Ep 22. Do They Love You or... Do They Love What Happens to Them Because of You?
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: The fine line between someone loving you and someone loving who they ARE and who they BECOME around you. What you’ll learn in this episode: Why someone can genuinely enjoy being around you—and still be more attached to how they feel with you than to who you actually are. How to recognize the difference between someone who values you for your utility and someone who remains invested in you as a person. The subtle difference between someone who carries your company and someone who carries your story—and why one leaves you feeling familiar, while the other leaves...
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Ep 21 On Giving Everyone the Benefit of the Doubt but... You
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: Why it's high time you stop giving everyone but *yourself* the benefit of the doubt when something is off with that friendship, that job, that relationship etc. What you’ll learn in this episode: • Why the benefit of the doubt becomes expensive when you're the only one paying for it. • Why grace needs... discernment and why you don't have to overextend yourself under the guise of "giving the benefit of the doubt" • Why assuming everyone would handle a situation the way you would might be keeping you from seeing the truth (because yes, even though you...
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Ep 20. You Don't Have to Become Unrecognizable Before You Leave
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership. What you’ll learn in this episode: • The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you • Recognizing when to say WHEN... early, rather than waiting until you are completely exhausted and unrecognizable to make a decision for yourself • Why noticing that something is... off over and over again—and...
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Ep 19 "I've Already Invested Too Much" (Says Who?)
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: Staying in a relationship, job, career, or friendship longer than you planned because of the investment of....time even when you're stressed, unhappy, and dissatisfied and... how to gain the courage to choose different. What you’ll learn in this episode: • The sunk-cost fallacy and what you might be doing early on that causes you to stay even when you're questioning the relationship, the friendship, the business, or the job. • Why your pride might actually be keeping you in that relationship, job, career, or friendship-- NOT embarrasment, fear of what people may...
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Ep 18 Am I Overthinking it or is Something Off?
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: That moment when you're getting to know a friend, someone you're dating, a new workplace, someone you are considering collaborating with and you feel something is... off. You can't put your finger on it, but something isn't... right. But are you overthinking it? Are you being judgemental? Should you just... wait and see? What you’ll learn in this episode: • Why whimsical, optimistic girls often overthink a situation that they usually... are right about the first time. • The importance of leaning into your God-given discernment when it comes to clocking...
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Ep 17. How Allowing Embarrassment builds Agency and Confidence
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: Embarrassment-- it has a bad reputation. Let's fix that. This week, we introduce a fresh perspective on confidence, embarrassment, and why your willingness to look a little foolish may be one of your greatest assets. What you’ll learn in this episode: • The relationship women with a strong sense of agency and confidence have with embarrassment compared to those with lower self-esteem. • The relationship between pride and your capacity to experience embarrassment—and how both influence your willingness to pursue success. • How your capacity to experience...
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Ep 16 Routines and Consistency for the Spontaneous, Whimsical Girl
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: Why you're not "bad" at sticking to routines, inconsistent, or undisciplined... you just might need to tweak how you approach routines especially if you're a spontaneous, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type of gal. What you’ll learn in this episode: How to actually STICK to your routines even when they feel and seem, well, borringg. How routines actually bring out MORE of your playfulness and whimsy A whole new way to view consistency-- and no, this does not look like get it PERFECT or give up. Permission to breathe. IG:
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Ep 15. Protect Your Whimsy: Friendship Edition
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you’ll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and which friendship characteristics to look out for as a whimsy girl to support you in your joy and curiosity How to go about finding and cultivating friendships as an adult whimsy girl-- it's not as...
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Ep 14 The Return and Reclamation of Whimsy
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you’ll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, and who God created you to be How whimsy is spiritual and God's gift over your life and a key aspect of your life's purpose IG: Read More
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Ep 13 Betrayal, Grief, & Why No One Is Above the Program
Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
In this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you’ll learn in this episode: What "no one is above the program" when it comes to betrayal in relationships means and how it might actually help you process the betrayal and grief. Why betrayal isn't as personal as you think it is (even...
info_outlineWelcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)!
In this episode we chat:
The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner.
Think dropping the act of APPEARING a certain way and being HYPERVIGILANT to how others are perceiving you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
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How God slowed me down and showed me the power of presence-- inadvertently-- through two hobbies I picked up during my year-long hiatus: baking and gardening.
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The difference between how people experience you and how you experience others depending on whether you are oriented in presence or performance
- How presence vs. performance shows up in everyday life (in ways you might not even notice or think about!)
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Practical- and easy- steps to start cultivating presence in your life