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Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us, #407

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Release Date: 01/12/2026

What if I'm Attracted to Someone Who Isn't My Spouse? #606

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

This week, Juli sits down with Joe and Hannah to tackle the question: What do you do when you’re attracted to someone who isn’t your spouse? Together, they unpack the reality that attraction outside of marriage isn’t a matter of if, but when. From the myth of “soulmates” to the powerful role of brain chemistry, this conversation explores why these feelings happen, and why they don’t have to define your choices. You’ll also learn how small decisions, honesty, and intentional investment in your marriage can protect what matters most. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso Check out...

Can I Still Be Loved? Faith, STIs, and the Journey Out of Shame, #605

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Shame has a way of convincing us to hide. But Jesus doesn’t turn away from your shame. He steps toward it. This week, Juli sits down with Dr. Carol Tanksley and Allie Mazur to shed light on the often unspoken reality of living with an STI. Together, they unpack the weight of shame, the fear of rejection, and the questions that can follow a diagnosis like herpes. You’ll be reminded that while consequences of sin may linger, they don’t have the final word. Jesus meets us right in the middle of our brokenness, offering freedom, healing, and hope. If you’ve ever felt like your...

How Do You Keep Married Sex Exciting?, #604

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Married sex doesn’t just “stay hot”...but you can fan the flames to create something even more meaningful (and longer-lasting) than honeymoon sex. This week, we’re talking about how to keep married sex exciting over the long haul. You’ll learn about the shift that happens in long-term relationships, why desire can fade into routine, and what actually helps bring the spark back. No theory. No pressure. Just real-life rhythms and practical ways you can reconnect emotionally and physically with your spouse. If you’ve ever thought “we’re good... but it’s not like it used to...

5 Ways To Navigate Differences & Build a Stronger Marriage, #603

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

One of you is ready to leave early. The other is still looking for their shoes. Welcome to marriage. This week, Juli and Mike are on stage at the Love Like You Mean It Cruise! Live and unfiltered, they talk honestly about how their differences have shown up in parenting, intimacy, and their pace of life—and how they’ve learned to let those differences draw them closer, instead of driving them apart. Guest: Mike Slattery Join Mike & Juli on the in 2027! Follow-up Resources: (blog) Q&A: (video) (blog)

Why Sexual Trauma Hurts Us So Deeply (& What Healing Looks Like), #602

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Some wounds don’t just live in your memories… they live in your body, in your relationships, and in your sense of safety. If you’ve ever wondered, “Can I be whole after sexual trauma?,” you’re not alone—and you’re not beyond healing. That's the question Juli is tackling this week. You’ll hear why sexual trauma uniquely affects identity and intimacy, how shame and self-blame keep us stuck, and what real sexual wholeness looks like. This conversation is for anyone who has experienced sexual trauma (or loves someone who has) and is wondering: Is healing really possible for...

How To Date Well Without Losing Your Faith (Or Your Heart), #601

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Their love story made headlines—but not for the reasons you might expect. In this conversation, CD and Melody Fabien share a completely different vision for dating—one rooted in purpose, boundaries, and hearing God’s voice. If you’re tired of hook-ups, ghosting, and the pressure of fast-paced dating, this episode is for you. Guest: CD & Melody Fabien Check out our brand-new . Follow-up Resources: Check out CD & Melody’s resources at Watch their news-worthy first kiss. Q&A: (video) Q&A: (video) by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Melody on...

Why Sex Feels Hard (& How to Make it Amazing Again), #600

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Many married couples carry a secret: one of them doesn’t like sex—they may even dread it. For years, sex has felt more like obligation than pleasure, and they’ve quietly believed something must be wrong with them. This week, we’re tackling the unspoken question: “What if I’m married and I don’t like sex?” We’ll talk about the real reasons sex can feel difficult or even painful, and call out a few common lies that keep couples stuck. If you’ve ever felt confused, disappointed, or alone in your struggles with sex, this conversation offers hope, practical insight, and...

Marriage in Survival Mode: Why Dates Still Matter, #194

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Life gets busy—especially with kids, work, and everyday stress. But research shows that couples who consistently make time for each other are significantly happier in their marriages. This week, we’re talking about why date nights matter more than you think. We’ll tackle common obstacles couples face, like exhaustion, busy schedules, lack of childcare, and awkward conversations. Plus, you’ll hear simple and practical tips to help you reconnect with your spouse—even in the busiest of seasons. Guests: Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: . Follow-up...

The 5 Love Languages (& Why Your Spouse’s Love Tank Is Still Empty), #599

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

You know your spouse’s love language, and you try to use it. So why is their love tank always running on empty? This week, we’re expanding the classic framework to include personality nuances, seasonal shifts, overdoing it (yes, that’s possible!), and love tank “leaks.” Plus, you’ll learn why gifts aren’t always about money and why physical touch isn’t always about sex. Join us for a conversation about moving past formulas and becoming a better student of the one you love. Guests: Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott Follow-up Resources: Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman talk...

Does God Really Care if We Move in Together?, #598

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Maybe you’re already living together. Maybe this topic feels uncomfortable. Maybe you’ve never questioned it before. This week, Juli unpacks what God says about living together before marriage, what (secular) research is telling us, and how covenant—not convenience—creates lasting security. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso Tell us what you think! Follow-Up Resources: Preorder by Dr. Juli Slattery Q&A: Q&A: Follow Hannah Nitz Follow Joe Caruso at Follow Authentic Intimacy at

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There’s more to the masturbation conversation than simply “right” or “wrong.” Could it be an issue of spiritual maturity for some of us—whether we’re married or single? Can it be used in a healthy way in marriage? Join us to have your thinking challenged!

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