I lost her then i lost me. A raw conversation about grief, loss, and the fear of becoming someone new
Release Date: 07/01/2025
Leave our 21 yr old daughter here? London's not what we expected
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We're in London. Where our 21-year-old daughter (now) desperately wants to live. I can relate. 30 years ago, two Cornish country bumpkins (Brian and I) moved to London from the south of England. We lasted 6 months before leaving. Now, our British/Kiwi daughter has decided to do the same. She wants to stop travelling full-time with her family and live in London on her own. So we are here to settle her in. London has changed. It is not what we thought. Here are some big changes that shocked us. So much so, we decided to walk through the East End of London and share them with you. 'Cause...
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The Verdict. Back to New Zealand. Or Not.
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Brian and Liz, husband and wife, have rented their New Zealand home for another year so they can continue their nomadic lifestyle around the world. Last week, we shared an awkward (but real) conversation about our conflicting opinions on whether we should return home to New Zealand to do the handover. We finally reached a decision, and today we want to share it with you. With all our love and gratitude from BC, Canada, Kia Kaha, Liz and Brian x Links mentioned in the show: 🇳🇿 LOVE NEW ZEALAND and want to know what life is like there? SIGN UP for our FREE . We will share 5 short videos...
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Return to New Zealand. Or Not.
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We held off sharing this episode. It's one of those uncomfortable (but real) conversations that married couples have when they need to get something sorted, but they can't seem to agree. These conversations usually happen in private. But. We strive to keep things real and remain honest with you on this podcast. So here we are. Awkwardness and all. Thank you for being part of this community. Of this journey. For making us feel brave enough to share not just the ups and the laughs and the funny stories, but the downs, the tears and the sweaty-palmed conversations. Conversations like this one. We...
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Parenting Young Adult Kids: Here's What Happened Last Night
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Parenting kids in their twenties is wonderful, daunting, fabulous, worrying, easy, really, really hard, joyful, exhausting, confusing, a privilege, expensive, ageing and a joy. We have been travelling the world as a family for a year. Next month, our kids will go their separate ways. Sonny will go to America, and Tess will live in London. Last night, we had a task. To go out for the night and talk to our kids separately. To find out what's going on and ask how they feel. Our results were poles apart. Here's what happened. We love you. Thank you for your gorgeous support. If you would...
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Canada. You did it
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We're bringing you this podcast episode from a frozen lake in the Canadian Rockies. British Columbia, Canada. Something happened last week that floored us. Literally. Something that we've waited 30 years to see. We love you. Thank you for your gorgeous support. If you would like to show us some love, you can do so by leaving us a review wherever you listen to this podcast. It would also be wonderful if you shared this episode with a friend. Kia Kaha, Liz and Brian x Links mentioned in the show: 🇳🇿 LOVE NEW ZEALAND and want to know what life is like there? SIGN UP for our...
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When Home Hurts More Than it Heals
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Brian, Liz and their two adult kids are house-sitting in British Columbia, Canada, for three months. Last week, they received a comment on their YouTube channel asking, "Where do you call home? " Today, they take you for a walk around their temporary Canadian neighbourhood and share their unscripted, vulnerable thoughts and feelings about Canada, New Zealand, leaving their kids, healing, and... a few other things I won't write here. Thank you. We love you, and we appreciate you more than you can imagine. Please don't forget to subscribe and say hi in the comments ❤️ Kia Kaha, Liz and Brian...
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Let's Talk about CANADA: One Month in, Here's What We Found
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Join Brian and Liz as they walk around their Canadian neighbourhood and share the insights they have gained during their first month housesitting as a family in British Columbia, Canada. Including Brian being the first on scene at a local fire emergency, to why Liz suddenly feels grounded. Thank you, we love you. Enjoy x Please note, this podcast was recorded the day before the terrible, horrific disaster that occurred in BC on Tuesday. Our hearts, love and immense sympathy go out to the families and friends of this unimaginable tragedy. Our love to you, Canada. Always. Liz and Brian ...
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Why We Choose Risk Over Comfort + Financial Sescurity | Life Lessons That Loss Has Taught U
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Last week, we received a comment on the podcast that said, "We would love to do what you are doing, but it seems too risky". In today's episode, we would like to address that comment and share a few life lessons grief has taught us. We would like to pass on the reason we travel the world, (even though we still have a big mortgage). This is why we do what we do. This is how we do it. We hope our words bring you clarity and inspiration. We love you. Thank you for your support and your wonderful comments. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend who needs it, and don't...
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We Moved Our Family to CANADA for Winter. Our Honest Thoughts a Week in...
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Brian and Liz, husband and wife, are in British Columbia, CANADA. They have packed their bags and, along with their two young adult kids, have embarked on a huge adventure: Housesitting for 3 months in British Columbia, CANADA. Join them today as they share their first impressions of returning to Canada with their kids and take you on a stroll through their very beautiful BC neighbourhood to spill the beans on: The surprise of Calgary Their kids spending the night with a homeless person Being locked out in the cold Driving in Canada and feeling out of control The importance of TRUST Fearing...
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We were wrong about America
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There are a few myths and misconceptions about America that we have found to be not true, and this week, we wanted to share our experiences with you. Brian and Liz, husband and wife, are in Colorado, USA. Join them today as they take you on a stroll through their (very American) neighbourhood to spill the beans on: Being stuck out in the middle of nowhere with a stranger. A USA myth that turns out to be true, (and one we wish we had) Liz’s shock reaction after the release of her new book The biggest American myth of all, and one that rocked these two (quite adventurous and brave) British New...
info_outlineWhat if the hardest part of being real… is letting people see it?
We almost didn’t record this. The voice in my head said: Don’t show too much. Don’t be too much.
But I’m tired of that voice.
Tired of searching for safety instead of being it.
If you haven't yet joined my inner circle of friends, my life-letter readers, please do. You will be the first person I share everything with. I'd love to have you. Go here to join us.
Brian and I recorded this audio-only episode while we were out at a café in Naoussa, Paros.
There’s a lot of background noise, people chatting, drills drilling, cars revving—but we left it all in because it felt real.
And that’s what this episode is: real.
The sound quality is a bit shit. Apologies. If you like it, and we keep this format, it will improve.
I’m not quite sure what's going on at the moment.
Life feels messy. Confusing. I feel as if something has cracked open in me. Maybe it’s grief. Maybe it’s the start of a new season. Maybe both. I don't know.
And that's what this episode is: Not knowing. Me, trying to untangle something I can’t fully name yet, and Brian offering his ever-wise and patient thoughts.
This episode is about grief—what it looks like when you’re in it: the confusion, the uncertainty, the messiness, the ache of something ending, or beginning, or both.
It’s also about shame.
About the fear of being seen—really seen.
About how hard it can be to hit publish when you're sharing something vulnerable.
About how I listened back to a recent episode and cringed—not because I wasn’t being real, but because I was.
This is us, a husband and wife, in the middle of the mess, figuring it out as we go.
If you’re in that place too, I hope this episode feels like a warm hand on your back.
Thank you for giving us your time and for offering us this space to figure things out. Please reach out by email. I answer every single message.
email: liz@itsadrama.com
My heart beats with yours.
Kia Kaha.
Liz and Brian x
PS: If you haven't yet joined my inner circle of friends, my life-letter readers, please do. You will be the first person I share everything with. I'd love to have you. Go here to join us.
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