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186. Attachment to Self: The Cornerstone of Healing with Mili Shoemaker

Lessons from the Playroom

Release Date: 02/11/2025

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So much of our healing lies in our ability to come home to ourselves.” – Lisa Dion

In this episode, Lisa is joined by Mili Shoemaker, a Synergetic Play Therapy supervisor trainer, long-time consultant, and dear friend. Together, they dive into one of the most foundational concepts in Synergetic Play Therapy: attachment to self.

Join Lisa and Mili as they explore:

  • How attachment to self differs from traditional attachment theories.
  • Why moments of mindful awareness are key to healing and integration.
  • The connection between attachment styles, perception, and self-regulation.
  • Practical ways therapists can foster attachment to self within themselves and their clients.
  • Personal stories and reflections on the profound impact of this concept in therapy and beyond.

Lisa also shares actionable insights, including a reflective exercise to observe and strengthen your connection to self throughout your week.

Whether you’re a therapist, a parent, or someone curious about deepening your self-awareness, this episode is packed with transformative insights.

Grab a notebook, and tune in to learn why attachment to self is not only the cornerstone of healing but also the foundation for developing secure relationships with others.

Resources mentioned:
👉 The Introduction to Synergetic Play Therapy Course – https://learn.synergeticplaytherapy.com/spt-signature-programs/

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