How Intimacy and Desire Change as You Age and How to Evolve With It (Not Drift Apart): Episode 409
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Release Date: 08/12/2025
Honesty vs Transparency: The Missing Piece to Feeling Fully Secure and Emotionally Safe: Episode 434
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Most couples believe trust is built by being honest—by not lying, not hiding anything major, and generally doing what you say you’ll do. And while integrity absolutely matters, many couples are surprised to find that honesty alone still leaves gaps in connection, security, and emotional safety. You can be faithful, responsible, and well-intentioned… and yet your partner can still feel out of the loop, uncertain, or like something is being held back. That’s because honesty and transparency are not the same thing and that difference matters more in marriage than most couples realize....
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How to Handle Stress So it Doesn’t Negatively Impact Your Marriage: Episode 433
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Stress is unavoidable. Between the state of the world, work demands, parenting, and the pressure to keep everything running, most couples are carrying more than they realize. The problem isn’t stress itself, it’s how easily it spills into your marriage. When stress goes unmanaged, it shows up as tension, miscommunication, defensiveness, and feeling like you’re constantly behind or letting each other down. And suddenly, the relationship that should feel like support starts to feel like another source of pressure. In this episode, we talk about how stress moves through your life and into...
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Why Intimacy Can’t Be Deepened Without Inner Healing with Stefanos Sifandos: Episode 432
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
So many couples are trying to fix intimacy by focusing on communication tools, date nights, or changing their partner’s behavior—yet still feel disconnected. In this episode, we sit down with relationship educator and behavioral scientist Stefanos Sifandos to talk about why intimacy can’t truly deepen without inner healing first. Stefanos shares his own journey and breaks down a powerful framework from his new book, Tuned In and Turned On, explaining how unresolved shame, avoidance, and nervous-system patterns quietly block emotional and physical closeness. We explore why romantic...
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Resentment: How it Shows Up, Where it Stems From & How to Work Through it: Episode 431
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Resentment is one of those words people hesitate to claim because it sounds heavy, harsh, even a little scary. But the truth is, resentment doesn’t usually start with big blowups or dramatic moments. It builds quietly. You can still function well, take care of the kids, show up to work, even go on vacation… and yet something underneath gets triggered. It comes out in sharper arguments than expected, old issues resurfacing, an undertone of irritation, or a growing emotional distance you can’t quite put your finger on. In this episode, we talk about why resentment is far more common than...
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How to Stop Reacting to Each Other & Regulate Your Emotions Instead: Episode 430
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
So many couples tell us the same thing lately: “We don’t even feel like we’re choosing to react—it just happens.” It can be a tone, a look, or a comment that lands wrong. And suddenly you’re responding to each other’s stress instead of actually talking about what’s going on. When this becomes the norm, marriage starts to feel exhausting. Not because of big issues, but because you’re unintentionally dysregulating each other in everyday moments. What should be simple conversations turn tense, and it leaves both people feeling misunderstood, defensive, or shut down. In this...
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Debriefing a Moment that Could Have Escalated For Us, But Became a Healing Conversation: Episode 429
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Sometimes it’s not the big issues that unravel a marriage, it’s the small, everyday moments that quietly stack up. A comment said with the wrong tone. A boundary expressed when stress is already high. A familiar frustration bubbling up again. In this episode, we walk you through a real moment from our own marriage that easily could have turned into a fight, especially in a season where we’re trying to leave old patterns behind and start the year differently. If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this keep happening?” or felt discouraged that the same tension keeps resurfacing, this...
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Falling in Love vs Staying in Love: The Science of Maintaining Your Romantic Connection Over Time: Episode 428
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
It’s easy to look at movies or social media and wonder why love once felt effortless, and now feels quieter, more routine, or even distant. No one prepares you for the reality that long-term love doesn’t stay fueled by novelty and adrenaline forever. As relationships mature, biology shifts, responsibilities increase, and especially after kids, connection can slowly give way to comfort… or worse, roommate energy. If you’ve ever thought, “Something’s missing, but I don’t know what,” this episode is for you. In this conversation, we unpack what’s actually happening beneath the...
