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3 Things Christians Do That Shut Down Healing After Betrayal, #593

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Release Date: 01/19/2026

Why Sexual Trauma Hurts Us So Deeply (& What Healing Looks Like), #602

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Some wounds don’t just live in your memories… they live in your body, in your relationships, and in your sense of safety. If you’ve ever wondered, “Can I be whole after sexual trauma?,” you’re not alone—and you’re not beyond healing. That's the question Juli is tackling this week. You’ll hear why sexual trauma uniquely affects identity and intimacy, how shame and self-blame keep us stuck, and what real sexual wholeness looks like. This conversation is for anyone who has experienced sexual trauma (or loves someone who has) and is wondering: Is healing really possible for...

How To Date Well Without Losing Your Faith (Or Your Heart), #601

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Their love story made headlines—but not for the reasons you might expect. In this conversation, CD and Melody Fabien share a completely different vision for dating—one rooted in purpose, boundaries, and hearing God’s voice. If you’re tired of hook-ups, ghosting, and the pressure of fast-paced dating, this episode is for you. Guest: CD & Melody Fabien Check out our brand-new . Follow-up Resources: Check out CD & Melody’s resources at Watch their news-worthy first kiss. Q&A: (video) Q&A: (video) by Juli Slattery (blog) Follow Melody on...

Why Sex Feels Hard (& How to Make it Amazing Again), #600

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Many married couples carry a secret: one of them doesn’t like sex—they may even dread it. For years, sex has felt more like obligation than pleasure, and they’ve quietly believed something must be wrong with them. This week, we’re tackling the unspoken question: “What if I’m married and I don’t like sex?” We’ll talk about the real reasons sex can feel difficult or even painful, and call out a few common lies that keep couples stuck. If you’ve ever felt confused, disappointed, or alone in your struggles with sex, this conversation offers hope, practical insight, and...

Marriage in Survival Mode: Why Dates Still Matter, #194

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Life gets busy—especially with kids, work, and everyday stress. But research shows that couples who consistently make time for each other are significantly happier in their marriages. This week, we’re talking about why date nights matter more than you think. We’ll tackle common obstacles couples face, like exhaustion, busy schedules, lack of childcare, and awkward conversations. Plus, you’ll hear simple and practical tips to help you reconnect with your spouse—even in the busiest of seasons. Guests: Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: . Follow-up...

The 5 Love Languages (& Why Your Spouse’s Love Tank Is Still Empty), #599

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

You know your spouse’s love language, and you try to use it. So why is their love tank always running on empty? This week, we’re expanding the classic framework to include personality nuances, seasonal shifts, overdoing it (yes, that’s possible!), and love tank “leaks.” Plus, you’ll learn why gifts aren’t always about money and why physical touch isn’t always about sex. Join us for a conversation about moving past formulas and becoming a better student of the one you love. Guests: Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott Follow-up Resources: Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman talk...

Does God Really Care if We Move in Together?, #598

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Maybe you’re already living together. Maybe this topic feels uncomfortable. Maybe you’ve never questioned it before. This week, Juli unpacks what God says about living together before marriage, what (secular) research is telling us, and how covenant—not convenience—creates lasting security. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso Tell us what you think! Follow-Up Resources: Preorder by Dr. Juli Slattery Q&A: Q&A: Follow Hannah Nitz Follow Joe Caruso at Follow Authentic Intimacy at

Cultivating Courage: Why Men Need a New Vision for Manhood, #597

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Men get a lot of mixed messages about masculinity. Some say it’s toxic. Others say it doesn’t really matter anymore. It's no surprise guys are left wondering, “What does it even mean to be a good man?” This week, Juli sits down with Brant Hansen, author of The Men We Need, to get honest about the struggles men face and why true strength looks very different from the stereotypes we’re used to. This conversation is an invitation to see manhood not as a problem to fix, but as a calling worth stepping into. Guest: What did you think about this conversation? . Follow-up...

What’s Okay in the Bedroom? (You Have More Freedom Than You Think), #596

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

What’s okay in the bedroom—and how are married couples supposed to know? In this episode, Juli doesn’t hand you a checklist. Instead, she walks you through three questions every couple can ask when navigating gray areas in the bedroom. From pornography and fantasy to sex toys and more, this conversation helps you discern where you may need to draw a line and where you may need to step out of your comfort zone. Joined by Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso, this episode marks the kick off of a new series inspired by Juli’s newly revised, upcoming book, 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask...

Bye Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships, #323

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Are awkward “side hugs” the best we can do when it comes to opposite-sex friendships? Juli sits down with author Bronwyn Lea, who helps us rethink what it means to live as brothers and sisters in God’s family. They talk about why we often confuse intimacy with sexuality, how Jesus modeled close, non-romantic relationships, and what healthy Christian community can look like (even in a sex-saturated world). Listen in to discover how moving beyond fear-based boundaries can lead to more connection and stronger, life-giving friendships in the body of Christ. Guest: Follow-up...

4 Lies We Believe About Sex, #595

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Juli unpacks four of the most common (and subtle) lies we believe about sex, desire, and compatibility. From “sex is about expressing myself” to “the best sex is compatible sex,” they explore how these ideas shape our relationships—and how God invites you into something deeper. If you’ve ever felt stuck, confused, or distant from God because of sexuality, pull up a chair—this conversation is for you. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso in your favorite podcast app. Follow-up Resources: by Dr. Juli Slattery by Dr. Juli Slattery Follow Authentic Intimacy at ...

More Episodes

If you’re trying to heal after betrayal, you may be doing everything you were taught to do—and still feel stuck.

Sometimes we unintentionally sabotage our own healing—all in the name of love and forgiveness. Instead of feeling better, you end up feeling silenced, unsafe, and confused about why healing hasn’t happened.

Author and counselor Tammy Gustafson joins Juli to share four necessary phases of healing, and three common mistakes that actually shut it down. With clinical insight and biblical wisdom, this conversation will help you move forward with strength and hope.

Guest: Tammy Gustafson, LPC

Follow-up Resources:

Preorder Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal (comes out Jan. 27)

Take the Betrayal Healing Quiz to find what phase of the journey you’re in.

Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?

Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?

Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage by Drs. Chuck and Mike Misja (for the betrayed spouse who stays in a marriage even though their spouse is not doing the work needed to heal)

Follow Tammy at @tammylgustafson

Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

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