Calm Isn’t the Goal: Your Safety Plan Is
Parenting the Tough Stuff
Parenting—especially adoptive parenting—is beautiful, messy, exhausting, and overwhelming, often all at the same time. You’re doing the best you can to help your child navigate their big emotions, but here’s the truth: you can’t help them regulate if you’re falling apart. So, what does it mean to stay regulated? And do you have a Safety Plan for yourself so you know what to do for you when things start breaking down? In this episode, I walk you through what regulation really looks like (hint: it’s not about being calm or happy). I also share practical steps for creating your own...
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When Protection Mode Takes Over: Tools for Parents and Kids to Reconnect
Parenting the Tough Stuff
In this episode, we’re diving into the dynamic of connection vs. protection mode—a concept that impacts both adoptive parents and their kids. We’ll explore why all behavior makes sense when we look beneath the surface, how protection behaviors often stem from a desperate need for connection, and why co-regulation is the key to helping our kids (and ourselves) move from survival to connection. We’ll also tackle the tough stuff: how to recognize when we as parents slip into protection mode, practical strategies for staying grounded, and how moments of repair can strengthen your...
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Shift To Your Essentials: Cut Through The Noise
Parenting the Tough Stuff
Shift To Your Essentials: Cut Through The Noise is a podcast dedicated to helping adoptive parents cut through the noise, overwhelm, and pressure of doing it all. Together, we’ll explore how focusing on the essentials can transform your parenting, your family dynamics, and how you feel about yourself and your child. We’ll dive into strategies for identifying what matters most, creating meaningful connections, and letting go of the things that don’t serve your family. Whether you’re feeling stuck, stressed, or just looking for a clearer path forward, this podcast offers encouragement,...
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Holidays Your Way: Your Family, Your Rules
Parenting the Tough Stuff
The holidays can be magical AND brutal. They can also feel overwhelming—especially for adoptive families. In this episode, we’re diving into practical tips and heartfelt advice to help you navigate the season with less stress and more connection. From handling tough teen moments to redefining traditions that actually work for your family, we’ll explore how to create a holiday that feels meaningful, safe, and true to your unique family dynamic. You’ll learn: - Why focusing on connection over perfection is key. - How to repair after conflicts and turn...
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How To Break The Cycle -- The Stress Cycle
Parenting the Tough Stuff
Do you have a kiddo who seems to make a career out of arguing, begging, or otherwise trying to wear you down? Parents tell me all the time how exhausting and frustrating this is—and I get it. It’s not just annoying; it’s one of the ways your child nudges you into a stress cycle. You probably know the feeling: your heart starts to race, your muscles tense up, and your emotions build to the point where you just want it all to stop. And sometimes, the easiest way to make it stop feels like giving in. But what if there was another way? Here’s the deal: when your body goes into stress mode,...
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Steady the Storm with Co-Regulation
Parenting the Tough Stuff
Episode Description Today, we're exploring co-regulation—a powerful parenting tool that’s especially important for adoptive families. Co-regulation can make a world of difference, helping our children feel safe, grounded, and connected. Whether you’re new to this concept or looking for more practical ways to apply it, this episode will guide you through what co-regulation is, why it matters, and how you can start practicing it with your kids to strengthen your family bond. Episode Breakdown 1. Introduction I start with a story from my own experience—an “aha” moment that made me...
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Helping Your Kiddo Thrive
Parenting the Tough Stuff
We all want our kids to thrive, but what does that really mean? Often in our culture, thriving is associated with excelling at sports, maintaining a high GPA, or maintaining friendships. But here’s the kicker: thriving is so much more than just those quantifiable achievements. In fact, I believe thriving is more of a direction than a destination. Many of our adopted kids come from challenging backgrounds. Maybe no one in their birth family graduated high school, or their birthparents struggle with issues like addiction or incarceration and these same issues keep showing up in our...
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Boost Your Distress Tolerance During a Crisis
Parenting the Tough Stuff
Have you ever wanted to just survive a crisis without making it worse? As parents, when things get really tough we immediately experience some pretty intense emotions. Many times, it’s hard to stay present or even make sense out of what’s happening in the moment. If you want to learn some truly incredible tools for tolerating distress during a crisis, then this episode is for you.
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What To Do When You're Hurting
Parenting the Tough Stuff
What do you do when you’ve gotten some bad news and you're feeling a bit undone? You’re probably wanting to dial your feelings down a bit and just not feel so much. How about a quick vacation from disappointment and worry? Today’s episode will give you 6 solid tips to help you stay grounded AND experience your emotions.
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How To Take The Crazy Out of Living in Paradox
Parenting the Tough Stuff
A lot of parenting is spent living in paradox. What does that even mean? It means wanting your family to eat supper altogether, but feeling anxious that an argument will break out and make it unbearable. Or maybe you can’t wait for your teen to come home from residential, but are terrified of what’s going to happen to your family when they do. If you’d like some tips on how to approach living in paradox, then this episode is for you.
info_outlineWhen the new year rolls around, a complete makeover is so tempting. Either that OR doing nothing sounds really good. Most folks are pretty polarized. Stay tuned to hear about a third option I like to call a "Plan B" mentality. If you want to hear how a fresh start could involve only 5 minutes a day, then this episode is for you.