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3 Places to be More Loving so Your Partner Feels More Loved: Episode 427
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Most couples want to feel more loved, appreciated, and connected. But the way we go about it often backfires. We wait until we’re running on empty to tell our partner what we need, and in that vulnerable moment, it’s easy for things to slip into defensiveness or comparison. This episode flips that dynamic entirely. Instead of focusing on what your partner isn’t doing, we explore the powerful shift of going first—initiating repair, creating small moments of connection, and becoming the kind of loving presence that naturally evokes more love in return. We’ll walk you through three...
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Do This “End of Year Check-in” Now to Get Aligned and Connected Before 2026: Episode 426
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Most couples glide into the new year on autopilot, sometimes with excitement and optimism, hoping things will feel different, more connected, less chaotic… yet they end up repeating the same patterns that make it feel the same as last year . In this episode, we’re giving you one of the most powerful “end-of-year check-in” conversations we use with our private coaching clients. It’s a guided reset that helps you break out of routine, reconnect with each other’s dreams and needs, and get aligned before January even begins. Think of this episode as your personal coaching session; one...
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What is Emotional Intimacy, Really? and How to Create More of it: Episode 425
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
So many couples love each other deeply… yet still feel disconnected. They talk every day, but the conversations revolve around schedules, responsibilities, and what needs to get done next. In this episode, we’re unpacking why emotional intimacy often fades in long-term relationships, not because the love is gone, but because genuine connection isn’t being fed. You’ll learn what emotional intimacy actually is (in practical, real-life terms), why so many partners misunderstand it, and the surprising psychology behind why couples get stuck in surface-level communication. Then we’ll walk...
info_outlineThe problem isn't that your desire or drive is changing. The problem is that you're not talking about these changes and finding solutions on how to evolve with them and stay connected.
In this vulnerable and eye-opening episode, we share the real reasons intimacy shifts over time (especially after kids, through peri-menopause, or with stress and aging), and how couples can adapt together rather than growing apart.
In this episode you’ll hear:
-A raw confession from a wife/mom at a retreat Jocelyn spoke at recently
-The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
-Why intimacy isn’t just physical—it’s deeply emotional and environmental
-How hormones, lifestyle, and fear influence libido
-Practical steps to create a more connected, satisfying intimate relationship—at any age
This episode is part of our Intimacy Series—helping couples reignite closeness and communication in every season of marriage. Want daily prompts to rebuild emotional & physical intimacy?
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Timeline of what we discuss in this episode:
00:00 – A real confession: “I feel guilt because I used to want intimacy all the time…”
00:21 – The real problem isn’t desire changing—it’s not talking about it
00:42 – Welcome to the Empowered Couples Podcast
01:00 – The impact of postpartum, perimenopause, and menopause
02:03 – Men experience changes too (and it affects confidence)
02:52 – Don’t compare to the past—it’s not the same anymore
03:17 – Powerful conversation starters to open up about desire
04:00 – Do men and women experience different libido shifts?
05:00 – Understanding hormonal changes: perimenopause and aging
06:01 – Postpartum, hormone shifts, and how your body chemistry changes
07:00 – Getting your hormones tested and being proactive
08:00 – Personal lifestyle changes and challenges we’ve faced
09:04 – Poor sleep, stress, and sedentary living affect libido
10:11 – Emotional exhaustion and cycle awareness in women
11:18 – How birth control and fertility windows affect attraction
12:18 – Fathers experience biological shifts too
13:06 – Fear of pregnancy can lower intimacy desire
14:05 – Lifestyle habits that support libido
15:21 – The power of variety, newness, and weekly rhythms
16:22 – Our 30-Day Challenge to reignite the spark (The Best of Us)
17:14 – Why we brought this challenge back more than once a year
18:04 – Spontaneous vs. responsive desire explained
20:20 – Most women (and couples) are more responsive than spontaneous
22:15 – Long-term relationships shift desire patterns
23:13 – Intimacy becomes more about environment and intention
24:32 – Create emotional connection without pressure
25:02 – Start with the hard conversation: talk about what’s changed
26:04 – Learn your erotic blueprint—how you’re wired now, not then
27:07 – Focus more on quality of intimacy than frequency
28:23 – Final marriage reminder: evolve together, not apart
29:13 – Join the 30-Day Best of Us Challenge
29:30 – Like, Subscribe, and Leave a Review