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Why Do I Keep Reaching for My Phone? Two Moms Try to Change

Parenting in the Screen Age - The Screenagers Podcast

Release Date: 10/20/2025

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Do you ever catch yourself reaching for your phone when you don’t really need or want to, and wonder what that shows your kids? In this episode, Screenagers creator Dr. Delaney Ruston talks with two moms who decide it’s time to make a change.

They talk about the habits they want to shift and take on the One Small Change Challenge using a model called DARTS: Doable, Arrange for success, Reasons, Treats, and Support.

Follow along as Delaney walks Tory and Hillary through setting their own goals, and try using this model to set yours too. We’d love to hear if you do, so send a note to delaney@screenagersmovie.com.

It’s an honest look at what happens when parents face their own phone habits and try something new. In a future episode, we’ll check in to see how their challenges went.

 

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Time Code

00:00 Introduction

01:25 The One Small Change Challenge

01:43 Introducing the DARTS Model

03:22 Meet Hillary: A Parent's Struggle with Phone Use

09:31 Setting Goals and Creating an Action Plan

16:58 Finding Support and Accountability

17:55 Engaging Family in the Journey

18:14 The Importance of Parental Vulnerability

21:07 Planning the Challenge

22:23 Tory's Struggle with Phone Use

26:24 Setting Goals with the DARTS Model

32:02 Creating a Support System

32:31 Conclusion and Call to Action