How Couples Can Resist Priority Drift In Your Relationship
Stronger in the Difficult Places
Release Date: 04/29/2025
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info_outlineIn this episode of Stronger in the Difficult Places, I’m joined by transformational relationship guide Nick Brancato for a powerful conversation on a subtle but common challenge in long-term relationships—priority drift.
Nick opens up about his own relational journey and how even the most connected couples can find themselves slowly drifting apart when life’s demands begin to compete with their shared values and intentions. We unpack what priority drift looks like, how it shows up in everyday life, and most importantly—how to resist it.
Nick shares his holistic approach to keeping love aligned, to help couples turn emotional disconnection into meaningful, sustainable growth. His insight is both tender and practical, offering tools for getting back in sync when you feel misaligned with your partner.
We talk about:
- What “priority drift” is and why it’s so common
- How to recognize the early signs of disconnection
- Rituals and practices to help couples realign
- Why emotional insight + actionable steps are the key to lasting change
Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been partnered for decades, this episode will help you pause, reflect, and recommit to what matters most—together.
About Nick Brancato:
Nick Brancato is a seasoned personal development coach and educator with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples connect, communicate, and thrive. With a master’s degree in education and a background as a Microsoft systems engineer, Nick blends practical tools with data-driven frameworks to guide clients through life’s challenges, including career shifts, financial pressures, and personal growth.
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