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Losing Both Parents Before You're 30 - Real Talk About Grief with Tara Accardo

Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

Release Date: 12/18/2025

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

Confidence has become the thing everyone's waiting for to deliver their 'dream' life. Once I'm more confident, I'll launch it. Once I'm more confident, I'll speak up. Once I'm more confident, I'll apply, I'll move, I'll ask. And so we wait... Here's the problem with confidence - it's fragile. It goes up when things go well and falls flat the second they don't. Which means the one time you need it most is the exact moment it abandons you. In this episode I'm sharing three qualities I think are wildly underrated - and far better to build your life on than confidence. They're not feelings you...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

Confidence is overrated — and honestly, it's a trap. "Once I feel more confident, then I'll…" But how do you actually get confident? By doing the thing. Which means waiting to feel confident before you start is a loop with no exit. In this episode, Kate makes the case for three qualities that beat confidence - because unlike confidence, you don't have to wait to earn them first. One takes your worth off the table so you can risk the outcome. One is what gets you through it going badly. And one is the uncomfortable one that tells you whether you're chasing the right thing at all. Three...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

Nobody teaches you how to feel anxious. They teach you how to make it stop. And that's the problem — because most of us aren't actually struggling with anxiety. We're struggling with our resistance to it. This isn't another anxiety toolkit. I've done the breathing episodes, and all of that still stands. These are the few things I actually use on myself and with my coaching clients that I rarely hear anyone talk about. Inside this episode: Why the answer isn't more positivity — and why your brain knows when you're lying to it. Why your body on a treadmill and your body mid-spiral are doing...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

If you're the kind of person who can spend a week deciding which restaurant to choose or what colour to paint your nails — this one's for you. I'm tight on time this week, so this is a short, punchy one. But it's built around something one of my coaches said that completely flipped how I think about indecision — a single line that turns the usual story about why decisions feel so hard on its head. (It's the opposite of what you'd assume.) I get into why the decisions that torture you the most are often the ones that matter the least, the three questions to run before you flip a coin, and a...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

I nearly fell off the reformer. I was mid-Pilates class listening to David Epstein on Modern Wisdom when he said something so back to front I had to hear it twice: if you want to be more creative, don't give yourself more freedom. Give yourself fewer options. And then he explained why - and it cracked open something I've been teaching for years without ever having the words for it. So I went down a rabbit hole. If that's true, what else is? What else are we doing, with completely good intentions, that's quietly the very thing keeping us stuck? I found three things. They sound wrong. They...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

"I don't have time." "I'm just being realistic." "Now's not the right time." "Who am I to do that?" Here's the uncomfortable truth: every one of those is fear wearing a disguise. Fear rarely shows up with a name tag. It dresses itself up as busyness, as being realistic, as gratitude, as "that's just not me" - sneaky little excuses that sound so responsible you never think to question them. And so it quietly runs the show — picking what you say yes to, what you talk yourself out of, and how small you let yourself stay. In this episode, I hold up the most common excuses I hear from my...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

You had the idea. You were buzzing. "I'm going to launch the podcast / become a speaker / learn Spanish / finally chase the thing." Then you actually went and tried it - and felt like absolute rubbish at it. I know that feeling intimately. I once gave a resilience talk so badly that I sat in my car afterwards and bawled my eyes out, thinking who am I to be doing this? I'm not cut out for it. Turns out, I was just bang in the middle of a stage that every single person moves through when they go after a goal or learn a new skill. There are four of them - and one in particular is where...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

Some seasons of life just happen to you. The trip gets cancelled. The diagnosis lands. The person you love is suddenly gone - and none of it is fair, and none of it is yours to fix. That feeling - like life is happening to you and you've got no say in it - is, to me, the worst feeling of all. So this week I'm sharing one question I've reached for in my hardest, loneliest, most unfair moments. From my first year in America, crying in an empty apartment, through losing my sister - and through this past year, losing Mum. It's not "stay positive." It's not a silver lining. It's something...

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Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

  For a few weeks earlier this year, I was convinced I was about to lose everything I'd built here in the US — and have to start my whole life over on the other side of the world. This episode is about what happened in my head during those weeks — and the one shift that pulled me back out. I'm getting into why our brains bolt straight to the worst-case scenario (it's not a flaw — it's your brain trying to protect you), why rehearsing the disaster can quietly make it more likely instead of less, and the simple question I kept having to come back to when the what-ifs were at their...

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Have you ever told yourself you'll go for the promotion, post the thing, start the business, or finally put yourself out there... once you feel confident enough? This episode is your gentle wake-up call. I'll be honest with you, this past week was a heartbreaking one. I open up about the sentencing in my mum's case and why I went quiet for a bit. But I also share a conversation I had with a CEO that completely flipped the script on how I talk about confidence, and how most of us think about it. If you've been waiting to feel ready before you take the leap, you're not lazy and you're not...

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There's a loneliness that comes with loss that's hard to describe until you've felt it. That moment when you realize the person you'd normally call isn't there to answer anymore.

Tara Accardo knows this pain intimately. In December 2019, she lost her mom to cancer. Six months later, her dad. Then, her beloved dog of 19 years. Each loss compounding the one before, leaving her asking: "What am I going to do?"

But this conversation isn't about finding silver linings or moving on. It's about the messy, visceral reality of grief—and the unexpected strength that emerges when you're forced to find your own way forward.

Kate and Tara share openly about:

  • The physical, gut-wrenching response to loss that catches you off guard
  • Why grief is a tunnel, not a black hole (and why holding onto that truth matters)
  • How to navigate people who mean well but can't hold space for your pain
  • The strange, sacred empowerment of learning to trust yourself through the darkness
  • Finding your people in a club no one wants to join

If you've lost someone, if you're watching someone you love decline, or if you're simply terrified of the loss you know is coming—this episode will remind you that you're not alone in the dark.

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Ready to Stop Feeling Like You're Doing Grief Wrong?

You can listen to every episode and relate to every story, but if you're still wondering why you're not "better" yet or feeling guilty that you can't just move on, you need more than information.

That's where coaching comes in.

I help women stop judging themselves for how they're grieving, learn to trust their own timeline (not everyone else's expectations), and find a way forward that honors both the person they lost and the life they're still living.

Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching

It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with clarity and support whether or not coaching is right for you.

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