[AMY SAYS] EP#495 - 9 Ways to Control Your Tone of Voice + Communicate Effectively
Release Date: 10/23/2023
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info_outlineEver feel like you’re expressing yourself like a #boss and the other person is like, “Why are you yelling? Please don’t scream at me.” And then you’re all, “Whaaaa?! I’M NOT SCREAMING!” Or have you ever addressed something with your partner/bestie/co-worker and they told you your tone was a bit harsh? Um. Yeah. Me too.
Recently, a listener reached out to the show and asked how she could better control her voice when talking about serious issues with her husband. Often we think we are being crystal-fucking-clear about WHAT we are saying to another person, but in the passion of our emotions, we often lose sight of HOW we are expressing our thoughts.
In this episode, I spill nine, super-easy-to-implement communication hacks you can use to control your tone, not lose your ever-lovin’ mind, and communicate in a way that gets your point across and your needs met. Boom. Just like that.
This pod explores:
- My favorite body-related, go-to tactic to use in the middle of a heated conversation
- How to develop a “code word” or “phrase” to signal the convo is going off the rails
- What to do if you actually DO lose your shit and need to clean up your mess
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