I lost her then i lost me. A raw conversation about grief, loss, and the fear of becoming someone new
Release Date: 07/01/2025
We're leaving. A Few England Truths (and BIG announcement on where the family go next)..)
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After 16 years of living abroad in New Zealand, husband and wife Liz and Brian returned to their home country, England, UK, for a four-month stay. This week, the couple share a few more truths - the little things they'd forgotten about England. The things they know and love, and one thing in particular that took them by surprise in a huge way. Liz and Brian also reveal where they are heading next on their year-long world trip, including how they are affording to pay for this mammoth trip... If you are a regular watcher of the show, thank you so very much for being here with us. You are the...
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Back in Britain. Our Thoughts on England after 16 years abroad
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After 16 years away, husband and wife Liz and Brian have returned to old Blighty, England, for a three-month stay. Today, the couple reveal a few home truths, including misconceptions about England, how Britain compares to New Zealand, an in-your-face struggle they encountered at a café, and what they think will happen if their young adult children decide not to come home to New Zealand. We know you’ll love this episode. At the end of this week’s podcast, Liz also shares another reading from her soon-to-be-released book on grief, loss and healing. If you are struggling with...
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Let it Go: Releasing Anger, Money Pits + the Need to Be Perfect .
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Sometimes you just have to let it go. Even if it hurts your pride. Even if you're scared people will judge you. Even if it did cost over a grand. This week, join husband-and-wife podcasters Liz and Brian as they take you on a stroll through the English countryside and share three tough decisions they've made during their nomadic year of travel; how the UK is presenting them with challenges, and why they love each other more than ever. At the end of the podcast. Liz also shares another reading from her soon-to-be-released book on grief, loss and healing. If you are struggling with loss of...
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‘How ARE you?’ Do you really want to know or shall I lie? – The Marriage Diaries
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How ARE you? Answering the question that every struggling person dreads This week, we discuss what happened at a recent family funeral. Whether you should tell the truth when someone asks how you are. And if not, WHY not? At the end of the podcast, Liz also shares a reading from her soon-to-be-released book on grief, loss and healing. If you are struggling with loss of any kind, I think my book will help you ❤️ Thank you, as always, for being here with us. You are what makes this podcast so special. My heart beats with yours. Kia Kaha. Liz and Brian x PS: If you haven't yet joined my inner...
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When you just don't have it all together
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Has anyone REALLY got their life together? Got it all sorted? We've been married for twenty-five years, and I know we haven't. This week, husband and wife Brian and Liz feel unsettled. As they walk the canals of Bath, they get real and honest about feeling uncertain about the future and share the times they've felt completely lost on their year-long nomadic family journey. If you've ever felt like everyone else has their life together and you don't then you will love this epiosde. Get ready to hear four vulnerable stories: the panic of being asked to attend a local social gathering...
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A place won't make you happy
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it's what you do in that place that will... Feeling a little lost and wondering where "home" is, husband and wife Brian and Liz are back to take you along on a walking podcast, and this time, they've landed in a three-month rental just outside Bath. In this deeply personal conversation, Liz shares why the view of an ancient church from her window is helping her write the book on grief she was always meant to write, and Brian opens up about the simple things that make him happy. This is for anyone who has ever felt a little lost, is redefining "home" after a loss, or is simply wondering how to...
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How Downton Abbey Saved Our Family (Our Hardest Location Podcast Yet)
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We recorded this week's marriage diary podcast on location under the famous Sycamore Tree in Bampton, the real village of Downton Abbey. But it was harder than we thought. Downton Abbey has become our family's anchor, so when we found ourselves in the UK close to the location where many of the show's outdoor scenes were filmed, we packed our microphones and set off to record a podcast. While we were talking about why this show has become a lifeline for both our marriage and our family, a coachload of tourists turned up. I've never felt so awkward and self-conscious in my life. But Brian...
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Where is Home? The Price You Pay For Living Nomadically (The Marriage Diaries)
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Feeling fragile and searching for an anchor, husband and wife, Brian and Liz, are back in England, trying to find a short-term rental in Bath. They tackle the scary financial reality of their married nomadic life and why they believe spending savings on making memories with their young adult kids is worth every penny. This is (once again) a deeply vulnerable episode, where Liz shares how a hurtful YouTube comment landed on the very day she was driving to see her brother for the first time since their dad's funeral, and in turn, sparks a crucial conversation about the real-world impact of our...
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Back in England 48 Hours. Ripped Off Twice | Marriage Diaries
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This week, husband and wife, Brian and Liz, share their recent married life podcast shenanigans. Recently returned from their two-month summer in Greece, they have been in their beloved birthplace, Blighty, for 48 hours and have somehow managed to get ripped off. Twice. Not that Liz is bitter. No. As she reminds Brian many times, marriage isn’t just about love and laughter and making podcasts about pigeons. It’s about carrying the weight together. Honest... Thank you, as always, for being here with us. You are what makes this podcast so special. Yours, ripped off but still together and...
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Greece Changed Us — Here’s Why We Don't Want to Leave
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We've been MARRIED for thirty-odd years. This year, after a huge family loss, we took our young adult kids and spent the summer in Greece. Here's how it went. Our summer in Greece has come to an end, and we don't want to leave. Greece has done wonders for our family, our marriage, my healing, Sonny's income, and our waistline. All have grown. Here's what we have loved, what we'll miss and what we are nervous about facing in England. Thank you so very much for being here with us. Yours, forever grateful Liz and Brian, husband and wife. x PS: If you haven't yet joined my...
info_outlineWhat if the hardest part of being real… is letting people see it?
We almost didn’t record this. The voice in my head said: Don’t show too much. Don’t be too much.
But I’m tired of that voice.
Tired of searching for safety instead of being it.
If you haven't yet joined my inner circle of friends, my life-letter readers, please do. You will be the first person I share everything with. I'd love to have you. Go here to join us.
Brian and I recorded this audio-only episode while we were out at a café in Naoussa, Paros.
There’s a lot of background noise, people chatting, drills drilling, cars revving—but we left it all in because it felt real.
And that’s what this episode is: real.
The sound quality is a bit shit. Apologies. If you like it, and we keep this format, it will improve.
I’m not quite sure what's going on at the moment.
Life feels messy. Confusing. I feel as if something has cracked open in me. Maybe it’s grief. Maybe it’s the start of a new season. Maybe both. I don't know.
And that's what this episode is: Not knowing. Me, trying to untangle something I can’t fully name yet, and Brian offering his ever-wise and patient thoughts.
This episode is about grief—what it looks like when you’re in it: the confusion, the uncertainty, the messiness, the ache of something ending, or beginning, or both.
It’s also about shame.
About the fear of being seen—really seen.
About how hard it can be to hit publish when you're sharing something vulnerable.
About how I listened back to a recent episode and cringed—not because I wasn’t being real, but because I was.
This is us, a husband and wife, in the middle of the mess, figuring it out as we go.
If you’re in that place too, I hope this episode feels like a warm hand on your back.
Thank you for giving us your time and for offering us this space to figure things out. Please reach out by email. I answer every single message.
email: liz@itsadrama.com
My heart beats with yours.
Kia Kaha.
Liz and Brian x
PS: If you haven't yet joined my inner circle of friends, my life-letter readers, please do. You will be the first person I share everything with. I'd love to have you. Go here to join us.
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