Discussing Holiday Expectations and Visiting In-Laws (To Prevent Chaos and Conflict): Episode 423
Release Date: 11/18/2025
How to Create Emotional Safety, Even in Difficult Moments: Episode 448
Same Team with The Freemans
Do you ever have the experience that a simple conversation with your partner can all of a sudden can create tension? If that has happen to you more than once, you know it makes you less likely to even want to bring things up agian. In our marriage coaching with couples, we can often predict whether a conflict will escalate into more disconnection or bring them closer, and it comes down to one thing: the level of emotional safety the feel. Though that may sound obvious, the “how to” for creating this level of safety usually isn’t. What we’ve noticed is that most couples have never...
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Being Married to a Spouse with the ‘Mother Hunger’ Wound (with Kelly McDaniel): Episode 447
Same Team with The Freemans
In this episode we sit down with therapist Kelly McDaniel, author of Mother Hunger, to explore how the way we were cared for as children shows up in how we love, react, and connect as adults. You will realize that you don’t just marry a partner, you marry their childhood. Aaron shares the birth story that shaped how he relates to touch and the real reason he once tried to break up with Jocelyn, and Jocelyn opens up about where her drive to be seen actually came from. Kelly also speaks directly to the partner on the other side of this, the one who wants to help but isn't sure how, and shares...
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Building the “Same Team” Mindset in Your Marriage: Episode 446
Same Team with The Freemans
You love each other, you both work hard, and still there are moments when it feels like you're playing on opposite sides, over the dishes, the bedtime routine, or the tone of one sentence at the end of a long day. Most couples never decide to become opponents. It happens so quietly that by the time you notice, you're bracing against each other instead of facing what's actually in front of you together. This is a reminder that everything is easier when you face it together, on the same team. In this first episode of the relaunched Same Team podcast, we're back after a summer away with a...
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What Separates Couples Who Grow Apart vs Grow Together (Plus a BIG Update From Us!): Episode 445
Same Team with The Freemans
There is one single thing that all couples who grow closer over time have in common. Though in the beginning of a relationship, you might not think that anything could get between you, what you realize as time passes is that you will need to fight… When couples start to face challenges, tests, or unforeseen circumstances – they can tend to start to turn on each other. They see each other as opponents rather than teammates. That is when they fight against each other. But this episode is going to introduce a powerful mindset shift. It’s the one that has you realize that the fight is not...
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You’re Doing a Lot… But This Might Be Why Your Partner Doesn’t Feel It: Episode 444
Same Team with The Freemans
You’re doing a lot. You’re handling all your own responsibilities, and sometimes still picking up the slack. You’re doing what needs to get done for your family. And yet… something still feels like it’s not enough for your partner. Maybe your partner seems distant, less appreciative, or not as connected as you’d expect given how much you’re putting in. This is one of the most common frustrations we hear from couples—the disconnect between effort and how that effort is actually received. In this episode, we unpack why doing more doesn’t always translate into feeling closer,...
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What Women Are Taught Vs What Marriage Needs Them to Learn: Episode 443
Same Team with The Freemans
Many women enter marriage with expectations and habits shaped long before the relationship ever began. Some were modeled growing up, others reinforced by culture, and many rooted in a genuine desire to love well and create a strong home. But what once felt natural doesn’t always translate into what creates true connection and partnership in a marriage. This is where frustration can build and where many start to feel like they’re putting in effort but not getting the closeness they hoped for. In this episode, we unpack the gap between what women are taught about love and relationships and...
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What Men Are Taught Vs What Marriage Needs Them to Learn: Episode 442
Same Team with The Freemans
Many men enter marriage doing exactly what they’ve been conditioned to do their entire lives. They show up with a certain mindset about what it means to contribute, support, and lead in a family. And while those instincts come from a good place, they don’t always translate into what actually creates closeness, emotional safety, and a strong partnership. This is where a lot of couples get stuck. One partner feels like they’re giving a lot, while the other still feels something is missing. In this episode, we unpack the gap between what men are taught to bring into a relationship and what...
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Assumptions About Who’s Doing What and Responsibilities Slipping Through the Cracks: Episode 441
Same Team with The Freemans
This time of year, life starts to fill up fast. Between holidays, travel plans, kids’ activities, family events, and everything in between… even couples who usually feel on top of things can start to feel stretched. And it’s not always the amount of responsibilities that creates tension, it’s what happens when those responsibilities aren’t clearly talked about. Assumptions start to form. Expectations go unspoken. And before you know it, things are slipping through the cracks or quietly falling on one person more than the other. In this episode, we’re breaking down why this season...
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The Conversation Couples AREN’T Having (But Need to Grow Together): Episode 440
Same Team with The Freemans
There is a critical conversation many couples are missing, especially after going through a challenge or hard season together. And as we close out the first quarter of the year, this is one of the most important times to have it. When couples are in a difficult season, the focus is to put your head down and get through it. And once you do, it can feel like a relief… but then it’s right back into the logistics of daily life. This creates two problems. First, you miss the opportunity to reconnect and truly understand each other, which is what strengthens your bond. Second, you miss the...
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It’s Been a Tough Few Weeks - Here’s How We’re Working Through It & Staying United: Episode 439
Same Team with The Freemans
Some seasons in life feel heavier than others. More pressure. Less capacity. Things outside your control. And if you’re not careful, your marriage can start to feel like another place of tension instead of support. In this episode, Jocelyn opens up about the challenging few weeks we’ve been in and what it’s revealed about how couples either turn toward each other… or slowly start drifting apart. This is a powerful reminder of what actually keeps a relationship strong when life feels overwhelming—and why most couples don’t catch it until more disconnection happens or damage is done....
info_outlineThe holidays are supposed to feel relaxing and joyful. But for many couples, they’re anything but. Between travel plans, family visits, and unspoken expectations, this season can quickly become chaotic, exhausting, and full of tension. One partner often ends up feeling like they’re carrying most of the mental and emotional load, while the other doesn’t realize how unbalanced it feels.
In this episode, we’re unpacking the real root of holiday stress in relationships: mismatched and unmet expectations. You’ll hear the kinds of conversations you need to have to prevent disconnection and resentment. Everything from dividing travel and family responsibilities to setting boundaries with in-laws and staying emotionally connected as a couple. Because when you plan as a team, the holidays can actually bring you closer instead of pulling you apart.
✨ If you want the holidays to feel connected rather than chaotic - Join the Prioritizing Us 30-Day Couples Challenge starting December 1st. This will keep your love accounts full before the season begins so you can stay united through whatever the season brings. Register at: MyCouplesChallenge.com.