The Foolish Man: Lessons on Leadership and Feedback | 1 Samuel 25:14-22

Three lessons from a stupid man. You can learn from stupidity.

Welcome to the Daily Devo. I am Vince Miller.

Yesterday, we discovered that David sent some men to Nabal to ask for some generosity, and Nabal rejected and insulted David and his men. Today David and 400 of his men are coming to confront Nabal. Let's see what happens in 1 Samuel 25:14-22:

But one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal's wife, “Behold, David sent messengers out of the wilderness to greet our master, and he railed at them. Yet the men were very good to us, and we suffered no harm, and we did not miss anything when we were in the fields, as long as we went with them. They were a wall to us both by night and by day, all the while we were with them keeping the sheep. Now therefore know this and consider what you should do, for harm is determined against our master and against all his house, and he is such a worthless man that one cannot speak to him.”

Then Abigail made haste and took two hundred loaves and two skins of wine and five sheep already prepared and five seahs of parched grain and a hundred clusters of raisins and two hundred cakes of figs, and laid them on donkeys. And she said to her young men, “Go on before me; behold, I come after you.” But she did not tell her husband Nabal. And as she rode on the donkey and came down under cover of the mountain, behold, David and his men came down toward her, and she met them. Now David had said, “Surely in vain have I guarded all that this fellow has in the wilderness, so that nothing was missed of all that belonged to him, and he has returned me evil for good. God do so to the enemies of David and more also, if by morning I leave so much as one male of all who belong to him.”  — 1 Samuel 25:14-22

There is a lot here, so let me make three observations and points today.

First, one of Nabal's servants clarifies that David is a shepherd of shepherds. The young man makes numerous flattering comments that David's men were "very good" to them, they "suffered no harm," they "did not miss a thing," they were "a wall" to us. We learn that his first career as a shepherd had a principled impact on his second career as a leader of men.

Never take for granted what God might be preparing you for in one part of your life for the next part of your life. David was the youngest in the family, and while shepherding might have seemed like a meaningless job in the hills of Bethlehem, God used it to prepare David for a career of leadership and protection over the hills of Israel. Sometimes, what appears to be drudgery at the moment might be divine preparation for later. So, if you feel like your present job is drudgery, pay less attention to the drudgery and more attention to the divine lessons.

Second, it's evident that everyone in Nabal's family and on his staff knows he is worthless and resistant to feedback. The picture painted of Nabal is complete. He is more than a fool. He is rich and resistant to feedback, which makes him an "entitled fool."

Nobody is more stubborn than a leader, husband, or father who is relatively skilled, rich, and resistant to feedback. But resisting all feedback from people, especially godly people, is foolish. Resistance stunts our growth, damages our relationships, and stalls spiritual maturity. When we go too far, it might lead to isolation, getting us fired, or, in Nabal's case, getting him killed. Don't be an entitled fool. Pay attention to feedback from a friend, family member, or colleague today. It might just be feedback from the Father.

Third, a savior is inserted into the story—a noble wife and brave woman—Abigail. There is a lot to love about this woman, but notice the similarity between Saul and Jonathan and now Nabal and Abigail to David. David is about to find another ally in the house of an adversary. Like Jonathan had been to David, Abigail is about to be to David.

You need allies in this life, godly men and women, to give you direction. Sometimes, you stumble upon them; other times, you must work and find them. Regardless, build alliances with godly believers in this life. They are a source of substance and sanity when stupid people do stupid things, and they might steer you away from becoming stupid yourself.

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Ask This:

1. How can you identify areas in your life where feedback might help you grow spiritually and relationally?
2. Who are the godly allies in your life, and how can you strengthen those relationships?

Do This:

Have godly allies, and don't be stupid.

Pray This:

Lord, help me recognize the valuable lessons hidden in my daily experiences and remain open to feedback that fosters my growth. May I build strong alliances with godly people who guide me through life's challenges. Amen.

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Christ Our Wisdom.