#441 Why Your Ex Moved On So Fast (And How You Can Too)
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Release Date: 02/17/2025
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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info_outlineThat moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too.
In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational.
By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:
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Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)
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The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new
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What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)
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How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing
Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You
I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too.
I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️
Xoxo
P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.