409: The Loneliness Of Being The Strong One: Learning How to Receive
Release Date: 08/05/2025
431: Margaret Paul on How to Love Without Losing Yourself
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“Your feelings aren’t the problem. They’re the guidance.” What if the real reason relationships hurt so much isn’t who you’re with, but how you relate to yourself? In this profound and eye-opening conversation, Dr. Margaret Paul, bestselling author and creator of Inner Bonding, joins Kute Blackson to dismantle some of the most common and damaging myths about love, relationships, self-worth, and responsibility. This episode goes far beyond romantic relationships. It dives into the invisible emotional systems we carry into marriage, parenting, friendships, spirituality, and...
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430: The Real Reason You Procrastinate (And How to Stop Holding Yourself Back)
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“What you’re avoiding may be exactly why you’re here.” We all procrastinate. But what if it’s not because you’re lazy or undisciplined… What if there’s something deeper going on? In this episode of SoulTalk, I share a different way of understanding procrastination — one that’s more honest, more compassionate, and more empowering. Instead of beating yourself up for the things you haven’t done, we’ll explore what might really be behind the delay. Sometimes, the very thing you’re avoiding is the thing that could change your life. But there’s a reason...
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429: Wim Hof on Break Through Your Limits: The Hidden Power of Breath, Pain and Cold
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“I’m not afraid to die. I’m afraid not to live.” What if everything you've been told about your limits… was a lie? In this rare, raw, and unfiltered conversation, Kute Blackson sits down with the legendary Wim Hof—also known as The Iceman—to explore the true potential of the human spirit. Wim doesn’t speak from theory. He speaks from fire-tested experience: plunging into frozen waters, scaling mountains in shorts, and surviving the loss of his beloved wife while raising four children alone. But more than his feats, it’s what those experiences unlocked in...
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428: The Hidden Purpose in Your Pain: How Life Breaks You Open To Prepare You For Your Mission
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
"Your pain wasn’t sent to break you down. It was sent to break you through.” Have you ever wondered why the people you loved the most walked away, why the path you trusted suddenly crumbled beneath your feet, or why life sometimes breaks your heart in ways you never saw coming? In this episode of Soul Talk, I invite you into a profound exploration of one of life’s greatest mysteries, the hidden purpose inside your pain. This conversation is a journey into the soul-level truth behind your heartbreaks, disappointments, delays, and breakdowns. Together, we peel back the layers of...
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427: The Purpose Summit 2026 - Register for Free
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
Join me and Register For Free! The Purpose Summit 2026. From January 12th to January 20th.
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426: Collete Baron-Reid on The Art of Manifesting: Why Letting Go Changes Everything
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“Your desire is an acorn with success built into it.” What if the universe wasn’t something to command, but something to collaborate with, a living intelligence responding not to your wishes, but to your being? In this SoulTalk episode, I sit down with world-renowned intuitive, bestselling author, and spiritual teacher Colette Baron-Reid once again to reveal the deeper, often misunderstood art of manifesting, not as a formula, but as a spiritual practice. Together we journey into what Colette calls the sacred partnership, a dynamic relationship between your...
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425: How To Break The Illusion Of Feeling Not Enough
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“Your enoughness is not determined by what you do.” Have you ever felt that no matter what you do, how much you achieve, how hard you work… it still doesn’t feel like enough? In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, I invite you into a deep exploration of one of the greatest illusions we carry as human beings, the lie that says, “I am not enough.” This conversation is a journey back to the truth of who you are. Together, we peel back the layers of childhood conditioning, emotional survival patterns, and unconscious programming that convinced you that your worth was something you had...
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424: Barnet Bain on How To Be A Friend ( In An Unfriendly World )
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“You cannot be more of a friend to others than you are to yourself.” What if friendship wasn’t meant to be effortless, but to make you more alive? What if every relationship, especially the most challenging ones, was a portal into your own expansion? In this episode of Soul Talk, I sit down with Barnet Bain, award-winning filmmaker, spiritual teacher, and author of How to Be a Friend in an Unfriendly World, to explore the sacred, often overlooked art of friending. Barnet reveals a radical truth: Most of us think we’re good friends, until the relationship becomes...
