Give yourself the gift of reflection and planning
Beyond Neutral
As the holiday season approaches, Paula Reid challenges listeners to step back from the hustle and bustle of holiday preparations to focus on themselves. In this special episode of Beyond Neutral, Paula introduces a simple yet impactful three-step process for ending the year with gratitude and setting the stage for personal success in the new year. Key Takeaways Celebrate Your Wins (2:45) Reflect on your accomplishments from the past year. What personal strengths or capacities helped you achieve these wins? Paula encourages listeners to take a moment to celebrate and express gratitude for...
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A Big Question To Ask Yourself & Season Two Finale!
Beyond Neutral
In this Season 2 wrap-up, Paula takes a moment to reflect on some of her favorite and most popular episodes, such as "Ep. 16: Unpacking Agency," "Ep. 19: Three Step Process to Stop Ruminating" and "Ep. 26: Do An Expectations Audit." As Paula prepares for her summer activities, a time she usually spends reflecting, reading, and planning for the future, she had a thought-provoking conversation with a friend that led to a deeper question. The question she poses to herself and her listeners is: What do you want your contribution to be? Consider this question in any given moment—how...
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Understanding Stress Signals and Self-Soothing Strategies
Beyond Neutral
Throughout season two, Paula explored various techniques for recognizing and managing emotions, from navigating feedback to weathering emotional storms. Today, she zeros in on a crucial element of mastering emotional regulation: understanding your personal stress responses and self-soothing methods. In this episode, Paula dives into how recognizing these personal tendencies is a pivotal first step towards improving your emotional reactions. She reveals her own inclination to spring into action and explains how gaining this self-awareness has empowered her to pause and maintain composure under...
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4 Ways to Cultivate Abundance
Beyond Neutral
Paula wants us to know that the abundance mindset is not about pie-eyed optimism. It is about how we approach a problem, and if we immediately go to a scarcity mindset, this can condition our thinking. We all have a tendency to jump into certain patterns of thinking, even if we consider ourselves very positive people. In this episode, Paula shares a personal story about packing her daughter's car for a move and how her daughter's reminder to adopt an abundance mindset was the catalyst to start focusing on her own patterns of thinking. Despite her optimistic nature, Paula caught herself...
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Challenging Your Inner Narratives for True Transformation
Beyond Neutral
Have you been telling yourself a certain story about who you are and what you're capable of? We all have an inner narrative that can hinder our ability to transform. This inner voice is not necessarily ever going to go away, but breaking free from its assumptions is possible. In a recent discussion, Paula and Mike Rataczak reflected on their latest episode, "#33: Trusting Your Instincts Through Transformations," and shared a powerful message. Mike urges listeners not to avoid confronting their inner voice, which can be both loud and limiting. Paula offers her insights on tackling...
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Trusting Your Instincts Through Transformations
Beyond Neutral
Join Paula and special guest Mike Rataczak in this wisdom-packed episode as they discuss Mike's journey of making a significant career shift. After dedicating over 30 years to Human Resources, Mike made the bold decision to return to school for design and pursue a career as an interior designer. Listen in to learn Mike's decision-making process and the challenges he encountered while embarking on this new path. This episode offers valuable insights into the experience of navigating major life changes, while also providing encouragement and wisdom for those who may be reflecting on their...
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The 3 Essential Steps to Receiving Feedback with Grace
Beyond Neutral
In this episode, Paula embarks on a profound exploration of receiving feedback with intention and grace, highlighting three crucial steps: ✓ Practicing neutrality: By approaching feedback with a neutral energy, we sidestep defensiveness and internalization, paving the way for genuine understanding. ✓ Expressing gratitude: Acknowledging the feedback as a gift of insight is a powerful demonstration of vulnerability that enhances our connections. ✓ Engaging in reflection: Giving ourselves permission to deeply ponder the feedback, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion in...
