Ep. 198 How Words Shape Us
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
🎙️ Episode 198: How Words Shape Us 🌱 The words we speak are not just descriptions—they're blueprints for the lives we’re building. In this empowering episode, Heidi explores how the language we use daily plants seeds that shape our identity, relationships, and even what we believe is possible. Whether you're talking about yourself, your children, your future, or your bank account—your words are either creating momentum or building barriers. 💬 What You’ll Learn: Why your internal dialogue is the most powerful soundtrack of your life How to stop unintentionally sowing...
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Ep. 197 How To Apologize
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
🎙️ Ep 197 – How to Apologize 💛 Repairing Relationships with Confidence and Calm Apologizing isn’t about shame or groveling — it’s about emotional strength, humility, and staying grounded in discomfort. In this episode, Heidi breaks down how to make heartfelt apologies that build trust, not tension — and why this matters deeply for the emotional health of your family. You’ll learn: 🧠 How real apologies shift your nervous system into connection 🪨 Why we must feel discomfort in our bodies to repair with honesty 📣 The 5-step apology that includes changed behavior (not...
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Ep. 196 Creating Connections
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
🎙️ Episode 196: Creating Connection 💞 In this heart-opening episode, Heidi explores what it really means to connect — not just with words, but with energy, presence, and intention. 💫 You’ll learn: ✨ Why connection is an energy loop — and how we either open or close that loop 🐧 How penguins pebble and what that teaches us about human connection 📱 The subtle bids your kids, spouse, and friends are making every day 👀 What your body language says about your emotional availability 💔 The impact of disconnection — and how to gently repair it ❤️ Daily ways to build...
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Ep. 195 Reflecting with Self-Compassion
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
💬 Episode 195: Self-Reflection with Grace What do you do when self-reflection stirs up guilt, shame, or regret? 😣 In this episode, Heidi walks you through how to face your imperfections with compassion, truth, and grace — so your self-awareness actually leads to growth, not shutdown. 🌱 ✨ Learn why it’s hard to see ourselves clearly 🛑 Understand how perfectionism and shame hold us back 🧠 Use self-compassion to move forward with strength 🌬️ Regulate your nervous system when tough emotions rise 🗣️ Apologize without drama or over-explaining 🧭 Take one small...
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Ep. 194 Two (Opposite) Things Can Be True
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
✨ NEW EPISODE! ✨ 🎙️ Ep. 194 - Two (Opposite) Things Can Be True Ever feel proud and heartbroken as your child leaves for college? Relieved and guilty for enjoying the quiet house? Worried and trusting all at once? 💡 You’re not broken. You’re human. And BOTH can be true. In this episode, I share: ✨ Why our brain resists emotional complexity 🧠 How to train your nervous system to hold two truths 💬 A coaching story that will make you feel seen 🤝 How cancel culture and ghosting thrive in “either/or” thinking 💚 3 tools to practice both/and awareness in...
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Ep. 193 The Power of Self-Reflection
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
✨ NEW EPISODE! ✨ 🎙 Ep 193: The Power of Self-Reflection is LIVE! Ever blamed someone else… only to realize later you were the source of the problem? 😅💡 Yep, me too – and this week I’m sharing a funny lightbulb moment (literally 💡🌙) that reminded me just how powerful self-reflection is. Inside this episode: 🪞 How to tell if the “problem” is yours or theirs 🧠 Why self-reflection only works when your nervous system is regulated 🧘♀️ A life-changing tool: “Just Like Me” 🫶 How to handle stress, irritation, and tension with more compassion 💬...
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Ep, 192 Helping Kids Handle College Rejections
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
🌟 New Podcast Episode: "Helping Kids Handle College Rejections" 🌟 Parents, are you navigating the emotional rollercoaster of college application season with your kids? This week’s episode is for you! 🎧💬 Rejection letters can be tough, but they’re also incredible opportunities for growth. In this episode, I share: ✅ How to support your child when they face rejection. ✅ Ways to help them process emotions in healthy, confident ways. ✅ The importance of modeling vulnerability and resilience. 🎯 Key Takeaways to Help Your Child Handle College Rejections: Acknowledge Their...
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Ep. 191 The Commentators of Life
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
🎙️ New Podcast Episode! 💡 Ep 191: Quieting the Commentators and Narrators Are you living your truth or letting the “commentators” shape your perspective? In this episode, I share lessons from the BYU-Alamobowl game, personal stories, and practical tools to help you: ✨ Distinguish between others' narratives and reality. ✨ Identify biases in yourself and others. ✨ Trust your intuition and maintain personal authority. Here are 5 Key Questions I use to quiet the noise and stay grounded: ✅ What am I not seeing or hearing in their perspective? ✅ What’s their motivation or...
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Ep. 190 Graciously Giving and Receiving
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
Key Message: How we give and receive energy are deeply connected - our ability to do one affects our ability to do the other effectively Key Points: • If you have trouble receiving help or gifts, you may unconsciously be: - Limiting abundance in your life - Blocking positive connections with others - Judging others when you give help - Teaching your children unhealthy patterns • Tips for Gracious Giving: - Give without expecting anything in return - Avoid giving from a place of obligation or resentment - Let go of keeping score in...
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Ep. 189 Quiet Wins
Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
Key Points: Host Heidi Benjaminsen discusses the importance of "quiet wins" - personal victories in emotional life and relationships that often go unnoticed These wins build confidence and strengthen family relationships, even when others don't explicitly acknowledge them Notable Quiet Wins Discussed: Staying calm and curious during difficult conversations, especially with children Not participating in gossip or spreading private information about others Declining invitations/opportunities that don't align with your values or energy Resisting the urge to correct or give unsolicited...
info_outlineWhen we gain life experience, learn new information and see the perspective of how other people experience life, our opinions, our beliefs, our biases change. Confident people WANT to change their minds over their lifetime. To do so requires a lot of self-acceptance, integrity, discomfort, humility and emotional maturity.
Our lower brains will resist us changing our opinions, for fear it means we were "wrong" before and fearing what is "new" and "unknown". Remember this brain wants us to be "right" more than anything else. But this brain isn't confident and isn't getting us ultimately where we want to go.
Listen to hear Heidi explains why our brain resists being able to change our opinions and how to incorporate new data into new opinions and beliefs. Both can be true - we did our best in the past and we're doing out best now - even if opinions and beliefs are different. Changing and "upgrading" our internal software is the sign of a confident and emotionally anchored person.
Confident mothers have open minds, open hearts and empathetic ears. Confident women know change represents growth. Learn how to do this in episode 172 of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen.
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