How to Opt Out of Other People’s Plot Twists
Charis Alura
It’s easy to spot other people’s chaos—harder to admit when we’ve been tangled in it ourselves. In this episode, I unpack the subtle ways we get recruited into other people’s drama—how we’re handed roles like the villain, the fixer, the savior—and how quickly the story turns when we refuse to play along. I also share this with humility, because I’ve been on both sides of that equation. I’ve been caught in the drama triangle. I’ve tried to control the narrative. I’ve struggled to untangle my own part in the mess. And maybe I still do sometimes. But the only way to stay...
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This is Your Independence Day
Charis Alura
What if Independence Day isn’t just a holiday — but a quiet, personal revolution? In this episode, I explore the subtle ways we lose ourselves to old roles, outdated expectations, and the pressure to stay small. Through reflections on personal experience and the stories of women around me, this is an invitation to reclaim your space, your voice, and your version of yourself — the one no one else gets to edit. It's not about blame — it’s about stepping into your full potential. This is your Independence Day.
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Everyone Wants the Holy Grail… But Nobody Wants the Quest
Charis Alura
In this episode, I explore how modern society has numbed itself out of the very initiations wired into human life. Our life offers threshold moments designed to grow, evolve, and strip away false identities. But instead of rising like the phoenix, we medicate, distract, and bypass these rites of passage—avoiding discomfort but also forfeiting sovereignty. I dive into why our culture fears change, and how the hero's journey—and the Holy Grail quest—aren't about salvation through God or external forces, but reconciliation with ourselves. You won’t find yourself by staying comfortable....
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When Women Stop Feeding the Beast
Charis Alura
This episode is a raw, unfiltered reckoning with accountability—not just personal, but generational. We often talk about how our own choices shape our lives, but what about the collective choices women have made, consciously or unconsciously, in upholding a patriarchal system that no longer serves us? I dive into the dynamics of male entitlement, the cultural conditioning that raised boys to believe they are owed power, and the painful truth that women have helped build and sustain that illusion. This isn’t a man-bashing tirade—it’s a wake-up call. A call for women to stop handing over...
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A Hunger No Food Can Touch
Charis Alura
What if your endless cravings aren’t flaws to fix but signals from the soul of a hunger deeper than food can reach? In this episode, I explore the many faces of hunger: the kind that drives us to the fridge, but also the kind that keeps us scrolling, striving, people-pleasing, and performing. I talk about the ways we try to feed these hungers — with food, with relationships, with distractions — and why none of it works if our souls are malnourished. From processed foods to spiritual emptiness, from menopause to modern disconnection, this is a journey into what it means to be alive in a...
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I'm Done Being the Tool: An Awakening
Charis Alura
In this unscripted and unfiltered episode, I speak from the edge—where burnout ends and awakening begins. This isn’t just a rant. It’s a reckoning. I explore the deep discontent that comes from spending decades doing work that doesn’t challenge or honor me, and the painful realization that I’ve been hiding behind the dreams of others while abandoning my own. I unpack the shame of staying too long, the weight of unspoken expectations, and the quiet voice that keeps asking: Isn’t there more than this? This is for anyone who's ever felt overqualified, underused, or invisible in the...
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The Ones Who Give Too Much
Charis Alura
I didn’t expect much from this date — I almost didn’t go. But across from me sat someone whose story stayed with me long after the check was paid. A man shaped by early loss and quiet survival. Adopted into a world that never quite made room for him. Someone who learned to give and give… not because he had much to spare, but because he hoped it might make him worthy of the love and belonging he craved. This isn’t a love story. It’s a moment of witnessing — a reminder that some people spend their whole lives trying to believe they matter. And sometimes, the most we can offer...
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Nobody’s Coming to Save You: How Passivity Is Keeping You Stuck
Charis Alura
Let’s get real—one of the biggest lies we’ve all been sold is that if we just wait, the answers will come. The right person will come. The validation will come. God will come. Society teaches us to stay passive. Wait for permission. Don’t rock the boat. Don’t ask for too much. And where has that gotten most people? Exhausted. Underpaid. Stuck in service roles. Numbed out and blaming everyone else for why they feel trapped. In this episode, I’m calling it out: passivity is the root of most unhappiness. And no, it’s not because you’re weak—it’s because you were trained to be...
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Nobody Wants to Die Alone
Charis Alura
In this deeply personal and reflective episode, I explore the universal truth that connects us all: our shared humanity. Even though our beliefs, backgrounds, and experiences may differ, at the core, we all crave the same things—love, belonging, and connection. I share my own journey with judgment, division, and rediscovering compassion for people who think, live, and believe differently than I do. I reflect on how fear and past wounds can blind us to the beauty in each other, and how understanding someone's story can transform judgment into empathy. This episode is a reminder that behind...
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This Is Why You're Still Lonely
Charis Alura
We throw the word intimacy around like we know what it means — but do we? This episode is a raw, unscripted dive into what intimacy actually is…and why so few of us ever experience it. It’s not sex. It’s not aesthetics. It’s not performance. It’s the terrifying, beautiful act of being fully seen — and still chosen. We live in a world that teaches us to hide, to shape-shift, to become what’s wanted instead of what’s real. And in doing that, we kill off the very parts of ourselves that could’ve been loved. This episode unpacks the soul-hunger so many feel in hookup culture,...
info_outlineIn this episode, Charis Alura explores the unsettling and complex world of the manosphere. Sparked by Netflix’s powerful and disturbing miniseries Adolescence (SPOILER ALERT), Charis unpacks the roots of male anger, the appeal of red-pill ideology, and the heartbreaking reality of boys and men growing up without strong masculine role models.
With vulnerability and nuance, she shares personal reflections on bullying, self-worth, attraction, and gender roles—drawing connections between modern disempowerment, ancient primal instincts, and societal shifts away from toxic patriarchy. This episode is both a critique and a call for compassion, understanding, and a new model of strength for men.