407: The Deeper Reasons Why You Sabotage And How To Finally Stop
Release Date: 07/23/2025
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info_outline“You don’t sabotage because you’re afraid to fail. You sabotage because you’re afraid of how powerful you truly are.”
Have you ever noticed how things finally start going well — you're in a loving relationship, making more money, feeling happier — and out of nowhere… you pull back? You overthink. You pick a fight. You overspend. You sabotage.
But here's the truth:
Self-sabotage is not failure — it’s protection.
It’s not that you’re broken. It’s that a part of you is trying to keep you safe, even if that means holding you back from everything you’ve prayed for.
In this soul-stirring episode, we’re going deep into the real reasons why we sabotage the good in our lives — the subconscious fears, the childhood survival strategies, the nervous system that equates success with danger.
It’s time to stop blaming yourself.
It’s time to hold yourself with compassion.
And most of all — to finally allow yourself to receive what you’ve always deserved.
Tune in and learn how to stop sabotaging what you truly deserve.
Timestamps
- (00:02:20) – The Pattern of Self-Sabotage
Why we often push away love, success, and abundance just as they begin to flow into our lives. - (00:03:55) – The Hidden Roots of Sabotage
Self-sabotage isn’t failure — it’s a subconscious survival strategy. You’re not broken. You’re protecting yourself. - (00:06:10) – Why You Reject What You Want
The subconscious mind doesn’t follow your desires — it follows familiarity and emotional safety. - (00:07:35) – When Success Feels Unsafe
How childhood associations with love, money, or praise shape the way you receive (or reject) good things. - (00:09:15) – You Can’t Override Your Nervous System with a Vision Board
Why affirmations and mindset shifts aren’t enough without nervous system healing. - (00:10:20) – Compassion is the Key to Transformation
Don’t shame the pattern. Name it. Ask yourself: what part of me is trying to protect me right now? - (00:11:20) – The “Upper Limit” Phenomenon
How feeling “too good” can trigger unconscious sabotage — and what to do when that urge hits. - (00:12:15) – Make Your Body Feel Safe with Goodness
Gently teach your nervous system that it’s safe to receive, expand, and feel joy. - (00:13:15) – Transformation Happens in Small Steps
Why small daily actions create deep and lasting change without overwhelming your system. - (00:14:10) – Rehearsing Receiving
Use imagination and emotion to normalize success, love, and abundance in your body. - (00:15:00) – Track and Celebrate Your Growth
Acknowledge each moment you respond differently. This builds self-trust and integration. - (00:15:55) – You’re Not Afraid of Failure — You’re Afraid of Your Power
We sabotage not because we’re weak, but because struggle feels safer than the unknown. - (00:16:50) – Your Soul Thrives in the Unknown
True healing is remembering: you are already love, already worthy, already enough. - (00:17:50) – Final Reflection and Invitation
Some Questions I Ask:
- Why do I sabotage myself when things start going well?
- Why do I pull away just when I’m finally being loved the way I always wanted?
- Why, when I start earning more money, do I do something that ruins my finances?
- Why do I reject what I say I want?
- If love is present… why do I feel unsafe?
- What makes success or stability feel like a threat?
- What part of me is trying to protect me right now?
- Am I truly in danger… or am I just unfamiliar with feeling this good?
In This Episode, You Will Learn
- How to recognize the hidden patterns of self-sabotage.
- Why your sabotage isn’t a weakness — but a form of self-protection.
- The connection between your nervous system and your capacity to receive love, success, and abundance.
- How past experiences shaped what feels “safe” — even when it hurts.
- Why your subconscious doesn’t follow your desires, but your emotional history.
- How to stop judging yourself and start healing with compassion.
- Simple daily practices to gently rewire your inner response to good things.
- How to feel safe in love, in wealth, and in your own power.
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- Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com
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