Leave our 21 yr old daughter here? London's not what we expected
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We're in London. Where our 21-year-old daughter (now) desperately wants to live. I can relate. 30 years ago, two Cornish country bumpkins (Brian and I) moved to London from the south of England. We lasted 6 months before leaving. Now, our British/Kiwi daughter has decided to do the same. She wants to stop travelling full-time with her family and live in London on her own. So we are here to settle her in. London has changed. It is not what we thought. Here are some big changes that shocked us. So much so, we decided to walk through the East End of London and share them with you. 'Cause...
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The Verdict. Back to New Zealand. Or Not.
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Brian and Liz, husband and wife, have rented their New Zealand home for another year so they can continue their nomadic lifestyle around the world. Last week, we shared an awkward (but real) conversation about our conflicting opinions on whether we should return home to New Zealand to do the handover. We finally reached a decision, and today we want to share it with you. With all our love and gratitude from BC, Canada, Kia Kaha, Liz and Brian x Links mentioned in the show: 🇳🇿 LOVE NEW ZEALAND and want to know what life is like there? SIGN UP for our FREE . We will share 5 short videos...
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Return to New Zealand. Or Not.
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We held off sharing this episode. It's one of those uncomfortable (but real) conversations that married couples have when they need to get something sorted, but they can't seem to agree. These conversations usually happen in private. But. We strive to keep things real and remain honest with you on this podcast. So here we are. Awkwardness and all. Thank you for being part of this community. Of this journey. For making us feel brave enough to share not just the ups and the laughs and the funny stories, but the downs, the tears and the sweaty-palmed conversations. Conversations like this one. We...
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Parenting Young Adult Kids: Here's What Happened Last Night
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Parenting kids in their twenties is wonderful, daunting, fabulous, worrying, easy, really, really hard, joyful, exhausting, confusing, a privilege, expensive, ageing and a joy. We have been travelling the world as a family for a year. Next month, our kids will go their separate ways. Sonny will go to America, and Tess will live in London. Last night, we had a task. To go out for the night and talk to our kids separately. To find out what's going on and ask how they feel. Our results were poles apart. Here's what happened. We love you. Thank you for your gorgeous support. If you would...
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Canada. You did it
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We're bringing you this podcast episode from a frozen lake in the Canadian Rockies. British Columbia, Canada. Something happened last week that floored us. Literally. Something that we've waited 30 years to see. We love you. Thank you for your gorgeous support. If you would like to show us some love, you can do so by leaving us a review wherever you listen to this podcast. It would also be wonderful if you shared this episode with a friend. Kia Kaha, Liz and Brian x Links mentioned in the show: 🇳🇿 LOVE NEW ZEALAND and want to know what life is like there? SIGN UP for our...
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When Home Hurts More Than it Heals
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Brian, Liz and their two adult kids are house-sitting in British Columbia, Canada, for three months. Last week, they received a comment on their YouTube channel asking, "Where do you call home? " Today, they take you for a walk around their temporary Canadian neighbourhood and share their unscripted, vulnerable thoughts and feelings about Canada, New Zealand, leaving their kids, healing, and... a few other things I won't write here. Thank you. We love you, and we appreciate you more than you can imagine. Please don't forget to subscribe and say hi in the comments ❤️ Kia Kaha, Liz and Brian...
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Let's Talk about CANADA: One Month in, Here's What We Found
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Join Brian and Liz as they walk around their Canadian neighbourhood and share the insights they have gained during their first month housesitting as a family in British Columbia, Canada. Including Brian being the first on scene at a local fire emergency, to why Liz suddenly feels grounded. Thank you, we love you. Enjoy x Please note, this podcast was recorded the day before the terrible, horrific disaster that occurred in BC on Tuesday. Our hearts, love and immense sympathy go out to the families and friends of this unimaginable tragedy. Our love to you, Canada. Always. Liz and Brian ...
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Why We Choose Risk Over Comfort + Financial Sescurity | Life Lessons That Loss Has Taught U
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Last week, we received a comment on the podcast that said, "We would love to do what you are doing, but it seems too risky". In today's episode, we would like to address that comment and share a few life lessons grief has taught us. We would like to pass on the reason we travel the world, (even though we still have a big mortgage). This is why we do what we do. This is how we do it. We hope our words bring you clarity and inspiration. We love you. Thank you for your support and your wonderful comments. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend who needs it, and don't...
