403: Real Love vs Trauma Bonding: How To Tell The Difference And Heal
Release Date: 06/25/2025
431: Margaret Paul on How to Love Without Losing Yourself
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“Your feelings aren’t the problem. They’re the guidance.” What if the real reason relationships hurt so much isn’t who you’re with, but how you relate to yourself? In this profound and eye-opening conversation, Dr. Margaret Paul, bestselling author and creator of Inner Bonding, joins Kute Blackson to dismantle some of the most common and damaging myths about love, relationships, self-worth, and responsibility. This episode goes far beyond romantic relationships. It dives into the invisible emotional systems we carry into marriage, parenting, friendships, spirituality, and...
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430: The Real Reason You Procrastinate (And How to Stop Holding Yourself Back)
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“What you’re avoiding may be exactly why you’re here.” We all procrastinate. But what if it’s not because you’re lazy or undisciplined… What if there’s something deeper going on? In this episode of SoulTalk, I share a different way of understanding procrastination — one that’s more honest, more compassionate, and more empowering. Instead of beating yourself up for the things you haven’t done, we’ll explore what might really be behind the delay. Sometimes, the very thing you’re avoiding is the thing that could change your life. But there’s a reason...
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429: Wim Hof on Break Through Your Limits: The Hidden Power of Breath, Pain and Cold
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“I’m not afraid to die. I’m afraid not to live.” What if everything you've been told about your limits… was a lie? In this rare, raw, and unfiltered conversation, Kute Blackson sits down with the legendary Wim Hof—also known as The Iceman—to explore the true potential of the human spirit. Wim doesn’t speak from theory. He speaks from fire-tested experience: plunging into frozen waters, scaling mountains in shorts, and surviving the loss of his beloved wife while raising four children alone. But more than his feats, it’s what those experiences unlocked in...
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428: The Hidden Purpose in Your Pain: How Life Breaks You Open To Prepare You For Your Mission
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
"Your pain wasn’t sent to break you down. It was sent to break you through.” Have you ever wondered why the people you loved the most walked away, why the path you trusted suddenly crumbled beneath your feet, or why life sometimes breaks your heart in ways you never saw coming? In this episode of Soul Talk, I invite you into a profound exploration of one of life’s greatest mysteries, the hidden purpose inside your pain. This conversation is a journey into the soul-level truth behind your heartbreaks, disappointments, delays, and breakdowns. Together, we peel back the layers of...
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427: The Purpose Summit 2026 - Register for Free
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
Join me and Register For Free! The Purpose Summit 2026. From January 12th to January 20th.
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426: Collete Baron-Reid on The Art of Manifesting: Why Letting Go Changes Everything
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“Your desire is an acorn with success built into it.” What if the universe wasn’t something to command, but something to collaborate with, a living intelligence responding not to your wishes, but to your being? In this SoulTalk episode, I sit down with world-renowned intuitive, bestselling author, and spiritual teacher Colette Baron-Reid once again to reveal the deeper, often misunderstood art of manifesting, not as a formula, but as a spiritual practice. Together we journey into what Colette calls the sacred partnership, a dynamic relationship between your...
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425: How To Break The Illusion Of Feeling Not Enough
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“Your enoughness is not determined by what you do.” Have you ever felt that no matter what you do, how much you achieve, how hard you work… it still doesn’t feel like enough? In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, I invite you into a deep exploration of one of the greatest illusions we carry as human beings, the lie that says, “I am not enough.” This conversation is a journey back to the truth of who you are. Together, we peel back the layers of childhood conditioning, emotional survival patterns, and unconscious programming that convinced you that your worth was something you had...
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424: Barnet Bain on How To Be A Friend ( In An Unfriendly World )
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“You cannot be more of a friend to others than you are to yourself.” What if friendship wasn’t meant to be effortless, but to make you more alive? What if every relationship, especially the most challenging ones, was a portal into your own expansion? In this episode of Soul Talk, I sit down with Barnet Bain, award-winning filmmaker, spiritual teacher, and author of How to Be a Friend in an Unfriendly World, to explore the sacred, often overlooked art of friending. Barnet reveals a radical truth: Most of us think we’re good friends, until the relationship becomes...
