Hormones, Sleep, Alcohol & Perimenopause: How to Age Gracefully Together with Dr. Amy Shah: Episode 415
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Release Date: 09/23/2025
Honesty vs Transparency: The Missing Piece to Feeling Fully Secure and Emotionally Safe: Episode 434
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Most couples believe trust is built by being honest—by not lying, not hiding anything major, and generally doing what you say you’ll do. And while integrity absolutely matters, many couples are surprised to find that honesty alone still leaves gaps in connection, security, and emotional safety. You can be faithful, responsible, and well-intentioned… and yet your partner can still feel out of the loop, uncertain, or like something is being held back. That’s because honesty and transparency are not the same thing and that difference matters more in marriage than most couples realize....
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How to Handle Stress So it Doesn’t Negatively Impact Your Marriage: Episode 433
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Stress is unavoidable. Between the state of the world, work demands, parenting, and the pressure to keep everything running, most couples are carrying more than they realize. The problem isn’t stress itself, it’s how easily it spills into your marriage. When stress goes unmanaged, it shows up as tension, miscommunication, defensiveness, and feeling like you’re constantly behind or letting each other down. And suddenly, the relationship that should feel like support starts to feel like another source of pressure. In this episode, we talk about how stress moves through your life and into...
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Why Intimacy Can’t Be Deepened Without Inner Healing with Stefanos Sifandos: Episode 432
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So many couples are trying to fix intimacy by focusing on communication tools, date nights, or changing their partner’s behavior—yet still feel disconnected. In this episode, we sit down with relationship educator and behavioral scientist Stefanos Sifandos to talk about why intimacy can’t truly deepen without inner healing first. Stefanos shares his own journey and breaks down a powerful framework from his new book, Tuned In and Turned On, explaining how unresolved shame, avoidance, and nervous-system patterns quietly block emotional and physical closeness. We explore why romantic...
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Resentment: How it Shows Up, Where it Stems From & How to Work Through it: Episode 431
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Resentment is one of those words people hesitate to claim because it sounds heavy, harsh, even a little scary. But the truth is, resentment doesn’t usually start with big blowups or dramatic moments. It builds quietly. You can still function well, take care of the kids, show up to work, even go on vacation… and yet something underneath gets triggered. It comes out in sharper arguments than expected, old issues resurfacing, an undertone of irritation, or a growing emotional distance you can’t quite put your finger on. In this episode, we talk about why resentment is far more common than...
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How to Stop Reacting to Each Other & Regulate Your Emotions Instead: Episode 430
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
So many couples tell us the same thing lately: “We don’t even feel like we’re choosing to react—it just happens.” It can be a tone, a look, or a comment that lands wrong. And suddenly you’re responding to each other’s stress instead of actually talking about what’s going on. When this becomes the norm, marriage starts to feel exhausting. Not because of big issues, but because you’re unintentionally dysregulating each other in everyday moments. What should be simple conversations turn tense, and it leaves both people feeling misunderstood, defensive, or shut down. In this...
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Debriefing a Moment that Could Have Escalated For Us, But Became a Healing Conversation: Episode 429
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Sometimes it’s not the big issues that unravel a marriage, it’s the small, everyday moments that quietly stack up. A comment said with the wrong tone. A boundary expressed when stress is already high. A familiar frustration bubbling up again. In this episode, we walk you through a real moment from our own marriage that easily could have turned into a fight, especially in a season where we’re trying to leave old patterns behind and start the year differently. If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this keep happening?” or felt discouraged that the same tension keeps resurfacing, this...
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Falling in Love vs Staying in Love: The Science of Maintaining Your Romantic Connection Over Time: Episode 428
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
It’s easy to look at movies or social media and wonder why love once felt effortless, and now feels quieter, more routine, or even distant. No one prepares you for the reality that long-term love doesn’t stay fueled by novelty and adrenaline forever. As relationships mature, biology shifts, responsibilities increase, and especially after kids, connection can slowly give way to comfort… or worse, roommate energy. If you’ve ever thought, “Something’s missing, but I don’t know what,” this episode is for you. In this conversation, we unpack what’s actually happening beneath the...
