Celebrating 11 Years of Blending!
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
Release Date: 06/11/2025
Is It the Hormones or Is It the Trauma? Pt. 2 - w/Margo Wallace
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
It's more than likely that you've misinterpreted trauma for a hormonal outburst and vice versa. Eventully, running into this problem time and time again can be frustrating and cause us to walk on egg-shells. However, properly navigating reactions that resemble the last is possible!
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Is It the Hormones or Is It the Trauma? - w/Margo Wallace
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
It's hard to know who and what we're dealing with as we're raising our kids. One minute we're dealing with a composed and clear minded human being, and the next we're navigating emotional land mines without any idea of what the trigger may have been. When our kids have experienced traumatic events, they are bound to struggle in a number of ways and this will show up behaviorally. It gets even more complicated as they are going through the process of natural development which includes significant hormonal shifts on a regular basis. This presents an incredible learning curve for even the most...
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Dealing With A Toxic Ex - Pt. 2
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
There is such thing as a toxic coparenting relationship. While discomfort and challenge are common as we navigate the coparenting dynamic, being on the receiving end of what feels like an effort to make someone miserable is difficult for anyone. Taking the higher road may require our best effort as we resist being weighed down the effects of toxic behavior that impacts our own family as well as the child(ren). I know first hand that enduring this tug-of-war with your character in tact is nothing short of a miracle!
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Dealing With A Toxic Ex - Pt. 1
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
The co-parenting relationship can be challening to navigate in even the most civil scenarios. Which is why many of us are quick to throw out labels such as 'toxic'. Viewing the ex as the enemy makes sense though. It makes detachment easier and the opportunity to focus our frustrations in a particular direction can feel pretty good for a while. However, even if the label is justified, does it serve us to consider the other parent toxic? Does this perspective compromise our ability to hold up our end of the deal in the co-parenting relationship? Let's talk about it!
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Being A Step-Parent - Does It Ever Get Better?
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
(Spoiler alert!!) The answer is yes and no... We as step-parents get better, and we get better at navigating family. As we accept the dynamics of our family that we can't change and deal with our insecurities, we become more confident and resilient. As we learn to prioritize what is most important and fight to get on the same page as our spouse, the uncharterd waters that used to overthrow you will become your stomping ground! So yes, it can get better ~ and so can you!
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Some Things Have To Die
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
Moving forward requires dropping some weight! Close to one hundred percent of the time, in order for things to move in a direction of health and functionality, there are things in our lives that simply have to die (I'm not talking about harming anyone else, so please calm down). We have to stop breathing life into certain mindsets, relational dynamics, habits and tendency to be passive in situations that require our best. It can be a rough process, but what's the alternative??
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What To Do, When You Don't Know What To Do
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
What do we do when our backs are against the wall?! I've learned that we've all probably experienced this moment, we're going through it currently, or it's on it's way! The way that we respond in these moments tend to determine what's ahead for us and our families for the near, and potentially even distant future. There is always a way through, and you can expect to be better on the other side of even the most intense challenge!
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Faith It Till You Make It - Pt. 2
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
If someone were to look at your efforts, what would that tell them about where you've placed your faith? We can say that we're believing for breakthrough in relationships or specific outcomes for our family, but our actions can express something entirely different. We need to move from a subconscious belief system to one that is intentional and stretigic about how we'll see our hopes come to pass. Alignment between our expectations and our actions is the key!
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'Faith' It Till You Make It! Pt. 1
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
The best outcomes for our families requires us to be present and invested! However, if we're faking 'nice' or pretending to be interested because it's simply what we're supposed to be doing, then we'll miss the mark over and over again. Surviving the difficulties until we arrive at the promised land is an enticing option as we navigate family, but this posture is much more likely to produce the harms that we're trying to avoid. Faith, however, gives us both a confidence and an assurance of the things we long to see within ourselves and our family. Blended families must shift from surviving...
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The Death Trap Of Being A People Pleaser
Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience
Realizing that you're a people pleaser is a tough revelation! What may have started as a healthy desire to provide support and satisfaction for others, can become an inability to hold back our precious time, attention and resources. When the gift of kindness has become corrupt, we can become the type of people that consider ourselves valuable based on what someone else has to say. Freedom is on the other side of those that break the cycle of pleasing others to our detriment and that of our families.
info_outlineYou don't make it to 11 years of marriage without some legitimate tests. While the idea of divorce wasn't something we entertained, we were definitely tempted to believe the thought that we'd be miserable because of all that came with our family. But, God!! Today, we can see the fruit of our efforts and the blessings on the other side of much heartache. Things are not perfect, but there is no question that our commitment to doing the right thing has made all of the difference. This moment of gratitude has allowed us to recall what we've been through, how we've overcome, and its stirred up some excitement about the things ahead!