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We Moved Our Family to CANADA for Winter. Our Honest Thoughts a Week in...
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Brian and Liz, husband and wife, are in British Columbia, CANADA. They have packed their bags and, along with their two young adult kids, have embarked on a huge adventure: Housesitting for 3 months in British Columbia, CANADA. Join them today as they share their first impressions of returning to Canada with their kids and take you on a stroll through their very beautiful BC neighbourhood to spill the beans on: The surprise of Calgary Their kids spending the night with a homeless person Being locked out in the cold Driving in Canada and feeling out of control The importance of TRUST Fearing...
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We were wrong about America
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There are a few myths and misconceptions about America that we have found to be not true, and this week, we wanted to share our experiences with you. Brian and Liz, husband and wife, are in Colorado, USA. Join them today as they take you on a stroll through their (very American) neighbourhood to spill the beans on: Being stuck out in the middle of nowhere with a stranger. A USA myth that turns out to be true, (and one we wish we had) Liz’s shock reaction after the release of her new book The biggest American myth of all, and one that rocked these two (quite adventurous and brave) British New...
info_outline"It's been a year, get on with it".
If you are struggling with any kind of loss and want to feel supported and loved, this conversation is for you.
Not only will it help you, but you will see that you are normal, and, most importantly, not alone.
*This episode is part of our husband-and-wife healing conversations series. These podcast episodes are recorded outside. We are husband and wife, Liz and Brian, and we are currently staying on the Greek island of Paros with our two young adult kids as part of our year-long trip away from New Zealand.
The episode starts with us walking to a busy cafe. We invite you to come along with us and have a coffee and a chat. I think you need to hear this.
Kia kaha (stay strong), my brave friend. Liz and Brian x
PS: If you haven't yet joined my inner circle of friends, my life-letter readers, please do. You will be the first person I share everything with. I'd love to have you. Go here to join us.
I was beating myself up pretty badly in last week's behind-the-scenes outdoor podcast episode.
I was frustrated and hurting.
The thing is, I miraculously managed to get to be fifty-three years old without ever losing anyone significant in my life, so last year, when I lost both parents within a matter of months, I felt like I'd been thrown into the deep end of the murky waters of grief.
As you know, there is no handbook for how to grieve.
No guide, no nothing.
And I didn't know how to do it.
So I did what we all do, the only thing I knew how to do. I wiped my tears, stopped talking about it publicly, felt embarrassed if someone saw me with a tear-stained face and kept myself REALLY busy to hide the fact that I felt broken, lost and sinking in sadness.
In short, I did what I had been programmed to do. I got on with it. Hoped that it would all go away and never ever come back as long as I lived.
But now here I am. Sixteen months later. On this year-long trip. And, for the first time since my mum and dad died, I have time. Too much time, probably. And when you have lots of time and nothing to distract you, the feelings and emotions that have been pushed down into your toes bubble to the surface.
And the result is what you heard last week in this podcast.
Shame. Embarrassment. Resentment. Anger. Lost.
I am learning now (still learning) that this outburst, this wave of "I hate myself-ness", was a cry for help.
Because, like many of us who are grieving in a world that is too busy to stop, I didn't give myself the proper time.
Or attention.
I didn't know that grief is not just a "one-time-never-comes-back-emotion". That it needs to be honoured. Talked through. Given space. And time. As much time as it takes.
In this episode, Brian very patiently (god, I love this man) listens and advises while I remove the self-blame and shame veil. Remove it for all of us.
This is what a healing journey looks like.
This is grief. Showing up in the rawest, fullest, deepest, most desperately needing to be addressed kind of way.
I hope you feel my love and know that my heart will always beat with yours.
Stay strong, my darling friend.
Yours Liz x
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Liz and Brian x
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🔗 Here is the link to the grief podcast Liz talked about. Listen to is, it will help: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4eI76331jY7tDlwOOiqJlA?si=x6sripXESXyyYRs-KhmTEg
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