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3 Places to be More Loving so Your Partner Feels More Loved: Episode 427
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Most couples want to feel more loved, appreciated, and connected. But the way we go about it often backfires. We wait until we’re running on empty to tell our partner what we need, and in that vulnerable moment, it’s easy for things to slip into defensiveness or comparison. This episode flips that dynamic entirely. Instead of focusing on what your partner isn’t doing, we explore the powerful shift of going first—initiating repair, creating small moments of connection, and becoming the kind of loving presence that naturally evokes more love in return. We’ll walk you through three...
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Do This “End of Year Check-in” Now to Get Aligned and Connected Before 2026: Episode 426
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Most couples glide into the new year on autopilot, sometimes with excitement and optimism, hoping things will feel different, more connected, less chaotic… yet they end up repeating the same patterns that make it feel the same as last year . In this episode, we’re giving you one of the most powerful “end-of-year check-in” conversations we use with our private coaching clients. It’s a guided reset that helps you break out of routine, reconnect with each other’s dreams and needs, and get aligned before January even begins. Think of this episode as your personal coaching session; one...
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What is Emotional Intimacy, Really? and How to Create More of it: Episode 425
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
So many couples love each other deeply… yet still feel disconnected. They talk every day, but the conversations revolve around schedules, responsibilities, and what needs to get done next. In this episode, we’re unpacking why emotional intimacy often fades in long-term relationships, not because the love is gone, but because genuine connection isn’t being fed. You’ll learn what emotional intimacy actually is (in practical, real-life terms), why so many partners misunderstand it, and the surprising psychology behind why couples get stuck in surface-level communication. Then we’ll walk...
info_outlineAfter our recent intimacy series, there were dozens of follow up questions from you all asking us to dive further into normal hormonal changes as we age and proactive steps you can take to age gracefully AND stay connected through the changes.
In this episode, double board-certified physician Dr. Amy Shah (women’s health & nutrition) joins us to bust the “dad bod/mom bod is just aging” myth—and lay out practical, evidence-informed steps couples can use to sleep better, reduce stress, protect libido, and stay united through perimenopause, menopause, and men’s steady testosterone decline.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
-Why “dad bod/mom bod” is more about habits + hormones than age
-The gut–brain–hormone loop that impacts mood, energy & attraction
-How to time difficult conversations around the cycle (and when not to)
-The midlife health stack: movement, strength, sprinting, nutrition, sleep
-Alcohol & hormones: why a 30–90 day break can be a game-changer
-Men’s testosterone: fix root causes before quick fixes
-Labs that matter (and why symptoms often beat hormone numbers)
-The updated science on HRT for women—and when to consider it
-“Gray divorce”: how to adapt as a team through this season
About Our Guest:
Dr. Amy Shah is a double board-certified MD and nutritionist focused on the gut-brain connection, women’s health, and fitness medicine. Through AmyMD Wellness, books, speaking, and social channels, she helps people take control of their wellness with practical, research-backed tools.
Resource Links:
• Dr. Amy Shah: IG @dramymd • TikTok @dramymd • Website: amymdwellness.com
• Our most-used marriage tools & guides: meetthefreemans.com/links
• Work with us / in-person Couples Workshop Oct 5th (AZ): meetthefreemans.com/workshop
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Episode Timestamps of What We Discussed:
02:34 Welcome + why we brought Dr. Amy on this topic
03:43 Health ↔ marriage: stress, cortisol, sleep & conflict
05:10 Listener question: attraction & a partner’s “dad bod”
06:04 Why “dad/mom bod” isn’t inevitable—habits + hormones
07:35 What healthy aging actually looks like (mindset matters)
08:58 The study: reversing heart age over 2 years (plan overview)
10:59 Modeling vs. nagging your partner’s health
12:21 Women 30s–50s: perimenopause basics & early signs
14:01 Energy, sleep, gut changes & libido shifts
15:23 Estrogen vs. progesterone—“two sisters” in your brain
19:00 Don’t make big decisions late-luteal; timing tough talks
23:03 Men’s testosterone: steady decline & root-cause fixes
26:40 Alcohol & hormones: realistic targets + try a break
29:41 Movement, nutrition & why sleep is #1
32:07 Should couples go to bed at the same time?
33:04 Labs that matter; why symptoms often beat hormone levels
35:01 HRT for women (updated science) & considerations for men
37:50 “Gray divorce,” shifting tolerance & communicating needs
41:16 Adapting habits together to age gracefully as a team
44:23 Where to find Dr. Amy + wrap