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423: How To Heal Your Ancestral Trauma And Transform Your Generations
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“You are the one your ancestors have been praying would come, to shift things for future generations.” Have you ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat in your life, no matter how hard you try to change? Maybe you keep attracting the same relationships, struggling with the same fears, or feeling emotions that don’t even seem like yours. In this episode of Soul Talk, I reveal the deeper truth about ancestral trauma, the invisible wounds passed down through generations, and how to finally free yourself from them. You’ll learn how to recognize what you’ve inherited,...
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422: Annie Lalla on The Secrets To Love That No One Tells You About
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“The opposite of dead is not happy, it’s alive. Love is about maximizing aliveness, not happiness.” What if love wasn’t meant to make you happy, but to make you whole? In this episode of Soul Talk, I sit down with Annie Lalla, world-renowned love coach and self-proclaimed Cartographer of Love, to explore what it truly means to love courageously, consciously, and completely. Annie’s insights are revolutionary. With compassion and razor-sharp wisdom, she reveals how every relationship is a mirror, a gymnasium for the soul, a sacred space where our deepest wounds meet our...
info_outline"Just because it feels intense does not mean it's love. Sometimes it’s simply your wounds shaking hands."
What if the intense connection you keep chasing… isn’t actually love?
In this powerful episode of SoulTalk, I dive deep into the difference between true, soul-aligned love — and trauma bonding disguised as passion. So many of us have been conditioned to equate emotional chaos with chemistry. But real love? It doesn’t spike your anxiety. It soothes it.
I break down how early wounds shape our patterns in relationships, why we confuse familiarity with fate, and how the nervous system plays a hidden role in who we’re drawn to. I’ll also share personal stories, raw truth, and grounded spiritual insights to help you recognize when you’re stuck in a trauma loop — and how to finally break free.
If you’ve ever asked:
“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of relationship?”
“Why does love feel so exhausting?”
…this episode will give you clarity — and a path to healing.
You’ll learn how to rewire your nervous system, reconnect with your inner child, and feel the difference between drama and devotion. This isn’t about blame. It’s about liberation.
Tune in now and discover what real, healthy, soul-nourishing love actually feels like — and how to stop calling chaos your soulmate.
Timestamps:
- (00:03:36) - Why Intensity Isn’t Always Love.
- (00:06:32) - Nervous System Conditioning: Why We Choose Familiar Pain.
- (00:09:01) - What a Trauma Bond Really Feels Like.
- (00:12:07) - The Truth: Trauma Bond ≠ Love.
- (00:14:10) - Real-Life Story: Kute’s Experience Meeting His Wife.
- (00:16:44) - How to Recognize Real Love. And What it's not.
- (00:20:11) - Reparenting: Healing the Inner Child.
- (00:21:18) - Breaking the Cortisol Loop and Restoring Safety.
- (00:25:39) - When Ordinary Moments Feel Sacred.
Some questions I ask:
- Is the love you feel calming or chaotic?
- Are you truly in love or addicted to feeling wanted?
- How can you tell if you’re stuck in a trauma loop disguised as passion?
- Why does love have to be hard?
- Is your “type” truly your preference or just your nervous system’s conditioning?
In this episode, you will learn about:
- How to recognize the difference between real love and trauma bonding to stop confusing emotional chaos for a soul connection.
- Why intense chemistry isn't always true love and how your nervous system may be drawn to familiar pain.
- The key signs that you're trapped in a trauma loop and how to break free from toxic relationship patterns.
- What secure, grounded love feels like, so you can attract healthy, lasting relationships.
- How to reparent your inner child to heal emotional wounds and stop choosing emotionally unavailable partners.
- Powerful tools to calm your nervous system and create the safety needed to experience real intimacy.
Get in Touch:
- Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.com
- Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com
- Resources with Kute Blackson:
- Kute’s Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com
- Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com