10. How to Control Money so it Doesn't Control You | Round Table Discussion
Release Date: 06/12/2018
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info_outlineMoney is not important enough to let it control our life! So why not learn how to control our money so we gain more control of our life? But money is like water. It's a valuable resource necessary for life that can easily slip through our fingers. The key is to not let it slip through our fingers without our permission.
In this round table discussion, we share some of the things we have done to build money management paradigms and processes into the fabric of our individual and family finances. We reference The Gienger Good Stewardship plan that we developed to help debt proof our family and give our kids a solid financial foundation for their adult lives. Several times in this episode, we reference the following introduction to the plan which we used when we first presented these concepts in our family:
The Gienger Good Steward Plan
Gienger Family Mission Statement: To courageously lead generations of people to become devoted friends and sold out followers of Christ.
Gienger Family Vision Statement: To be intimate Friends of God and effective Kingdom Builders.
Gienger Good Steward Plan Purposes:
- To develop our kids into effective manager’s of God’s resources which He provides them so they can be generous on every occasion in ways that result in thankfulness to God.
- To teach our kids to be channels of God’s material blessings to the world so that people will be lead to become devoted friends and sold out followers of Christ.
- To help our kids learn to give, save and spend money wisely and avoid consumer debt in order to give them a solid financial future.
- To gradually turn over to our kids the money required for their care and support as members of our family.
- To trust them to be good stewards of a portion of the Gienger family resources.
- To provide a foundation of personal financial management training that will serve them well the rest of their lives.
Plan Guidelines
Salary and Other Income
While on the plan, kids will receive a monthly “salary” that will become theirs to manage. The amount of salary will be determined by the parents. Salaries will be subject to annual review by parents, or more often as deemed necessary. Salary will be reviewed and may be increased on the first day of each new school year at parent’s discretion according to the kid’s real needs and demonstrated ability to be an effective and wise financial manager. Note that additional money may be earned to supplement the base salary from income producing jobs…inside the home for specific pre-agreed extra tasks for extra money beyond normal “privileges” for being a part of this family.
Giving and Saving Requirements
Kids must give away at least 10 percent of the total salary and other income to things that directly build God’s Kingdom. They must save or invest at least 10 percent of total salary and other income in a real bank or other parent-approved investment vehicle. The balance of the monthly salary will be used according to the kid’s plan and in keeping with our family’s values. Note that kids can give additional money and/or save up more in short term savings for future larger purchases from additional earnings or under spending.
Financial Responsibility List
Kids will have a list of items and activities the parents will no longer pay for while the kid is receiving a monthly salary. The list is subject to review and revision at any time by the parents. Additional items will be added to the list on the first day of each new school year related to the increase in salary.
Home Privilege Responsibility List
Kids will continue to have a list of tasks they will be responsible to do as a privilege because they are part of the community of this family. Citations with fines may be required if these tasks aren’t done in the time or manner agreed.
Spending Plan and Record
Kids are asked to develop a plan for how much money they intend to spend in each category and keep a record of actual expenses by category. The next month salary will only be given after the record of all spending from the prior month is shown to parents.
Once It’s Gone, It’s Gone
Kids will not borrow money from anyone including parents, not even for five minutes. There will be no “advances” on ahead of pay day. It they run out of money before the next payday, that’s their choice, but there will be no more income until the next pay day.
Hands-Off
Parents will not criticize or interfere with the kid’s management decisions as long as the child follows these guidelines and demonstrates their ability to live and manage their salary according to the family’s values.
Graduation Date
Kids will graduate from the Gienger Good Steward Plan within two months after they are no longer full time students or when they move away from home, at which time their salary will cease.
EPISODE RESOURCES:
- If you'd like to use the cash envelop spending system that we reference, it is helpful to have an envelop for each budget category. That envelop gets funded at the beginning of each month with the monthly amount of cash budgeted for that category. All cash spent for items in that budget category comes out of that envelop and you write a something on the front that describes what it was spent for. We just used standard legal size envelops, ran them through the desktop printer and then punched holes in them so they could be held vertically in a regular three ring binder. If you want to create your own cash spending envelops, here's a link to our word document which you can customize and print. Envelop Spending Record
- At the end of each month you total up what you spent in each category as recorded on each envelop as you spent the money throughout the month. Then you write the total amount of spending for each category on a summary spreadsheet that shows your budgeted amount for each category and the actual amount that you actually spent that month in each category. At the beginning of each school year, we created a new list of expense items and monthly budget for those items that each child was responsible to pay for with their "salary" money. And we also listed which expenses that mom and dad would continue to pay for. Here's a link to the spreadsheet we used which you could customize for yourself. Spending Plans-Blank
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