Robert Greving on an Apostolate of Courtesy: Social Graces and Civilization
HeightsCast: Forming Men Fully Alive
Release Date: 04/23/2026
HeightsCast: Forming Men Fully Alive
by Dr. Andrew Abela, notes on a presentation by Dr. Jonathan Buttaci, papal encyclical by Pope Leo XIV by Josef Pieper by John Henry Newman Also on the Forum: by David Maxham featuring David Maxham featuring Tom Steenson by Michael Moynihan Featured Opportunities: Headmaster’s Lecture at The Heights School (October 3, 2026) – link coming soon at The Heights School (October 24, 2026) Fatherhood Conference at The Heights School (early November 2026) – link coming soon at The Heights School (November 11-13, 2026)
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info_outlineSaving civilization well may begin with eye contact, a tucked shirt, a sincere apology, or a held door. For the dispositions we have toward the little things truly train our sense of human dignity.
In his new book, The Apostolate of Courtesy, middle school Latin and language arts teacher Rob Greving follows in the footsteps of St. Francis de Sales. His book offers a defense of civility for the sake of the soul, followed by a practical guide to many of life’s social situations. From table manners to small talk to handling interruptions, our manner affects the temper of the world. And “when I have courtesy,” Mr. Greving writes, “I am not lowering myself but raising myself to the dignity of Christ.”
Chapters:
2:10 Mr. Greving’s influences
5:46 Courtesy and civilization
10:53 The medium of apologetics: us!
13:56 St. Francis de Sales: the gentleman saint
19:09 Manners at home
26:05 Handling interruptions well
31:24 Parents and teachers as the example
39:28 The art of apology
42:37 Courtesy in the classroom
Links:
The Apostolate of Courtesy: How to Save Souls and Change the World through the Power of Manners by Robert Greving
Introduction to the Devout Life by Francis de Sales
Surprised by Joy: The Shape of My Early Life by C. S. Lewis
Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior by George Washington
Also on the Forum:
Manners: The Art of Happiness by Robert Greving
On Manners: The “ABCs” of Virtue featuring Colin Gleason
Enjoying Our Children and Why It’s Important featuring Alvaro de Vicente
Featured Opportunities:
Parents’ Conference at The Heights School (April 25, 2026)
Teaching Essentials Workshop at The Heights School (June 22-26, 2026)