You being the center of their attention is most of the problem
Release Date: 05/27/2025
When its impossible to get away from all the toxic behavior
Love and Abuse
Some relationships end but continue leaving destruction in their wake. Some don't end and you suffer through the daily drip-feeding of emotionally abusive behaviors until you lose your sanity. When there's no way away from all the toxicity, what can you do?
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Dont call them what they really are, it will work against you
Love and Abuse
Calling a duck a duck makes sense. But this logic works against you in the emotionally abusive relationship. Calling out an abusive person for who they are might just turn the whole thing around on you.
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Total defeat and burnout in the emotionally abusive relationship
Love and Abuse
Every relationship should have stopping points when you feel yourself slipping away. Emotional abuse operates as a slow drip-feeding of toxic behaviors that gradually erode boundaries.
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When you are a captive audience to the emotionally abusive monologuer
Love and Abuse
The endless monologue of some emotionally abusive people is a tactic that keeps you silent and submissive. It's designed to wear you down until you finally give in.
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Ive stopped being abusive, let's have sex
Love and Abuse
Some emotionally abusive people do heal. And once they do, they might feel the relationship will be great from that point on. What they don't consider is that the victim of their abusive behavior is only starting their healing process.
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Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the abuser
Love and Abuse
The emotionally abusive relationship is confusing and draining. If you don't get a grip on what's going on, you may start to believe perhaps you are the problem and they are a saint. Let's fix that faulty thinking.
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The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person
Love and Abuse
If you’ve ever questioned how to forgive yourself for choosing your own well-being over an abusive partner, you’re not alone. If you're feeling guilt or shame for leaving an abusive person, this is an important episode to listen to.
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Breaking the trauma bond can be hard as hell
Love and Abuse
If you find yourself obsessively attached to someone who hurts you, is it a sign of a trauma bond? I’ll tackle this challenging subject, shedding light on why you might stay in a relationship despite enduring hurtful behavior and what this could mean for your sense of self-worth and emotional well-being.
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Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation?
Love and Abuse
Some people will deflect blame and make you feel like the problem. In this episode, I dive into this subject by examining a heart-wrenching story from a listener whose partner’s jealousy turned violent, leaving her questioning the future of their relationship and her path to healing.
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Why you may not be ready to call it abuse when it is abuse
Love and Abuse
The emotionally abusive relationship can sometimes be hard to define. How long must abusive behavior go on before actually admit that what's really happening is abuse?
info_outlineWhat does it take for an abusive person to change? A whole lot (if they even want to change), but this one component of healing is often one of the hardest for them to stop. Their consistent focus on you can make their healing and change much more difficult, let alone having no time and space to heal yourself.