#529 Modern Dating: How To Do It Well
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Release Date: 08/12/2024
Why Sexual Trauma Hurts Us So Deeply (& What Healing Looks Like), #602
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Some wounds don’t just live in your memories… they live in your body, in your relationships, and in your sense of safety. If you’ve ever wondered, “Can I be whole after sexual trauma?,” you’re not alone—and you’re not beyond healing. That's the question Juli is tackling this week. You’ll hear why sexual trauma uniquely affects identity and intimacy, how shame and self-blame keep us stuck, and what real sexual wholeness looks like. This conversation is for anyone who has experienced sexual trauma (or loves someone who has) and is wondering: Is healing really possible for...
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How To Date Well Without Losing Your Faith (Or Your Heart), #601
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Their love story made headlines—but not for the reasons you might expect. In this conversation, CD and Melody Fabien share a completely different vision for dating—one rooted in purpose, boundaries, and hearing God’s voice. If you’re tired of hook-ups, ghosting, and the pressure of fast-paced dating, this episode is for you. Guest: CD & Melody Fabien Check out our brand-new . Follow-up Resources: Check out CD & Melody’s resources at Watch their news-worthy first kiss. Q&A: (video) Q&A: (video) by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Melody on...
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Why Sex Feels Hard (& How to Make it Amazing Again), #600
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Many married couples carry a secret: one of them doesn’t like sex—they may even dread it. For years, sex has felt more like obligation than pleasure, and they’ve quietly believed something must be wrong with them. This week, we’re tackling the unspoken question: “What if I’m married and I don’t like sex?” We’ll talk about the real reasons sex can feel difficult or even painful, and call out a few common lies that keep couples stuck. If you’ve ever felt confused, disappointed, or alone in your struggles with sex, this conversation offers hope, practical insight, and...
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Marriage in Survival Mode: Why Dates Still Matter, #194
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Life gets busy—especially with kids, work, and everyday stress. But research shows that couples who consistently make time for each other are significantly happier in their marriages. This week, we’re talking about why date nights matter more than you think. We’ll tackle common obstacles couples face, like exhaustion, busy schedules, lack of childcare, and awkward conversations. Plus, you’ll hear simple and practical tips to help you reconnect with your spouse—even in the busiest of seasons. Guests: Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: . Follow-up...
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The 5 Love Languages (& Why Your Spouse’s Love Tank Is Still Empty), #599
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You know your spouse’s love language, and you try to use it. So why is their love tank always running on empty? This week, we’re expanding the classic framework to include personality nuances, seasonal shifts, overdoing it (yes, that’s possible!), and love tank “leaks.” Plus, you’ll learn why gifts aren’t always about money and why physical touch isn’t always about sex. Join us for a conversation about moving past formulas and becoming a better student of the one you love. Guests: Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott Follow-up Resources: Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman talk...
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Does God Really Care if We Move in Together?, #598
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Maybe you’re already living together. Maybe this topic feels uncomfortable. Maybe you’ve never questioned it before. This week, Juli unpacks what God says about living together before marriage, what (secular) research is telling us, and how covenant—not convenience—creates lasting security. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso Tell us what you think! Follow-Up Resources: Preorder by Dr. Juli Slattery Q&A: Q&A: Follow Hannah Nitz Follow Joe Caruso at Follow Authentic Intimacy at
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Cultivating Courage: Why Men Need a New Vision for Manhood, #597
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Men get a lot of mixed messages about masculinity. Some say it’s toxic. Others say it doesn’t really matter anymore. It's no surprise guys are left wondering, “What does it even mean to be a good man?” This week, Juli sits down with Brant Hansen, author of The Men We Need, to get honest about the struggles men face and why true strength looks very different from the stereotypes we’re used to. This conversation is an invitation to see manhood not as a problem to fix, but as a calling worth stepping into. Guest: What did you think about this conversation? . Follow-up...
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What’s Okay in the Bedroom? (You Have More Freedom Than You Think), #596
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What’s okay in the bedroom—and how are married couples supposed to know? In this episode, Juli doesn’t hand you a checklist. Instead, she walks you through three questions every couple can ask when navigating gray areas in the bedroom. From pornography and fantasy to sex toys and more, this conversation helps you discern where you may need to draw a line and where you may need to step out of your comfort zone. Joined by Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso, this episode marks the kick off of a new series inspired by Juli’s newly revised, upcoming book, 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask...
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Bye Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships, #323
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Are awkward “side hugs” the best we can do when it comes to opposite-sex friendships? Juli sits down with author Bronwyn Lea, who helps us rethink what it means to live as brothers and sisters in God’s family. They talk about why we often confuse intimacy with sexuality, how Jesus modeled close, non-romantic relationships, and what healthy Christian community can look like (even in a sex-saturated world). Listen in to discover how moving beyond fear-based boundaries can lead to more connection and stronger, life-giving friendships in the body of Christ. Guest: Follow-up...
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4 Lies We Believe About Sex, #595
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Juli unpacks four of the most common (and subtle) lies we believe about sex, desire, and compatibility. From “sex is about expressing myself” to “the best sex is compatible sex,” they explore how these ideas shape our relationships—and how God invites you into something deeper. If you’ve ever felt stuck, confused, or distant from God because of sexuality, pull up a chair—this conversation is for you. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso in your favorite podcast app. Follow-up Resources: by Dr. Juli Slattery by Dr. Juli Slattery Follow Authentic Intimacy at ...
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Kait and JJ Tomlin from Heart of Dating join Juli to help singles navigate the ups and downs of modern dating.
Guests: Kait and JJ Tomlin
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Book: Thank You for Rejecting Me by Kait Warman Tomlin
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