Episode 11: The Subtle Ways We Exploit Each Other
Rethinking Porn Addiction - A Sexual Health Show
Release Date: 12/22/2020
Episode 23: Our Biggest Sexual Health Lessons
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We've been doing this show for around 6 months...
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Episode 22: What is a Sexual Health Plan?
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Now that we know the 6 Principles of Sexual Health, it's time to create our own Sexual Health Plan. Just like physical fitness, if we want to get healthy, it helps to develop a plan. The plan helps us move towards our goals, avoid damaging behaviors, and develop healthy habits. The plan typically involves some sort of support system. And our ability to succeed in following the plan means we need to have clarity around our values so that our plan is in alignment with them.
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Episode 21: Using the 6 Principles of Sexual Health as a Framework For Your Sexual Ethics
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A few weeks ago, Utah's governor signed a bill to make porn filters mandatory on any mobile device or tablet sold in the state. This prompted an interesting conversation within our group about sexual ethics. The conversation was so interesting that we decided to stop having it without sharing it with you... So we're having it here. Today we're talking about using the 6 Principles for Sexual Health as a framework for your sexual ethics.
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Episode 15: Rules of Engagement
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Do you want to eradicate shame, and rebuild trust? Well, telling the truth (or not keeping secrets) is only ONE part of honesty. The other part is making sure you have created an environment where your partner feels safe to be honest. In order for true honesty to exist, you HAVE to have rules of engagement for your relationship. Today we're going to talk about what your rules of engagement could look like, and how to have that conversation.
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Episode 14: Taking Responsibility for Your Sexual Shame
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Anyone who is struggling with porn problems is struggling with shame. You don't get one without the other. In our last episode, we talked about shame, where it comes from, and how it impacts us and our relationships. Today, we share the light at the end of the tunnel. We will talk about the courageous acts required to break free of your shame. We will show you how to start taking responsibility for your negative cycles. Don't miss this one!
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Episode 20: How do I Choose Pleasure and Keep my Faith?
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How Do I Find My Pleasure & Keep My Faith?
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Episode 19: Finding Meaning in a Porn Crisis
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There's a motif in Christianity of "bearing your cross."
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Episode 18: Deception or Discussion: How do You Want Your Porn Use to be Discovered?
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You keep it a secret, hoping nobody will ever find out.
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Episode 17: The Intersection of Honesty and Pleasure
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At the end of our last conversation, after we'd stopped recording, Hans shared an epiphany...
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Episode 16: What To Do When Someone Crosses Your Sexual Boundaries
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What To Do When Someone Crosses Your Sexual Boundaries
info_outlineExploitation is when a person leverages their power and control to get what they want.
Do you have an outcome or a goal in mind when you tune in to our show?
Is your goal to stop (or get your partner to stop) looking at porn?
Is your goal to convince yourself or your partner that porn is acceptable, and not a problem?
When you approach these sexual health conversations with a specific goal in mind, it's easy to subtly exploit your partner to get the outcome you desire. To find people or experts who validate your perspectives...
To use "helpful" resources as weapons to dismiss or undermine your partner's desires...
To use threats of severing the relationship to get what you want...
Exploitation undermines productive sexual health conversations at EVERY turn.
So, this week we're going to talk about how we subtly exploit each other, and how that exploitation kills curiosity and empathy and gets in the way of us creating strong, nourishing, and connecting sexual health agreements with the people we love.