233. A Life of Presence, Not Performance
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When we're wounded in life, we often start to "perform" for love and approval. But when what we do on the outside is rooted in pain, we will always end up with results that are not what we really want. In this episode, I share how pain and woundedness impair the way we relate to others, particularly as it relates to God's design for femininity and masculinity. But I also talk about how, through pain, we learn much about what it is to stop performing and be truly present, and the life-giving invitation to others that our lives become in the process. Check out Listen with Stephanie Rouse-...
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232. When You Forgive (But Still Feel Angry)
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Anger is one of the more complicated emotions we have to deal with. Not only does it not feel great, but sometimes it seems to remain- even after you've done the work to forgive someone. In this episode, I share about an experience that caused me to realize that something deeper is often hidden inside of our anger. I also share how thinking differently about your wounds can give you the patience and perspective you need to actually benefit in the aftermath. Check out Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my books and...
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231. Yes, God Wants to Help You with THAT.
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When it comes to the things we struggle with in life, sometimes we think they are too small for God to care about. Other times, we think they are so big that maybe we are just supposed to learn to take care of things on our own. Neither of those things are true. In today's episode, I share about a very small example of what it looks like to fully depend on God, and how it changes the way we look at challenges in life, both big and small. Check out Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my books and services at
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230. Do It Scared (But Do It Small)
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Have you ever uncovered a lie you've believed about yourself, only to struggle to believe the truth is true? Sometimes you can know something intellectually is true, and yet not believe it because it doesn't match your experience. And sometimes the only way to change that is to change your experience. In this episode, I'm sharing about confronting old ways of doing things and what it looks like to "do it scared." However, I also discuss how that doesn't always mean doing it big and that small steps can have major impact. Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF Follow me on...
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229. God Is NOT Mad at You
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Do you feel like God is mad at you? Like He's just "up there," watching and waiting for you to mess up? If so, you're not alone. Many Christians do. But that's not the truth of who God is, and that is not how He feels about you. In this episode, I share about the distorted perceptions we often have of God and how to figure out where they come from. I also share about the difference between condemnation and conviction and how even in your mistakes, you can see that God is SO for you. Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my...
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228. Healing Isn't Always Deep Work (Sometimes It's De-Light Work)
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While emotional and spiritual healing does involve deep work, it doesn't always have to be that way. Healing also involves the light work of learning to experience goodness again- to see it, savor it, and expect it in your everyday life. In this episode, I share the story behind my middle name and the secret treasure buried within it that I wouldn't unearth for four decades. I also discuss how the Lord leaves these intentional treasures for each of us, and how you can go in search of them too. In This Episode: Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my books and services at
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227. Why You Struggle to Believe What God Says About You
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You may know what the Bible says about you as a child of God, and yet- you may struggle to actually believe it's for you. In this episode I'm talking about the times when head knowledge doesn't sink down into your heart, and how to identify and stand against demonic torment you may be experiencing in the process. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF For more on forgiveness, check out episode 182, "Why Not Forgiving Them Will Cost You" or purchase a copy of Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my books and services at
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226. Bad Habit? Or Red Flag?
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Is what you're seeing a bad habit? Or a red flag? When you're healing from a heartbreak, it can be hard to tell the difference. In this episode, I share about the pitfalls of discerning red flags in friendships and romantic relationships, and how to deal with situations that are not so obvious. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my books and services at
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225. You DON'T Need to Process Everything.
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There are times when doing deep emotional processing can create more problems than it solves. In this episode, Michelle shares about the difference between productive and unproductive processing, and what to do when "feeling your feelings" turns into a full-scale spiral. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my books and services at
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224. Progress Over Perfection: Ben Zobrist on "Doing the Work" and What it Means for the Ones We Love
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We may use or hear the phrase "doing the work" but what that means can be somewhat unique for each of us. Champion Forward co-founder and retired professional baseball player Ben Zobrist opens up about his experiences with "doing the work" in his own life. We also talk about the role of pain in becoming emotionally aware, the benefits of processing emotions within safe community, and how to pass on the benefits of doing the work (even if imperfectly) with the ones you love. In This Episode: Learn more about Follow me on Instagram or Facebook Check out my books and services at
info_outlineDo you hate asking for help? Asking for help can be a humiliating experience, and receiving it can feel even worse.
In this episode, I share an experience where I had to face the shame of opening myself up to receive help, and what it taught me about the beautiful way God pours out His love on us through safe people.
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Safe Haven: A Devotional for the Abused & Abandoned
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