When the Milestone Isn’t Your Age
How She Really Does It
We’re taught that birthdays only count when they’re culturally considered milestones. Forty. Fifty. Fifty-five. Sixty. Anything in between, you are supposed to let quietly pass. This year, at fifty-four, I did something different. Not because of my age, but because of who I am becoming. And it brought up far more than I expected. If you have ever wanted to do something for yourself + felt that quiet pull of who do you think you are, this episode about taking up space in your life is for you. WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER • Why a milestone of being can...
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We’re Back Together Again
How She Really Does It
Twenty-one years ago, Trudi Roth stood on my lawn + told me I needed to write a book. I didn't write the book. I started this show instead. Trudi + I have been friends through all of it. Raising kids. Building businesses. Supporting our spouses. There were seasons we were deep in our own worlds. But every time we came back together it was as if no time had passed at all. That's what a true friendship looks like: closeness, vulnerability, + time away. In this episode we are back together again, + we are kicking off something I have been wanting to do for a long time. I think you are going to...
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Beginning Again: The Return
How She Really Does It
I’m back. After more than two years away, I’m returning to the podcast I’ve been hosting since 2006, and I’m not pretending the time away was tidy or planned. This episode is an honest look behind the curtain at what really happened, what kept me from returning sooner, and what I've learned about leadership, resilience, and beginning again. If you've ever had a project, dream, or part of yourself that you've struggled to return to, this conversation is for you. WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER • Why my pause lasted over two years instead of the two months...
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The Pause
How She Really Does It
Last year, I found myself on a retreat utterly exhausted. I knew I was craving more space in my life and business. So in the fall, I started doing just that. I began shutting down certain lines of business while continuing to do high-quality work with my clients, and after 17 and a half years and over 1000 episodes, I’ve made the decision to hit pause on the podcast too. Join me this week as I share why my soul is craving space, rest, and even boredom, how I’m creating more space in my life and business by hitting the pause button, and the endless possibilities that I believe...
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Being the Leader of Your Life: Owning Your Role
How She Really Does It
As a child, we had parents, teachers and other authoritative figures to lead the way. But as we make our move into adulthood, it can become difficult to step into leadership roles - in any aspect of our lives. In fact, this is a topic I discuss with my clients regularly. So I’d like to emphasize that leadership is about identity and way of being, rather than titles merely bestowed upon us by others. Tune in to discover the importance of self-trust, self-compassion, and self-accountability in being the leader of your life. By embracing agency, taking ownership and leading with integrity and...
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Unlocking Connection: The Power of Vulnerability and Feedback
How She Really Does It
As a leadership coach, one of the things I do a lot of coaching on is communication. Communication can be scary and intimidating. Maybe it’s something you think you should know how to do, but let me tell you, it’s a learnable skill. In this episode, I share the story of one of my clients from a situation where she was brave and gave positive feedback to someone. Discover what makes you feel safe, and if it involves refraining from clear communication with others, you’ll learn how to cultivate the skillset of communication. Get full show notes and more information...
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Managing the Unknown: Face Your Fear and Anxiety Head-On
How She Really Does It
Sometimes, when you become so anxious about what’s going to happen, you may start to under-function, allowing the unknown to manage you instead of managing it. This week, I’m discussing moving into the unknown, whether it involves performances, events, or waiting for a diagnoses. Tune in this week to learn how to become a compassionate observer in your life and embrace the vulnerability that comes with uncertainty. I’ll share the challenges I faced in navigating the unknown during my senior year of college and how I had stealth expectations about ending my college career....
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Expectations vs. Requirements: The Importance of Getting Clear
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Are any of your expectations influenced by fear, shame, and magical thinking? These are called stealth expectations and they will go unnoticed until they resurface when challenges occur. It’s crucial to be aware of them and to know how to recognize if you have stealth expectations. In this episode, I discuss the impact stealth expectations can have on you if you don’t pay attention to what’s going on inside yourself, and how to start creating self-awareness around the things that you expect. Get full show notes and more information here:
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You Don't Need a Re-do: Learning from the Present
How She Really Does It
How amazing would it be to go back in time and change the way you did things? Recently, during multiple sessions with clients, the topic of how wonderful it would be to be a freshman in college again came up. It made me think about the fantasy of going back in time with the knowledge that we have now and changing the way we did things then. If you’re experiencing similar thoughts, tune in this week to discover how everything you've learned over the years is valuable, and how to use all this knowledge you have in the present to create the future you desire. Get full show notes...
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How to Thrive During Life's Unexpected Challenges
How She Really Does It
Loss, empty nesting, challenges at work - these are obstacles we didn’t picture when we thought of adulthood, and sometimes, we want to avoid them. In today’s episode, I talk about how vulnerability is part of life and how to overcome the heartache and obstacles that we encounter. Tune in this week to learn why the belief that there’s a way to avoid difficult times actually creates pain and how to find ways to navigate through them. I also explore the importance of embracing life’s heartwarming moments and share some resources to help you recover and move forward. Get...
info_outlineAs the new year approaches, there’s a lot of talk about being your best self for 2024. While the definition varies from one person to another, something high achievers all have in common is setting unrealistic standards for what it means to be our best selves.
This week, I discuss what being your best self every day looks like and why having unrealistic expectations leads to exhaustion rather than learning and growing. We’ll explore different simple things you can do to have realistic standards of what is possible for you to do in one day.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3RG80HI