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423: How To Heal Your Ancestral Trauma And Transform Your Generations
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“You are the one your ancestors have been praying would come, to shift things for future generations.” Have you ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat in your life, no matter how hard you try to change? Maybe you keep attracting the same relationships, struggling with the same fears, or feeling emotions that don’t even seem like yours. In this episode of Soul Talk, I reveal the deeper truth about ancestral trauma, the invisible wounds passed down through generations, and how to finally free yourself from them. You’ll learn how to recognize what you’ve inherited,...
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422: Annie Lalla on The Secrets To Love That No One Tells You About
SoulTalk with Kute Blackson
“The opposite of dead is not happy, it’s alive. Love is about maximizing aliveness, not happiness.” What if love wasn’t meant to make you happy, but to make you whole? In this episode of Soul Talk, I sit down with Annie Lalla, world-renowned love coach and self-proclaimed Cartographer of Love, to explore what it truly means to love courageously, consciously, and completely. Annie’s insights are revolutionary. With compassion and razor-sharp wisdom, she reveals how every relationship is a mirror, a gymnasium for the soul, a sacred space where our deepest wounds meet our...
info_outline“Strength without allowing support often becomes self-abandonment.”
Have you ever found yourself being the one everyone leans on, the strong one, the steady one, the one who always shows up? You’re the rock, the caretaker, the leader. But beneath the surface, there’s a quiet ache. A deep fatigue. A part of you is wondering, “When is it my turn to be held?”
In this episode of Soul Talk, I open up about the hidden cost of strength. From my early years as the son of a healer and spiritual leader, to the emotional weight I carried as a child, I share how becoming the “strong one” became my identity, and how it nearly kept me from truly healing.
We dive into the psychology of hyper-independence, the nervous system’s response to unmet childhood needs, and why so many of us find it easier to give than to receive. This episode is a wake-up call for the silent warriors, the ones who show up for everyone but struggle to let anyone show up for them.
Tune into this episode and learn how to release the pressure to be everything for everyone, reconnect to your own needs, and open your heart to receiving the love and support you deserve.
True strength isn’t about carrying it all alone. It’s about being human. Vulnerable. Seen. You were never meant to do this life by yourself, and you don’t have to anymore.
Timestamps:
- (00:04:36) - Kute’s early life as the “emotional caretaker”
- (00:05:35) - The role of the strong one: survival vs. choice
- (00:07:36) - Childhood roots of emotional independence
- (00:09:02) - Why it’s hard to receive: control, vulnerability, and trauma
- (00:11:56) - The praise trap: being rewarded for not needing
- (00:13:07) - What it costs to carry the load alone
- (00:15:57) - Healing through love: Kute’s personal shift
- (00:17:42) - Practical steps to open up and receive support
- (00:18:45) - Let yourself be helped and supported by the Divine
- (00:21:08) - A request: check in on someone strong in your life
- (00:22:04) - You’re allowed to receive, because you’re human
Some questions I ask:
- Why do we struggle to ask for help?
- What childhood roles or dynamics shape our hyper-independence?
- How does being strong all the time become self-abandonment?
- Why is receiving sometimes more vulnerable than giving?
- What small steps can we take to invite support into our lives?
In this episode, you will learn about:
- Why constantly being the “strong one” can lead to hidden emotional exhaustion
- How childhood roles and early emotional conditioning shape your ability to receive love and support
- The surprising ways hyper-independence is actually a coping mechanism rooted in trauma
- How to recognize the unconscious beliefs that make asking for help feel unsafe or weak
- Why receiving is not a weakness, but a courageous act of trust, vulnerability, and healing
- Practical ways to soften your defenses, open your heart, and invite support into your life
- How allowing yourself to be supported transforms not only your relationships, but your entire capacity to thrive
Get in Touch:
- Email me at kuteblackson@kuteblackson.com
- Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com
- Resources with Kute Blackson:
- Kute’s Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com
- Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com