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#443 Love Shouldn’t Erase You: How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Relationship

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Release Date: 03/03/2025

#463 - Feeling Sexually Rejected By Your Partner? Here’s What to Do… show art #463 - Feeling Sexually Rejected By Your Partner? Here’s What to Do…

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

“Why doesn’t my partner want me?” — If that question has ever kept you up at night, this one’s for you.  Lately, I’ve been hearing from so many of you that this topic — what to do — is really on your hearts and minds. And I get it. It’s such a vulnerable, tender pain point that touches on self-worth, connection, and love.  Whether it’s happened once or it’s become a painful pattern, feeling sexually rejected can stir up everything from shame and anxiety to resentment and loneliness. That’s why I wanted to bring back this powerful episode — because the...

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From The Heart: A Personal Update About How We're Growing, Together show art From The Heart: A Personal Update About How We're Growing, Together

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

I have something personal to share. This podcast — this weekly connection with you — is one of my favorite parts of my work. It's not even fair to call it work. If I won the lottery and never had to work for money again, I'd still be here with you, every week. (Recording from my penthouse in Copenhagen, but still). And... I have not won the lottery, sadly. And producing a well-done podcast is expensive. And after 10 years of offering this freely (and with joy!), I’ve realized that growing it further and making it better means accepting help, and trying new things. Yep, I need to...

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#462 - Work, Kids, Repeat? How to Avoid Getting Burned Out... From Your Life show art #462 - Work, Kids, Repeat? How to Avoid Getting Burned Out... From Your Life

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Have you ever had one of those mornings where you're prepping for an important work meeting, juggling a million to-dos and chores, and trying to get the kids out the door with lunches packed and shoes on the right feet? Yeah… same. We often associate burnout with our jobs, but the reality is that we can get burned out on LIFE. Hey. It's a lot. Just being a reasonably functional adult can feel like one big game of Whac-a-Mole leaving us further drained each day, with no end in sight. In this episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Armstrong — author of The Art of the Juggling Act — to...

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#461 - Do Therapists Give Advice? Why They Hold Back and How to Actually Get Direction show art #461 - Do Therapists Give Advice? Why They Hold Back and How to Actually Get Direction

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵‍💫 This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about , what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will...

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#460 - Suffering in Silence: The Mental Health Battles Men Are Fighting Alone show art #460 - Suffering in Silence: The Mental Health Battles Men Are Fighting Alone

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

You might look like you’ve got it all together. You show up. You work hard. You smile, you joke, you say you’re “fine.” But inside? You might be carrying more than anyone knows.  This is especially true for men. You’d never guess it by looking at them, but so many—maybe even someone you love—are silently carrying a weight that feels too heavy to bear. They’re , quietly fighting battles they don’t feel safe talking about. Not because they’re weak—but because the world taught them that real strength means not showing emotion, not needing help, not breaking down. ...

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#459 - Are You Getting Scammed by Your “Online Therapist”? The Shocking Fraud Behind Seven Cups Therapy show art #459 - Are You Getting Scammed by Your “Online Therapist”? The Shocking Fraud Behind Seven Cups Therapy

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

What if the “therapist” you’re pouring your heart out to… isn’t a therapist at all? In this jaw-dropping episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m joined by investigative journalists Rebecca Ruiz and Lauren Krause to expose the shocking truth behind and the dark world of therapy fraud—including unlicensed “helpers,” fake reviews, and predatory chatrooms masquerading as support. This isn’t just about bad advice or unqualified "virtual counselors." It’s about real people being misled, emotionally exploited, and sometimes even preyed upon while they’re at...

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#458 The ‘I’m Not Enough’ Trap: Transform Your Fear into Alignment and Purpose ft. Mary Marantz show art #458 The ‘I’m Not Enough’ Trap: Transform Your Fear into Alignment and Purpose ft. Mary Marantz

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, ? Like you're outrunning a wolf that lives inside you, always whispering, “You’ve got more to prove”. But what if fear isn’t your enemy? What if it's actually pointing you toward your purpose? In this deeply transformative conversation with bestselling author Mary Marantz, we explore how the experiences that once made us feel underestimated—and the relentless drive to overachieve—can keep us stuck in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and fear-fueled productivity.  Mary and I unpack the myths of not-enoughness, talk about the...

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#457 - Memento Mori: Being Intentional and Living for Meaning show art #457 - Memento Mori: Being Intentional and Living for Meaning

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

What if the secret to living your best life... is remembering that it won’t last forever? In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by author and mindset coach Karen Salmansohn to explore how the ancient principle of memento mori—remembering that you will die—can radically transform the way you live right now.  Together, we unpack how mortality awareness isn’t morbid at all—it’s deeply motivational. When you get clear on what truly matters, you can stop spinning your wheels and with clarity, courage, and joy. We’ll explore identity-based habits,...

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#456 - Stuck in the “I Hate My Life” Spiral? Let’s Do a Hard Reset show art #456 - Stuck in the “I Hate My Life” Spiral? Let’s Do a Hard Reset

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don’t want to do this anymore”? If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug. Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear,...

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#455 The Overthinker’s Guide to Inner Peace show art #455 The Overthinker’s Guide to Inner Peace

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Let’s be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would’ve medaled by age ten. And attempts to often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you’re in the right place. As a therapist and coach, I’ve worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you.  In this episode, we’ll talk about what overthinking really is, how it’s...

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Ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship?

Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait… who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just in your head. There’s real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis.

In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing?

00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope & Her Research on Relationships & Identity

01:00 Understanding Identity in Relationships

03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity

07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity

24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups

30:27 - Fear of Being Single

32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself

36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion

39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment

44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity

51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges

Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE  Breakup Recovery Quiz to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey & how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again.

And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! You can find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there! 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

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