#453 Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Release Date: 05/12/2025
#463 - Feeling Sexually Rejected By Your Partner? Here’s What to Do…
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
“Why doesn’t my partner want me?” — If that question has ever kept you up at night, this one’s for you. Lately, I’ve been hearing from so many of you that this topic — what to do — is really on your hearts and minds. And I get it. It’s such a vulnerable, tender pain point that touches on self-worth, connection, and love. Whether it’s happened once or it’s become a painful pattern, feeling sexually rejected can stir up everything from shame and anxiety to resentment and loneliness. That’s why I wanted to bring back this powerful episode — because the...
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From The Heart: A Personal Update About How We're Growing, Together
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
I have something personal to share. This podcast — this weekly connection with you — is one of my favorite parts of my work. It's not even fair to call it work. If I won the lottery and never had to work for money again, I'd still be here with you, every week. (Recording from my penthouse in Copenhagen, but still). And... I have not won the lottery, sadly. And producing a well-done podcast is expensive. And after 10 years of offering this freely (and with joy!), I’ve realized that growing it further and making it better means accepting help, and trying new things. Yep, I need to...
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#462 - Work, Kids, Repeat? How to Avoid Getting Burned Out... From Your Life
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Have you ever had one of those mornings where you're prepping for an important work meeting, juggling a million to-dos and chores, and trying to get the kids out the door with lunches packed and shoes on the right feet? Yeah… same. We often associate burnout with our jobs, but the reality is that we can get burned out on LIFE. Hey. It's a lot. Just being a reasonably functional adult can feel like one big game of Whac-a-Mole leaving us further drained each day, with no end in sight. In this episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Armstrong — author of The Art of the Juggling Act — to...
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#461 - Do Therapists Give Advice? Why They Hold Back and How to Actually Get Direction
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵💫 This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about , what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will...
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#460 - Suffering in Silence: The Mental Health Battles Men Are Fighting Alone
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
You might look like you’ve got it all together. You show up. You work hard. You smile, you joke, you say you’re “fine.” But inside? You might be carrying more than anyone knows. This is especially true for men. You’d never guess it by looking at them, but so many—maybe even someone you love—are silently carrying a weight that feels too heavy to bear. They’re , quietly fighting battles they don’t feel safe talking about. Not because they’re weak—but because the world taught them that real strength means not showing emotion, not needing help, not breaking down. ...
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#459 - Are You Getting Scammed by Your “Online Therapist”? The Shocking Fraud Behind Seven Cups Therapy
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
What if the “therapist” you’re pouring your heart out to… isn’t a therapist at all? In this jaw-dropping episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m joined by investigative journalists Rebecca Ruiz and Lauren Krause to expose the shocking truth behind and the dark world of therapy fraud—including unlicensed “helpers,” fake reviews, and predatory chatrooms masquerading as support. This isn’t just about bad advice or unqualified "virtual counselors." It’s about real people being misled, emotionally exploited, and sometimes even preyed upon while they’re at...
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#458 The ‘I’m Not Enough’ Trap: Transform Your Fear into Alignment and Purpose ft. Mary Marantz
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, ? Like you're outrunning a wolf that lives inside you, always whispering, “You’ve got more to prove”. But what if fear isn’t your enemy? What if it's actually pointing you toward your purpose? In this deeply transformative conversation with bestselling author Mary Marantz, we explore how the experiences that once made us feel underestimated—and the relentless drive to overachieve—can keep us stuck in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and fear-fueled productivity. Mary and I unpack the myths of not-enoughness, talk about the...
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#457 - Memento Mori: Being Intentional and Living for Meaning
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
What if the secret to living your best life... is remembering that it won’t last forever? In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by author and mindset coach Karen Salmansohn to explore how the ancient principle of memento mori—remembering that you will die—can radically transform the way you live right now. Together, we unpack how mortality awareness isn’t morbid at all—it’s deeply motivational. When you get clear on what truly matters, you can stop spinning your wheels and with clarity, courage, and joy. We’ll explore identity-based habits,...
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#456 - Stuck in the “I Hate My Life” Spiral? Let’s Do a Hard Reset
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don’t want to do this anymore”? If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug. Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear,...
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#455 The Overthinker’s Guide to Inner Peace
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Let’s be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would’ve medaled by age ten. And attempts to often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you’re in the right place. As a therapist and coach, I’ve worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you. In this episode, we’ll talk about what overthinking really is, how it’s...
info_outlineEver feel like your ex is living rent-free in your head, even though the relationship is so over? Whether it’s been weeks, months, or (gulp) years since your breakup, if you’re wondering “Why do I keep thinking about my ex?” and you’re still caught in a loop of thoughts, memories, or even fantasies about them, I made this episode just for you.
I know firsthand — both as a therapist and from my own experience — that getting stuck on an ex is exhausting. But there is a path forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m walking you through exactly why this happens (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault — it’s biology), and more importantly, how to finally break free so you can move forward into peace, clarity, and emotional freedom.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?
06:30 – Love and Addiction: Your Brain on Heartbreak
14:58 – The Truth About Breakup Recovery
28:17 – Emotional Loose Ends: The Silent Saboteur
38:05 – Rebuilding Your Self & Reclaiming Your Future
48:14 – You’re Not Doomed to Keep Thinking About Your Ex
If your ex is still living rent-free in your mind, please know you don’t have to stay stuck here.
The first step to getting your power back is understanding exactly where you are in your healing process. That’s why I created a free tool just for you.
👉 Take the Breakup Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? In just a few minutes, this quiz will show you which stage of healing you’re in — and what specific steps will help you move forward. Whether you're still in emotional withdrawal or starting to let go, you'll get personalized insight and a roadmap for what to do next.
And, if you're tired of spinning in circles, overthinking every memory, every mistake, every what-if — you don’t have to navigate this alone. Sometimes, the fastest way to start feeling better is simply talking to someone who truly gets it. Our team at Growing Self includes licensed therapists and breakup recovery coaches who specialize in this kind of healing work.
👉 Schedule a Free Consultation — to talk to one of the experts on our team and take the next brave step toward peace, healing, and freedom.
You deserve to feel like yourself again. And yes, it’s absolutely possible to stop thinking about your ex — not because you forced yourself to forget, but because you’ve grown into someone who no longer needs to hold on.
And you can start your healing today.
Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com
P.S. If you know someone who keeps spiraling over their ex, share this with them. Forward the link, post it on your story, or send them a little nudge. Be the friend who helps them start healing.