines four key factors for a successful apology, sharing valuable insights on mastering this skill. She underscores...
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The Humble Leader Embracing Growth and Vulnerability
Beyond Neutral
Can you recall a moment when you crossed paths with someone in a powerful position who had genuine humility? I bet it left a lasting mark on you. There's something about humble individuals that stays with us—they possess an incredible superpower. Today, Paula is talking about humility in leadership and life. She's shedding light on the idea that when we arrogantly believe we have all the answers, there's no space for personal growth and learning. Paula is urging us to understand that without humility, we not only shy away from admitting our mistakes but, even more detrimentally, we...
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Navigating Internal Promotions
Beyond Neutral
Do you aspire to advance within your current company? Have you thought about how being an internal candidate might affect how others perceive you compared to an external candidate? Paula wants us to consider all the pieces to an internal promotion. There are many advantages, such as a deeper understanding of the organization, but it also presents challenges. One challenge is the need to reassess your relationships within the company, which some people may overlook. Paula explains that we have to be prepared to broaden our perspective and strengthen certain...
info_outlineTake a moment, right now, to consider the extraordinary power of a pause in your life. Whether you're navigating the complexities of your career or personal journey, the pause can be your greatest ally.
In this episode Paula sheds light on the concept of "Neutral" and how it weaves through her life in the midst of intricate situations.
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Embracing the Neutral Space: Sometimes, the neutral space is exactly where we need to be. Paula highlights the importance of transitioning from one state to another. It's here that we find the opportunity for intention, where the insights we gain become stepping stones to progress.
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Tuning into Your Body: Paula shares her valuable insights on helping her clients become attuned to the physical sensations within their bodies. This heightened self-awareness empowers them to assess their reactions and make intentional adjustments. Simple actions, like shifting a ring or bracelet, remind us of the value of thoughtful responses over impulsive, emotionally charged reactions.
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Reflecting and Responding: Paula encourages you to pause and reflect on the wisdom you've garnered by embracing the neutral space. What insights have emerged from stepping back and intentionally occupying this neutral ground? The pause can be instantaneous or anticipatory, offering a canvas to paint your responses with intention.
In this fast-paced world, the art of pausing is often overlooked. Yet, Paula's journey reveals that the power of the pause is a beacon guiding us towards purposeful living. It's in this neutral space where we find clarity, insight, and the capacity to transform our lives. So, embrace the pause, listen to what it has to tell us, and embark on a journey of intentional choices.
Show Notes: reidnco.com/podcast
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[00:02:07] And that is basically true in any situation that we encounter. So in a, in an interesting juxtaposition, one of the key ways to create agency is to be in neutral. Okay. And so I wanted to talk a little bit about. about that concept of intentionally moving to a space of neutral or what I like to call, with a lot of my coaching clients, I talk about it as the great pause.
[00:04:15] So between stimulus and response, there is a space in that space is our power to choose our response. That's agency in our response lies, our growth and our freedom. So that entire quote is really about stepping into this neutral space or stepping into a pause in order to be intentional about how you want to move forward.
[00:07:03] So I will work with clients on, you know, being aware of what's happening in their body and as they can feel that. As they can feel that happening to them, interrupting it somehow, some physical change. I've had clients who've twisted a ring. I know people who like intentionally take their bracelets or their wristwatch from one arm and put it on the other as a way to create space for themselves and allow themselves to think and pause and gather the response that they're looking for or gather insight into how they're feeling and what they're thinking and really being thoughtful about how they want to move forward rather than being reactive to it. So, um, the key thing is that the key thing is that neutral is actually a phenomenal place to be in as long as you're intentional about what you're learning from that process.
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