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The Art of an Apology
Beyond Neutral
Do you owe someone an apology? Have you ever thought about the difference between a meaningful and an ineffective apology? Apologizing can be challenging, as some of us perceive admitting wrongdoing as a sign of weakness. However, Paula emphasizes that acknowledging our mistakes is actually a display of strength. Apologies play a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships. If you wish to move past a blunder, offering a sincere apology is essential. Paula outlines four key factors for a successful apology, sharing valuable insights on mastering this skill. She underscores...
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The Humble Leader Embracing Growth and Vulnerability
Beyond Neutral
Can you recall a moment when you crossed paths with someone in a powerful position who had genuine humility? I bet it left a lasting mark on you. There's something about humble individuals that stays with us—they possess an incredible superpower. Today, Paula is talking about humility in leadership and life. She's shedding light on the idea that when we arrogantly believe we have all the answers, there's no space for personal growth and learning. Paula is urging us to understand that without humility, we not only shy away from admitting our mistakes but, even more detrimentally, we...
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Navigating Internal Promotions
Beyond Neutral
Do you aspire to advance within your current company? Have you thought about how being an internal candidate might affect how others perceive you compared to an external candidate? Paula wants us to consider all the pieces to an internal promotion. There are many advantages, such as a deeper understanding of the organization, but it also presents challenges. One challenge is the need to reassess your relationships within the company, which some people may overlook. Paula explains that we have to be prepared to broaden our perspective and strengthen certain...
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Do you know your top three joy priorities?
Do you take time in the morning or day to recognize what you are grateful for?
It is easier said than done. Most of us get lost in our daily tasks and meetings, especially during the holidays when time feels very scarce. Yet, the truth is if you become depleted you won’t be able to deal with work or life as well as you could. Depletion pushes our resilience capacity lower and is directly related to lack of joy in our lives.
Paula is talking about joy in this timely episode. She shares ways that she accesses joy during busy times and emphasizes that you don’t need to go to the spa for the whole day to experience this. So if you are in the middle of frantically buying a second turkey, or trying to make a flight, please take a little moment for yourself to focus on gratitude and joy, this small mindset shift is a game changer.
Listen up to learn more about how you can access joy everyday and why it matters.
Show Notes: reidnco.com/podcast
Timestamps:
[00:04:43] And being depleted is really that you're not experiencing enough joy in your life. There aren't enough, there aren't enough pleasant associations coming in to your life, coming into your experiences. And when I feel depleted, I noticed that. Things that come along. That normally I could take in stride challenges that happen, you know, what, whatever it is,something that didn't go the way I expected to, or, you know, bad news that I get or in any form. Okay. I noticed that my capacity to manage those other emotions and stay on track and stay on an even keel and kind of take them in stride experience and experience them, but still take them in stride. My ability to do that is dramatically less if I have not been really focusing on the things that give me joy and ensuring that I'm really building up my joy bucket.
[00:06:46] Number one, physical energy, you know, we talk about exercise and how important exercises and it definitely is. And that absolutely that physical piece of it can absolutely be an important part of, acquiring and sustaining joy in your life. But it's not the only thing because the other thing is really recognizing those things in life that give you joy and those things in life that you want and those things in your life that you need, not the shoulds, but want. And so one of the practices that I have incorporated into my life, number one, I incorporate meditation and I can tell you right now, 10 minutes of meditation and a consistent basis is absolutely life sustaining for me emotionally.
[00:09:22] Another way is to start the day thinking about three things that you really like about yourself. Three things that you're grateful for about you, okay? Maybe it might be grateful for in your life, but grateful for about who you are because the practice of joy and building joy is really centered around your experience and appreciation for you and recognizing internally what you need in order to sustain yourself and in order to build your energy. I guarantee you that if you start a practice of really focusing on that, it will reward you with benefits. It will give you resilience. It will give you energy. It will give you an ability to, accept other emotions that aren't as easy to sit with. They will be easier to tackle. If you have a full joy bucket, and, it's very interesting because I can think back to myself and my own situations where I have just felt depleted.
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