Episode 58: Chris and Holly Santillo on the Parent as Teacher
Parenting Peak Performers Podcast
Release Date: 05/21/2019
Pressure and the Impacts to Mental Health with Dr. Hendrie Weisinger
Parenting Peak Performers Podcast
“The biggest differentiator between people who do well in a pressure moment versus people who do below their capability is perception of the situation. You have to befriend it.” - Dr. Hendrie Weisinger Dr. Hendrie Weisinger is a world-renowned psychologist and author of the recent New York Times Bestseller, Performing Under Pressure. He has spent three decades helping individuals and organizations enhance their performance through his innovative applications based in clinical, counseling, social, organizational and evolutionary psychology. He’s a popular blogger for Psychology...
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The Sports Parenting Experience with Shari Medini
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“They need someone outside of their sport to talk to about it. I never want my kids to feel like if they had a bad practice that I’m also going to be mad that they had a bad practice. How can we be that support? We should be their biggest advocate, but that does not mean that we’re marching onto the fields demanding more playing time or more personal attention. That’s a different kind of thing. We need to be making sure that holistically they’re doing ok as a human being. That’s the most important job that we have.” - Shari Medini Shari Medini is the co-author of Parenting...
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Sports psychiatry with Dr. Rolando Gonzalez
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“As parents, you guys are probably the best monitors of your children’s behavior because you’ve been watching them from the time they were born, and honestly, you’re a better expert on your child than I am so I tend to trust parents on that.” - Dr. Rolando Gonzalez Dr. Rolando Gonzalez is a sports psychiatrist who provides mental health care for children through young adulthood with the Lee Physician Group and Golisano Children's Hospital in Fort Myers, Florida. He previously worked at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and the University of Miami, where he completed his fellowship...
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On Coaching Parents with Anthony Telford
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“We’ve asked the kids - do you like it better here now that your parents are outside? And, unfortunately, a lot of them say ‘yes.’” -- Anthony Telford Anthony Telford spent 9 seasons as a MLB pitcher, but now he’s a father and a coach who works closely with both up-and-coming athletes and their parents. So how does Anthony perceive the parent-athlete relationship? What are the pandemic restrictions teaching him about his athlete’s relationships with their parents? Why does he have a Parent Penalty Box at his training facility? In this episode, Anthony...
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Becoming a Reformed Sports Parent with Nick Buonocore
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“You’re a lot more than the sport you play. You’re a human being too, and sometimes that gets lost.” - Nick Buonocore For a lot of families, their traditional view of sports has changed. What was once a tool for exercise, discipline, and fun is now perceived as a vehicle to college scholarships. The mindsets of athletes, and sports parents, have shifted as a result. With us today is Nick Buonocore, a former professional athlete and the founder of , a collective of former coaches and athletes with the mission of providing “information, expertise, and first-hand insight to...
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Scott Eyre on Coaching after Life in Major League Baseball
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“I would get nervous for the kids. I wanted them to succeed so much because that’s what I wanted. I hated losing when I was in high school. I didn’t want the kids to feel that. I wanted them to win.” --Scott Eyre 35% on any academic test is a failure. In baseball, batting 300 (or having a 3/10 success rate at the plate) is excellent - even in the MLB. Former major league baseball pitcher Scott Eyre knows this all too well. The left-handed pitcher played for the Chicago White Sox, Toronto Blue Jays, San Francisco Giants, Chicago Cubs, and Philadelphia Phillies. Eyre...
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Jill Wheeler on Expedition Mentality & Letting Your Child Choose
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“When someone tells you who they are or someone tells you what they want, believe them.” -- Jill Wheeler It’s a new year, a new decade, and a new special series for Parenting Peak Performers. We couldn’t be more thrilled about this episode with adventure therapist, speaker, writer, athlete, and yoga instructor, Jill Wheeler. As the founder and director of the , Jill combines life coaching and the power of nature to produce impactful adult therapy. Jill is a licensed mental health and licensed professional counselor, who creates transformational and empowering experiences for...
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Chris Edwards on Fitness: Why It’s Vital and Not Enough
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“I realized that people needed more than just fitness to reach their health and wellness goals.” --Chris Edwards How can we be healthy? Really? It’s a question humans have been asking for most of history - and yet, it always seems like there are new quick fixes or conflicting research. During his studies in professional training, Chris Edwards realized that fitness - while vital - isn’t enough to take people to their peak level of health. So what is? And how can we help our kids get there? Chris believes health and wellness is a family matter, and he gives three tips for...
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Dr. Greg Rubin on Identifying and Treating Sports-Related Concussions
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How can we keep our kids safe while they play the sports they love? Today marks the end of Parenting Peak Performer’s 4th season, and as we wrap up, we’re going to pivot away from talking about the coach’s perspective. Instead, we’re closing our season with another vital topic for parents of athletically-involved kids. Safety. No incredible athletic achievement is worth it if our kids’ health is at stake. To help me process how parents can keep their kids safe on the court and field, I’ve brought in Dr. Greg Rubin. Dr. Rubin is a board-certified internal...
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On Confidence - What It Is, How To Build It, and How To Get It Back with Coach Micheal Burt
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“When I was a high school basketball coach, I wrote down on a napkin one day that a child with confidence will try anything. Whether they succeed or not, they will try. An insecure child will always contract to a place of comfort, a place of security, a place of complacency.” -Micheal Burt When it comes to understanding what makes peak performers tick, there’s no one better than Coach Micheal Burt. Burt, a former championship women’s basketball coach, is used to coaching go-getters, so it’s no surprise to learn that his track record is filled with...
info_outlineIf you allow a child to discover the answer it is far more effective than just providing that answer. - Holly Santillo
Chris Santillo is the founder and head instructor at Potomac Kempo, a martial arts studio with four locations in Alexandria, Virginia. Holly Santillo is the founding conductor of Mount Vernon Children’s Choir and a Senior Instructor at Potomac Kempo. Together they have been working with and educating children for more than thirty-five years. Chris has a degree in computer science from Harvey Mudd College and an MBA from Georgetown University and Holly has a degree in anthropology from Willamette University. In Chris and Holly’s Book, Resilience Parenting, they share the insights they have gained as teachers and parents. They offer positive alternatives to lecturing, bribing, and punishing; focusing instead on three pillars: Learning, Integrity, and Service. Chris and Holly tell us that by applying these powerful principles, you can inspire your children to develop the independence they need to succeed as adults, while renewing their connection to family and community. Whether you are raising a teenager or just starting your family, the methods prescribed in this book will help you unlock your greatest potential as a parent. In this episode Kathy and the Santillo’s discuss teachable skills such as cultivating confidence in your athletes through a balance of independence and connectedness. They share their three pillars of love of learning, becoming people of service, and acting as people of integrity and the growth that has come from utilizing their role as teachers with their family. They stress the curiosity of having an empty cup, assessing when kids are ready, the spiral method, keeping a lesson plan in mind as parents and coaches, and recognizing opportunities for spontaneous learning. Chris and Holly impart so much wisdom in this episode, especially the importance of sharing your failures with your kids far more than successes! Chris and Holly are currently traveling around the world with their family, and you can follow along at https://fivebackpacks.family. If you enjoyed this episode please like, share, and rate us in your favorite place to listen.