Why Do I Keep Reaching for My Phone? Two Moms Try to Change
Parenting in the Screen Age - The Screenagers Podcast
Release Date: 10/20/2025
Parenting in the Screen Age - The Screenagers Podcast
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info_outlineDo you ever catch yourself reaching for your phone when you don’t really need or want to, and wonder what that shows your kids? In this episode, Screenagers creator Dr. Delaney Ruston talks with two moms who decide it’s time to make a change.
They talk about the habits they want to shift and take on the One Small Change Challenge using a model called DARTS: Doable, Arrange for success, Reasons, Treats, and Support.
Follow along as Delaney walks Tory and Hillary through setting their own goals, and try using this model to set yours too. We’d love to hear if you do, so send a note to delaney@screenagersmovie.com.
It’s an honest look at what happens when parents face their own phone habits and try something new. In a future episode, we’ll check in to see how their challenges went.
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00:00 Introduction
01:25 The One Small Change Challenge
01:43 Introducing the DARTS Model
03:22 Meet Hillary: A Parent's Struggle with Phone Use
09:31 Setting Goals and Creating an Action Plan
16:58 Finding Support and Accountability
17:55 Engaging Family in the Journey
18:14 The Importance of Parental Vulnerability
21:07 Planning the Challenge
22:23 Tory's Struggle with Phone Use
26:24 Setting Goals with the DARTS Model
32:02 Creating a Support System
32:31 Conclusion and Call to Action